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Had one of those sessions where I felt like what came out of my mouth made no sense and was super trivial and silly. Kept worrying that T might think, “why is she wasting my time with this?”
I’ve had sessions where T and I didn’t connect as well as we could have before, but I felt particularly silly after this one. I know it’s normal to sometimes have sessions like these, especially when most other sessions are great and productive and deep and meaningful etc. I might bring it up with T at our next appointment if I’m not able to let go of the disappointment before then. I just don’t know what came over me...I had been looking forward to the session all week. If you experienced this before, how do you bounce back from it? I guess therapy is above else a relationship, and like in any relationship, there will be meaningful conversations and less meaningful conversations. I’m not surprised by that, I guess I’m just a bit miffed at how I was suddenly incapable of finding something important to explore. It felt like the minute I touched on something good, instead of going deeper, I simply changed the topic. Almost like I expected him to read my mind. Do you usually find yourself able to stick to one main topic in sessions, or do you jump around from one topic to the next? How do you organise your thoughts?! I find that even if I write stuff down, it’s hard to stick to a plan, even a vague one. |
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I hate those kind of sessions! I had one recently. I jumped around so many topics because I felt like I had nothing good to say. I wished he could give me direction but he just let me carry on.
I figured that it happens because we just need a break from all the deep sessions that have happened previously. It sucks when it feels like a waste of time. |
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I have sessions like that especially of I have had a couple of very intense appointments. Sometimes I will start thr appointment by saying I need a lighter session. The other times sessions like that happen are when I may be feeling down and not have the energy to go all in that week. T and I have discussed it and she believes appointments like that could actually be helpful for either relationship building or helping her understand where I am at. Often I think I wasted the hour but remind myself that sometimes I need that break but still need her support and the consistency of the appointment.
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No -but I had appointments where everything the therapist said was meh. In fact, it happened so much, I told the woman to stop talking. I don't think you can waste a therapist's time -they get paid. I don't concern myself about what the therapist thinks or feels or wants. It is not relevant to me. I would be more concerned about what the client wanted.
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In general, I stick with one topic per session. And in 2+ years I've had plenty of "meh" sessions. But you know, that's typical of long-term therapy...the more mellow, or even blah, sessions and the more intense, charged sessions. Sometimes the blah sessions can go on for weeks. I think it's an excellent topic to bring up with your T.
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