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Elder Harridan x-hankster
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#141
Aaaahhhh!!!! I eat Batchelor tomato soup!!!
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#142
For anyone interested in my ongoing T saga:
Psychiatrist spoke with T. She told him to back off, loosen up. He said he didn't mean to throw down a gauntlet... but he did. She said he really wants to keep working with me, that he and I have done years of good work, that he wants to work out this stalemate. She said he must have just panicked. She said that T and I shouldn't try to reconstruct what happened and why everything got so messed up, that we should just try to go forward. She advised that I try to take a half-step forward him and see what happens... and if it gets messed up again, she'll take another crack at it. I'm "seeing" him via Zoom in a few hours. I dunno about this. |
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underdog is here
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#143
I think that is a crock of **** and I would not let him profit off of me any longer. His feelings about it are of no relevance at all.
But good luck if it is what you want __________________ Please NO @ Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live. Oscar Wilde Well Behaved Women Seldom Make History - Laurel Thatcher Ulrich Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional. |
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Luna's offical mini me.
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#144
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Do you also want to work this out? What would half a step look like for you? __________________ "Love, like life, flows Through the heart. Feel the thrill of the flow And say nothing." |
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Location: CA
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#145
__________________ Dum Spiro Spero IC XC NIKA |
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Grand Magnate
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#146
What exactly was it in this situation for him to panic about? And he most certainly threw down a gauntlet. I hope your session goes well and you can negotiate a truce.
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Writing my way through...
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Location: In the desert
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#147
I slept in by about 2 hours (blissful!) this morning, got up and fed the cats then went for a walk, day 10 of my 10 day commitment to myself, was almost 1.5 miles. Then got ready and went to dr appointment, follow up about my shoulder after I got the xray. She rescheduled the first one that had been for right after. Anyway she confirmed what I thought I understood from the online report, that there's no tear, and she is calling it osteoarthritis and is sending me to physical therapy. I never heard from the PT place so she's contacting them again. Now I'm back home puttering around the house, til it's time to go to t.
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#148
Is your shoulder still as painful, Artie? My sister has a bad time with her back. Her doctors said it is from carrying five children. Plus she has scoliosis like me. She is trying acupuncture and cupping. The cupping looks painful but she says it's not. She also goes to a chiropractor. She did physical therapy and pain management. Now she is doing pain management and alternative therapies. Just wondered if you had tried anything like that for your shoulder? (Not saying you should or shouldn't, just that there are options out there if you don't hear back from the PT place.)
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#149
My sister has osteoarthritis in the back. I forgot to say that part.
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#150
Got paid today so paid some bills. I paid my car registration earlier this week which I feel good about. It isn't due until May but I had the money so I wanted to pay it. I have to get my taxes done, hopefully next week. And then I will be set. Nothing else hanging over my head.
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Writing my way through...
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#151
I just got an email that a concert we'd bought tickets for before the pandemic (Foreigner), that was pushed out and then put on indefinite hold, has now been cancelled and a refund is being sent to our credit card. It's just as well, since they've had our money for over a year!
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Always in This Twilight
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#152
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Aw, that sucks. We had tickets to one concert (The National) from last summer where we had the option to get a refund, get a gift card to the venue, or donate it to the venue. I hadn't actually been to that venue before, and they were fairly expensive ticket, so I got a refund. For another concert (New Order and Pet Shop Boys) that was supposed to be last September, they rescheduled it to this coming September, so I kept the tickets. It's an outdoor venue, so I really hope it still happens. |
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#153
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Always in This Twilight
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#154
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I hope it goes well, Chihiro, but I'd be feeling very uncertain, too. He clearly did give you an ultimatum. And I feel like you do need to talk through what happened in order to move forward (that's how I am, anyway) rather than just sweeping it under the rug. |
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Always in This Twilight
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#155
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#156
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It sounds like is the psychiatrist saying he panicked, not the therapist himself, but if that’s accurate as to his POV, I agree, what is he panicking about? His answer would probably be something like he’s concerned for chihiro’s mental health, but I think the real danger to that in this situation was the therapist himself. Chihiro, you can choose to move on if that’s what you want, but me personally, I would need an apology and some sense the therapist understood the damage they had done and had thought about how they could adjust their approach before I did that. I mean, there’s mistakes and then there’s throwing down gauntlets. Hope it goes/went well. __________________ The secret to eternal youth is arrested development.—Alice Roosevelt Longworth |
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underdog is here
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#157
I would not accept an apology from this guy - I would not trust it. It would be like my cat apologizing to the dead bird's family - it would be insincere and probably "I am sorry you are upset I ate Bill the Bird" rather than "I am sorry I was an idiot and will stop trying to control you" - and even then I would not believe he meant it. Even a therapist is usually able to come up with a lie
__________________ Please NO @ Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live. Oscar Wilde Well Behaved Women Seldom Make History - Laurel Thatcher Ulrich Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional. |
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#158
Its the difference betwwen want and need if i had needed chocolate i would have just gone and got it. I have other sweeties in the house so i dont really need it.
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#159
Well, that was a colossal bust. Psychiatrist made it sound like T had budged a little but he absolutely had not. Eff the both of them.
I texted my BF trying to explain why I am sad about this, and I don’t feel like he gets it. (How could he; he’s a pretty reserved guy who could never open up to a therapist.) I’m okay with him not getting it, but then he said, “don’t be sad” which is just the dumbest thing in the face of the earth to say to someone who is sad. Now I’m all spinning out and worried that BF will break up with me when I tell him the extent of my mental health stuff and then I’ll be T-less and BF-less to boot and then I’ll just be so so so sad. |
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Writing my way through...
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#160
Got home from my session a little big ago, 'twas a really good one. Another one of those that the time goes by super fast. I told her (quite animatedly, I was excited) a little about the workshop last weekend, and then we did some dream work which took most of the session since I had brought in 9 dreams (had one last night too!) Lots of good material to work with. It amazes me that we could discuss 9 whole dreams in less than an hour. Then again my dreams have really changed since October, they're shorter, less chaotic, and single-subject now. Also, this going down to twice a month is working out really well, I think.
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