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unaluna · Apr 08, 2021 at 01:39 PM

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Originally Posted by susannahsays

Artie, that seems like a careless remark on the part of your therapist. I doubt she considers you an actual stalker.

Altho sometimes i felt like my t would pay over-attention to things i said. Like, was i serious about killing somebody? I think they are just not wanting to miss anything, not wanting to be seduced by our charm, by their feelings for us. So they put their professional hat back on for a second, to check themselves. KWIM?

Eta - which is to say, i agree with susannah. Artfully careless, and also i really doubt.

stopdog · Apr 08, 2021 at 01:42 PM

One of the many benefits of being a lesbian was not having to deal with birth control.

I once asked the therapist if she was stalking me and I was mostly kidding. I did not really think she was stalking me but I did want her to know I expected her to stay out of my real life. No one thought I would stalk one of them - I didn't like either enough to bother. IF one on them asked me such a thing as a serious matter, I would probably burst out laughing at their insane narcissism - like they thought I would find them so fascinating and that I don't have a life or something. But in general, I would take such a statement as a joke. I think any of it is fine unless you try to move in with them, join them on vacation, or hang out at their kid's school. Otherwise I would not worry about it.

ArtieTheSequal · Apr 08, 2021 at 02:03 PM

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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight

Artie, I imagine your T was joking. And if that makes you a stalker, then I am one as well. Though I'm more likely to look at the site where Dr. T has a sports psychology column (including pics of him) because the photo on his professional website doesn't look like him at all.

Thanks LT. I don't think either of us are stalkers.

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Originally Posted by StressedMess

Art, my kids (and I, because of their repetition) refer to looking at things online as stalking. My oldest said she was "stalking Torrid's website waiting for something to go on sale." I say "I'm stalking the mailman" when I order stuff and check the tracking progress while I anxiously await my package, pray it doesn't get routed through a weird hub, and snatch it off the porch before the porch pirates get to it. My youngest said she was stalking her friend's Instagram for cat pictures.

Maybe it was a joke that fell flat?

But you absolutely don't have to beat yourself up for looking at her public profile, so please take it easy on yourself.

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Thanks Stressed. I've sure I've used the word myself in a non-serious way. I guess I'm still just so afraid that I really am 'bad' that it felt so judging coming from her even if she was joking. I'm trying.

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Originally Posted by susannahsays

Artie, that seems like a careless remark on the part of your therapist. I doubt she considers you an actual stalker.

Thanks susannah.

ArtieTheSequal · Apr 08, 2021 at 02:05 PM

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Originally Posted by unaluna

Altho sometimes i felt like my t would pay over-attention to things i said. Like, was i serious about killing somebody? I think they are just not wanting to miss anything, not wanting to be seduced by our charm, by their feelings for us. So they put their professional hat back on for a second, to check themselves. KWIM?

Eta - which is to say, i agree with susannah. Artfully careless, and also i really doubt.

thanks una, maybe it's that. who knows. I'm going to try to let it go now.

Except for, I will never ever look at the stupid thing again.

unaluna · Apr 08, 2021 at 02:05 PM

Also i agree with stressed mess, it has totally entered the vernacular. Those were excellent exemplars. Is that the right word?

unaluna · Apr 08, 2021 at 02:07 PM

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Originally Posted by ArtieTheSequal

thanks una, maybe it's that. who knows. I'm going to try to let it go now.
Except for, I will never ever look at the stupid thing again.

Did you miss my point? THEY are SO in love with US!!!

ArtieTheSequal · Apr 08, 2021 at 02:35 PM

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Originally Posted by unaluna

Did you miss my point? THEY are SO in love with US!!!

I did not catch that, no.

And I also see sd cringing over there at the notion.

atisketatasket · Apr 08, 2021 at 02:36 PM

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Originally Posted by daisydid

We have a mystery at our house currently. I recently started cross stitching again, and when I’m finished for the time I wrap up my project with the needle in it, still threaded. I opened up my project today and the needle was nowhere to be found. H and I are keeping our shoes on and I hope the cat doesn’t find it first. I’m out until this evening and when I get home there are a couple of other places I thought to search.

New cat recently walked off with my mother's stitch counter (it's also a knitting placeholder) and refuses to disclose its whereabouts.

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Originally Posted by unaluna

Did you miss my point? THEY are SO in love with US!!!

Pretty sure they love us for our money. At least that's why Info loves me.

ArtieTheSequal · Apr 08, 2021 at 02:46 PM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

New cat recently walked off with my mother's stitch counter (it's also a knitting placeholder) and refuses to disclose its whereabouts.

Pretty sure they love us for our money. At least that's why Info loves me.

Good point, there. I do not even want to know how many thousands of dollars I have paid her over the years.

I think that buys me (extremely giant quotation marks coming) "permission" to look at her stupid very public what amounts to advertising of her services online occasionally.

atisketatasket · Apr 08, 2021 at 02:46 PM

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Originally Posted by ArtieTheSequal

Good point, there. I do not even want to know how many thousands of dollars I have paid her over the years.

I think that buys me (extremely giant quotation marks coming) "permission" to look at her stupid very public what amounts to advertising of her services online occasionally.

That's the spirit!

SlumberKitty · Apr 08, 2021 at 02:48 PM

Artie, I recently looked at Former T's Psychology Today profile which is how I guessed she had gone back to practicing. It had a new picture of her. Then I went to the website of her practice and new picture of her. I don't think there is anything wrong with it. It is public information. Don't beat yourself up over it. HUGS Kit

ArtieTheSequal · Apr 08, 2021 at 02:49 PM

So PT went pretty well today, he said I've already got a little improvement in range of motion in that shoulder, from doing the exercises every day. That's encouraging so I'm going to keep doing them.

SlumberKitty · Apr 08, 2021 at 02:53 PM

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Originally Posted by ArtieTheSequal

So PT went pretty well today, he said I've already got a little improvement in range of motion in that shoulder, from doing the exercises every day. That's encouraging so I'm going to keep doing them.

Hooray Artie!

ArtieTheSequal · Apr 08, 2021 at 02:54 PM

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Originally Posted by SlumberKitty

Artie, I recently looked at Former T's Psychology Today profile which is how I guessed she had gone back to practicing. It had a new picture of her. Then I went to the website of her practice and new picture of her. I don't think there is anything wrong with it. It is public information. Don't beat yourself up over it. HUGS Kit

Thanks, Kit.

ArtieTheSequal · Apr 08, 2021 at 03:11 PM

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Originally Posted by SlumberKitty

Hooray Artie!

That was pretty much what I said! Hooray!

He had me work with these stretchy bands today that look like humongous rubber bands that I could really feel. It almost hurt at the time, but now, my shoulder is feeling the best it has felt in months. I ordered a set of these bands (different tensions or whatever) off of Amazon just now so I can keep doing that one at home too. If I keep this up I'll be able to put my bra on again normally instead of putting it on backwards and sliding it around. Oops was that TMI? haha

NP_Complete · Apr 08, 2021 at 03:32 PM

Don't you hate those days when you're trying to hook it behind your back and you just can't catch the eye or you keep getting the wrong one? Sometimes I get frustrated and put it on backwards too.

SlumberKitty · Apr 08, 2021 at 03:34 PM

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Originally Posted by NP_Complete

Don't you hate those days when you're trying to hook it behind your back and you just can't catch the eye or you keep getting the wrong one? Sometimes I get frustrated and put it on backwards too.

That's why I tend to wear sports bras. I can't handle the hook and eye thing. Who thought of that anyway? Could it be more difficult?

Lemoncake · Apr 08, 2021 at 03:42 PM

You can also buy bras that close from the front!!

LonesomeTonight · Apr 08, 2021 at 03:47 PM

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Originally Posted by SlumberKitty

That's why I tend to wear sports bras. I can't handle the hook and eye thing. Who thought of that anyway? Could it be more difficult?

I can't deal with sports bras that don't have any sort of hook on them. I tend to get stuck putting them on. Once, I was in the dressing room of an Under Armour outlet store and thought I'd need to call someone in to help me, because I was completely stuck with a bra halfway on. I managed to get my way out of it.

Daffydungle · Apr 08, 2021 at 04:01 PM

I have always put my bra on backwards and twisted it around as thats how my mum taught me. When i first started going out with my ex he was surprised as he had never seen another woman put a bra on like that. It is so much easier except inthe summer when i am sweaty and the bra gets stuck and i rip the stitching yanking it around. I must look into sports bras.

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unaluna Elder Harridan x-hankster Member Since Jun 2011 Location: Milan/Michigan Posts: 39,843 (SuperPoster!) 12 66.3k hugs given	Apr 08, 2021 at 02:05 PM #405 Also i agree with stressed mess, it has totally entered the vernacular. Those were excellent exemplars. Is that the right word?

ArtieTheSequal Writing my way through... Member Since Feb 2020 Location: In the desert Posts: 7,224 (SuperPoster!) 4 5,756 hugs given	Apr 08, 2021 at 02:49 PM #412 So PT went pretty well today, he said I've already got a little improvement in range of motion in that shoulder, from doing the exercises every day. That's encouraging so I'm going to keep doing them.

NP_Complete Grand Magnate Member Since Feb 2017 Location: the upside down Posts: 3,807 7 6,349 hugs given	Apr 08, 2021 at 03:32 PM #416 Don't you hate those days when you're trying to hook it behind your back and you just can't catch the eye or you keep getting the wrong one? Sometimes I get frustrated and put it on backwards too.

Lemoncake Luna's offical mini me. Member Since May 2017 Location: Cafe Nervosa. Posts: 9,692 (SuperPoster!) 6 10.2k hugs given	Apr 08, 2021 at 03:42 PM #418 You can also buy bras that close from the front!! __________________ "Love, like life, flows Through the heart. Feel the thrill of the flow And say nothing."

Daffydungle Poohbah Member Since Apr 2020 Location: Nowhere Posts: 1,257 3 451 hugs given	Apr 08, 2021 at 04:01 PM #420 I have always put my bra on backwards and twisted it around as thats how my mum taught me. When i first started going out with my ex he was surprised as he had never seen another woman put a bra on like that. It is so much easier except inthe summer when i am sweaty and the bra gets stuck and i rip the stitching yanking it around. I must look into sports bras.