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Old 04-07-2021, 08:19 PM   #351
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I would guess that he wants you to move on from using him as an intermediary step in analyzing your relationships with others and learn how to directly work on those relationships without thinking about him too. Itíll make your real world relationships more immediate. Itís like avoiding distancing when writing. Itís like taking the training wheels off a kidís bike.

I donít think heís asking you to take care of him at all.
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Old 04-07-2021, 08:25 PM   #352
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The thing today is that he recognized how some issues I've dealt with regarding him and our relationship have helped me with my outside life (like, I have similar concerns in my relationship with him that I do regarding friends and family). But he said he'd rather I leave him out of it if possible, to just skip that step in talking to him if I have a realization about something.

And in a way, I get that, but if talking about the step in between (involving him) helps me, then I don't see what's so bad, aside from his personal discomfort, about mentioning it in the process of talking about things. Do I really need to protect/take care of the therapist that much? Isn't that part of the point of paying them? For them to take care of their own stuff? Otherwise, how is it that much different from a friendship, except that I'm also paying for it?
Didn't this guy tell you he isn't psychodynamic in approach? Perhaps if you consult another one, look for that if it is what you think will work for you
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Old 04-07-2021, 08:44 PM   #353
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Old 04-07-2021, 10:05 PM   #354
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I was just on a group text with my mom and 2 sisters and my one sister said something that totally triggered something in me and i snapped back "i will just shut up then" and turned off my phone. now i feel like an idiot. what the hell is wrong with me?!
I didnt realize you had 2 sisters. I would not have survived that!

@@ - thats why ts wanna see you (ie me) several times a week, to speed that up. Im not sure who the slow one is, tho.
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I didnt realize you had 2 sisters. I would not have survived that!

@@ - thats why ts wanna see you (ie me) several times a week, to speed that up. Im not sure who the slow one is, tho.

Yes - and they are twins! They are 5 years younger than me.

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I'm watching an old episode of the x-files. man, mulder and scully look like college kids!
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I'm watching an old episode of the x-files. man, mulder and scully look like college kids!
What really gets to me is watching Alfred Hitchcock come out, and Im thinking - he's not that fat! Why did i think he was so fat?!
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@@ - thats why ts wanna see you (ie me) several times a week, to speed that up. Im not sure who the slow one is, tho.
No. 3 is the only therapist who wanted to see me more than once a week. Guess they canít deal with me more than once every 168 hours.
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I am fairly loose on cleaning stuff. I don't usually wash my cast iron even with water (there are a few rare exceptions) - I scrub with salt and reheat with oil. But every time cleaning cast iron comes up on some of my cooking forums - it is the biggest xxxx show. I am most amused by the hyper clean people who insist on soap - the soap insisters get all unhinged at everyone else - even though they are not eating from those skillets.

I finally told our last exchange student to stop using my cast iron pan (and provided an alternative pan) because he...well, his gf who came to cook for him every weekend...didn't clean mine properly even after I showed them how to clean and oil it.


I came home one day and they had used it and then scrubbed it into ruin. It has taken me a year to get it back to normal and I can still see scratch marks. I'm not even sure how they did that. But they stopped using it after that, so I guess they learned why I'd asked them not to use it.
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Just got back from the ER with my youngest, who has a kidney infection. I have to work tomorrow, but I won't be able to go the whole day on 3.5 hours sleep. My boss would tell me not to come in, but I was out unexpectedly all day with my oldest at the dentist. Boss had to cover one of my reports, which is a very un-boss-like thing to do and I feel terrible about it.

Good thoughts from the couch are welcome and much appreciated.

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