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Polibeth · Feb 08, 2021 at 08:40 PM

I don't text daily with anyone - but it depends on the friendship for me. We usually just check in with each other if someone is going through something. If someone texted me several times a day *I* would be annoyed - but that's me.

Nicodemus sounds like a great cat @@

stopdog · Feb 08, 2021 at 08:41 PM

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Corn does surprisingly well in a quiche.

It is kind of fun to dehydrate as well. If you only half dehydrate it - it is a chewy corn snack. If you completely dehydrate it - it will break your teeth until you rehydrate it

unaluna · Feb 08, 2021 at 08:42 PM

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What? No it didn't - or at least no I didn't do that - good lord that would have been impossible for me. I really don't know what you are talking about.

Yeah you were in the library with the colonel and the candlestick. They respected you. They werent afraid to pick on me - they could smell fear.

stopdog · Feb 08, 2021 at 08:43 PM

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Yeah you were in the library with the colonel and the candlestick. They respected you. They werent afraid to pick on me - they could smell fear.

I am sorry to hear that.

unaluna · Feb 08, 2021 at 08:45 PM

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It is kind of fun to dehydrate as well. If you only have dehydrate it - it is a chewy corn snack. If you completely dehydrate it - it will break your teeth until you rehydrate it

Yeah how do people eat those Corn Nuts snacks? Next time i need a crown, i am going to just pull the tooth and stick in a Corn Nut (tm).

atisketatasket · Feb 08, 2021 at 09:03 PM

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Yeah you were in the library with the colonel and the candlestick. They respected you. They werent afraid to pick on me - they could smell fear.

But weren’t you the peacock lady with the lead pipe?

LonesomeTonight · Feb 08, 2021 at 09:23 PM

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Yeah, trying not to take things personally. That's a good topic for me.

It's something that's been a topic for me as well. To consider that if someone is in a bad mood, it might have nothing to do with me. And that if one is worried about it, it can be better just to ask. There have been times I've thought friends were annoyed with me, and they were like, "What are you talking about?" Or where I'd ask H and he'd say it was about work.

I suspect you're hypervigilant like me, which can mean we pick up on things that the other person doesn't even realize they're putting out. Like I might be able to detect their bad mood or that they're sad, when they might not even be fully aware of it. So it can be confusing to them if we ask them about it. As they're not as in touch with their emotions. But awkward as it can be, I've also come to learn that it can often be best to just ask, to check in with the other person. This is something that Dr. T has taught me, so a more recent lesson, and one I'm still working on.

unaluna · Feb 08, 2021 at 09:29 PM

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But weren’t you the peacock lady with the lead pipe?

I dont know! I have never played Clue!

atisketatasket · Feb 08, 2021 at 10:07 PM

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I dont know! I have never played Clue!

But you’re just like Eileen Brennan in the movie!

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It's something that's been a topic for me as well. To consider that if someone is in a bad mood, it might have nothing to do with me. And that if one is worried about it, it can be better just to ask. There have been times I've thought friends were annoyed with me, and they were like, "What are you talking about?" Or where I'd ask H and he'd say it was about work.

I suspect you're hypervigilant like me, which can mean we pick up on things that the other person doesn't even realize they're putting out. Like I might be able to detect their bad mood or that they're sad, when they might not even be fully aware of it. So it can be confusing to them if we ask them about it. As they're not as in touch with their emotions. But awkward as it can be, I've also come to learn that it can often be best to just ask, to check in with the other person. This is something that Dr. T has taught me, so a more recent lesson, and one I'm still working on.

Or, you think you’re picking up on things, but in fact you’re looking for things to think are your fault and beat yourself up about. Hypervigilance does not mean you’re in better touch with someone else’s emotions than they are.

And yeah it can be better to ask, under certain conditions, but when I am in a bad mood, one of the things guaranteed to make it worse is someone else assuming or asking if it’s really about them. No. My bad mood is about me. Let me wallow in it.

stopdog · Feb 08, 2021 at 10:12 PM

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I dont know! I have never played Clue!

watch the movie.It is a star studded disaster

stopdog · Feb 08, 2021 at 10:29 PM

If I am feeling bad because something happened to me, the last thing I want to do is take care of some other functioning adult's feelings about my feeling bad (children and animals are different). I have a lot of boundaries about that. And if someone assumes they know what is going on with me better than I do, they had better be super damn certain about it before they try to tell me what I am feeling. And even then it is a terrible idea. It isn't so much that I don't know - it is much more that it is no one else's business.

atisketatasket · 11:04 PM

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watch the movie.It is a star studded disaster

Huh, I just realized Eileen Brennan was also in Murder by Death.

Coincidentally I’m currently reading Capote’s In Cold Blood.

stopdog · Feb 08, 2021 at 10:42 PM

Those two movies sort of blended together in their potential for funny and their actual delivery.

Eileen Brennan was always funny.

unaluna · Feb 08, 2021 at 10:57 PM

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Huh, I just realized Eileen Brennan was also in Murder by Death.

Coincidentally I’mmcurrently reading Capote’s In Cold Blood.

Loooooove eileen brennan. Ive seen murder by death.

Also in cold blood. Read it the first time when i was faaaar too young. Pretty sure i did not realize it had been written so recently to my reading of it.

stopdog · Feb 09, 2021 at 09:46 AM

I have never read all of In Cold Blood. I have represented clients who acted it out.

SlumberKitty · Feb 09, 2021 at 10:49 AM

Here I was naively thinking that once I reached a year

Possible trigger:

with no SH

that I wouldn't need T anymore. I extremely naively thought it would get better from that point on. However, it seems just as bad as when I was first starting out on this journey. Pastor T said it would take 2 years to even be considered in recovery and I didn't believe him at the time but dagnabbit I think he is right. I hate it when he is right. Having to promise T not to act on anything really took me back to the beginning of my journey where we would have to do that sort of stuff. How can I be progressing forward and yet sliding back? Why have things become so difficult all the sudden? I thought they would get easier. Get past the year and then have a few ups and downs and get to year 2. Pfft. It's been all downhill since hitting a year. This particular crisis seems unending. I'm sure I am exaggerating and that it will indeed come to an end but the feeling that it won't is very real.

ArtieTheSequal · Feb 09, 2021 at 12:06 PM

Hugs, Kit.

SlumberKitty · Feb 09, 2021 at 12:08 PM

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Hugs, Kit.

Thanks Artie.

LonesomeTonight · Feb 09, 2021 at 01:57 PM

Also sending hugs to you, Kit. And my T has said before that improving isn't generally linear. So just that you're struggling right now doesn't mean you're right back where you were a year ago. You've still made a lot of progress, and feeling this way now doesn't take that away from you.

SlumberKitty · Feb 09, 2021 at 02:02 PM

Thanks LT!

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Polibeth Poohbah Member Since Jun 2014 Location: Earth Posts: 1,193 9 2,235 hugs given	Feb 08, 2021 at 08:40 PM #241 I don't text daily with anyone - but it depends on the friendship for me. We usually just check in with each other if someone is going through something. If someone texted me several times a day I would be annoyed - but that's me. Nicodemus sounds like a great cat @@
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LonesomeTonight Always in This Twilight Member Since Feb 2015 Location: US Posts: 20,768 (SuperPoster!) 9 75k hugs given	Feb 09, 2021 at 01:57 PM #259 Also sending hugs to you, Kit. And my T has said before that improving isn't generally linear. So just that you're struggling right now doesn't mean you're right back where you were a year ago. You've still made a lot of progress, and feeling this way now doesn't take that away from you.
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