L already replaced me

divine1966 · 02-22-2021, 11:51 AM

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Originally Posted by ScarletPimpernel

No, it's not about just a session going bad. This is for a crisis. I've had bad sessions before and can go home safely. This is when I either need to be hospitalized or at least get home safely somehow to have someone else watch over me. It's not like this is going to happen a lot. I've been with L for almost two years and the other Friday is the first time it happened. And L and I are working out the details of how she can help me to try to calm the situation down. So it's not like I have a breakdown and she pushes me out the door.

Please don't make this into an argument. This thread is not about who should be responsible to help me when I'm in a crisis. I was updating the situation and simply voiced frustration. I'm not even pushing the subject on anyone. I simply asked them.

Got you. I have no intents to argue. It just didn’t make sense to me but I see now what you meant in terms of crisis.

Shotokan · 02-22-2021, 12:34 PM

There is always the suicide and crisis center that can send an outreach counselor out to meet with you until you get stable.

ScarletPimpernel · 02-22-2021, 11:11 PM

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Originally Posted by Shotokan

There is always the suicide and crisis center that can send an outreach counselor out to meet with you until you get stable.

I'm not sure we have that here. We do have a crisis line that I can call, and have called before. That's actually part of the plan. If I can't talk to someone I know to help me on the drive home, I can call the crisis line to talk to me on the way home.

ScarletPimpernel · 02-22-2021, 11:15 PM

The overall plan is to NOT get me to the point of a crisis. This stuff (calling people, crisis line, 911, hospital) is for when we can't calm the crisis down. We're just trying to avoid 911 and/or hospital if at all possible.

ScarletPimpernel · 02-22-2021, 11:21 PM

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Originally Posted by elisewin

I'm glad your mom wants to be in your crisis team!

You mentioned not having anyone but T. Don't you think that would be something to work on? Do you work or volunteer? Do you have hobbies? Of course during covid it's harder to start something new, but it won't last forever. It sounds you really crave human contact and you seem like a nice caring individual who has lot to give also. Have you thought about finding more people to share your life with? You have mentioned a dog, maybe with the dog you can find people with same interests?

Your T sounds really great, but she is just a T. A therapist is of course important if you need one, but in the long run people that are not only in a professional relationship with you are what life is all about.

It's one of the things I'm working on in therapy. I'm just terrified of trusting people. I don't feel like I can depend on anyone unless they're a professional. That has been my experience. So it's hard for me to have relationships with people. Yes, I'm actually very good at being social. But letting anyone in...too scary. I need to work on myself and get myself under control before I dare take the risk of a friend.

ArtieTheSequal · 02-23-2021, 01:32 PM

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Originally Posted by ScarletPimpernel

It's one of the things I'm working on in therapy. I'm just terrified of trusting people. I don't feel like I can depend on anyone unless they're a professional. That has been my experience. So it's hard for me to have relationships with people. Yes, I'm actually very good at being social. But letting anyone in...too scary. I need to work on myself and get myself under control before I dare take the risk of a friend.

Y'know, I rather struggle with that too. L (my L, of course

) told me recently that I make it difficult for people to be in relationship with me because I won't say how I feel. Or if I do try to I always stick on the "i don't know" at the end so people really can't be sure where I'm at about anything. I think she's only gotten to know me as well as she has because we've worked so deeply with my dreams. And why it's taken 9+ years for her to know me as well as she does.

Shotokan · 02-23-2021, 03:30 PM

Would you consider going to a Day Treatment program? They do a lot of planning on how to avoid getting into a crisis among other types of therapies (CBT, DBT, etc).

ScarletPimpernel · 02-23-2021, 05:41 PM

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Originally Posted by Shotokan

Would you consider going to a Day Treatment program? They do a lot of planning on how to avoid getting into a crisis among other types of therapies (CBT, DBT, etc).

I don't really need that. That's what L and I are working on.

Going to the hospital would be worst-case scenario, and I would only be to get me through the breakdown. At most, 24 hours just to get anxiety meds, calm down, and sleep in a safe place. Then L and I can figure out the next steps.

If let's say someone (person or pet) dies, then I'll probably need to go to a crisis house. But that's a different type of crisis than what I'm talking about.

ScarletPimpernel · 02-25-2021, 07:24 PM

L gave me a new slot for Fridays and said that that and my Tuesday slot are indefinitely mine. I feel better and I'm still a little bitter about my old time slot. But L has me on the schedule all the way through June. 8 sessions will be Vsee, but the rest are in-person. I really appreciate her fitting me into a permanent spot. She agreed that it would help reduce the tension and anxiety to give me my own slot.

LonesomeTonight · 02-25-2021, 08:49 PM

I'm glad she gave you a regular slot, Scarlet.

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ScarletPimpernel Elder ScarletPimpernel has no updates. Member Since: Nov 2013 Location: US Posts: 6,585 (SuperPoster!) 2,371 hugs given	Re: L already replaced me The overall plan is to NOT get me to the point of a crisis. This stuff (calling people, crisis line, 911, hospital) is for when we can't calm the crisis down. We're just trying to avoid 911 and/or hospital if at all possible. __________________ "Odium became your opium..." ~Epica
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ScarletPimpernel Elder ScarletPimpernel has no updates. Member Since: Nov 2013 Location: US Posts: 6,585 (SuperPoster!) 2,371 hugs given	Re: L already replaced me L gave me a new slot for Fridays and said that that and my Tuesday slot are indefinitely mine. I feel better and I'm still a little bitter about my old time slot. But L has me on the schedule all the way through June. 8 sessions will be Vsee, but the rest are in-person. I really appreciate her fitting me into a permanent spot. She agreed that it would help reduce the tension and anxiety to give me my own slot. __________________ "Odium became your opium..." ~Epica
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