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Roses are falling.
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#201
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Have you tried seeing someone online? __________________ |
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LonesomeTonight, Quietmind 2
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Always in This Twilight
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#202
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I found it due to feeling transference for ex-marriage counselor. I didn't find him attractive at first, but it grew out of the transference. (And if I look at a photo of him now, which I haven't done in a while, I also don't think of him as attractive.) Meanwhile, my current T, Dr. T, I found to be attractive immediately. To the point that my first thought when I met him was "Uh-oh, he's attractive in person, too. Am I making a terrible mistake?" (I did tell Dr. T this at one point, and he was amused. And said he hopes "Am I making a terrible mistake?" isn't most people's first thought upon meeting him.) So I think it's common to be attracted to a T, whether it's due to transference or someone you would just find attractive if, say, you say them on the street. Or from getting to know them, like someone becoming more attractive to you over time (or less attractive, for that matter). |
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Always in This Twilight
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#203
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The smiling makes me think of ex-MC, who always seemed very happy to see us, lots of smiling. Dr. T, who used to work with him, so knows him fairly well, said he almost seemed *too* happy to see people. Suggesting it was a bit fake and/or over the top. |
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SlumberKitty
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unaluna
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Always in This Twilight
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#204
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Hugs, Lemon. That sounds like a good plan. I hope you're able to see a psychiatrist soon. Is there anyone you can see through your school? My university had mental health services, and I saw a T there on a few occasions (was free to us). Not sure if that's a thing in the UK. |
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Always in This Twilight
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#205
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Haha, my H has a beard that he was growing out during the pandemic. It was getting a bit, er, unkempt looking, and he recently trimmed it back some, to my relief. I had tried not to saying anything about it, despite thinking he was starting to look like a stereotypical homeless person, because it's not like I'm exactly keeping up with my hair too well. I also made the comment, after he trimmed it, that I imagine a longer beard makes it harder to get good protection from a face mask. Dr. T also has a beard, and he tried to grow it out some during the pandemic. I'd mentioned H growing his out, too, and Dr. T asked me, "What's the secret to getting it to grow down, rather than out? Mine's more like a chin Afro." Which amused me. Of course I didn't know the answer, though mentioned H using beard oil or balm (I imagine maybe it's because Dr. T has wavy hair, while H's is straight? Or does that not affect facial hair?) So he ended up trimming it back such that it's a pretty close trim. ETA: Ex-MC was clean-shaven--I think a beard would have looked silly on him, but who knows? |
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Roses are falling.
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#206
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The hospital doc did get back to me (I emailed at 1 something am, but I realize that I wasn't very articulate and just now asked if he knew anyone who could see me sooner . __________________ |
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Quietmind 2
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Roses are falling.
Member Since May 2017
Location: Seattle.
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#207
To see what all the beard fuss is about. If your a woman you can make your own here:
Mr Twit's beard __________________ |
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Poohbah
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Lemoncake
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Roses are falling.
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#209
The private psych got back to me, earliest appointment is 4-8 weeks away.
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Always in This Twilight
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#210
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Magnate
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#211
Unfortunately, that's about average (if not a bit quicker than average) for a first appointment. Make the appointment and then see if they can put you on a waiting list in case of cancellations.
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Roses are falling.
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Location: Seattle.
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#212
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I'll email him back after I get an mail from the other hospital psychiatrist. __________________ |
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Grand Magnate
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#213
Long term T lost my check. She was mortified because next day the building cleaner found it. She was concerned about my confidentiality.
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Grand Magnate
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#214
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She is such a great therapist just a not so great business person. We agree that as long as I send it, I have done my part and the rest is up to her. __________________ |
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atisketatasket, LonesomeTonight, Quietmind 2
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Grand Magnate
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#215
My couch is now upside down (like my life. Woke up at 2am 6o my son screaming that the toilet was leaking. We have an upflush system and one of thre connections broke. What a mess!!!
Can this tired women with a very sore shoulder jump on the couch here?? On a positive note, we started our spring cleaning because of the mess. __________________ |
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Writing my way through...
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#216
So I have been researching autonomous complexes a la Jung lately, since L's comment a couple weeks ago about autonomous complexes and personality or whatever. I did mention it to her on Friday about how much I didn't like what she'd said, but that I'd moved into a place of curiosity about it, curious about why I didn't like it and just curious in general, and she explained a little where she was coming from which was helpful. And the stuff I'm reading is just fascinating, I'm all dang it now I want to talk more with her about it but I have to wait 2 weeks. Well I know I could call her and ask to come sooner but I don't need to, I figure I'll just keep reading and see how much I can learn/understand in the next 2 weeks so I can go in and have a semi-intelligent conversation about it then. Maybe one of the organizations I have been doing zoom workshops with have something coming up about complexes, that would be great. I'll have to look!
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Magnate
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#217
So the day is finally here... tomorrow morning I go in for my gastric bypass surgery. I should be excited, but I'm just overwhelmed by the number of things I have to get done today!
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underdog is here
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#218
__________________ Please NO @ Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live. Oscar Wilde Well Behaved Women Seldom Make History - Laurel Thatcher Ulrich Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional. |
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underdog is here
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#219
__________________ Please NO @ Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live. Oscar Wilde Well Behaved Women Seldom Make History - Laurel Thatcher Ulrich Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional. |
Tweaky Dog
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#220
Good luck, Mobius!
__________________ 'Somewhere up above the great divide Where the sky is wide, and the clouds are few A man can see his way clear to the light 'You have all the grace you need for today, and today is all that matters.' - Steve Austin |
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