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#841
In therapist-speak, a “devaluing” client is one who criticizes the therapist’s methods and/or appears to hate the therapist’s guts.
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#842
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Something like that. Anyway she said she doesn't think that at all of me. That was when I got all emotional, after she said she doesn't think that of me. I was so relieved I cried. I'm glad I asked though and shared how miserable I had been making myself over the thought of it, because it led to a good discussion about my fear of being wrong or bad or whatever. She asked "When are you just going to let that go?" I said, "I don't know." For once, she didn't call me on the "I don't know". |
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#843
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If that is all it is -then of course. I would think every thinking person does it then. But you have to hand it to them - they are good - who else can convince people to hand them money to do nothing and convince clients to accept the labels placed on them by those scam artists. I am most appalled when clients apologize to those grifters for being abused by the grifter.
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#845
Wait, is only the therapist judging what devaluing is? I call bias.
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#846
__________________ Please NO @ Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live. Oscar Wilde Well Behaved Women Seldom Make History - Laurel Thatcher Ulrich Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional. |
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Poohbah
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#847
Hugs @chihirochild. Sending you care.
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Poohbah
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#848
Glad you and L sorted it out, @ArtieTheSequal.
@SlumberKitty, I don't get panic attacks but I get really anxious after I send an email to T. Even though she only responds to like one third of them. |
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#849
Thanks QM.
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#850
I finally ordered a new screen protector for my phone after I cracked the last one that day I fell down outside the dollar store. I don't know why it took me this long to order a new one! I pulled off the old one just now because I still hadn't checked to make sure the phone itself didn't crack, and the screen is perfect under the spider-web-looking screen protector. Whew!
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#851
L wants to teach me DEAR MAN skill. And I feel insulated and 100% resistant. I try so hard to communicate clearly, directly, expressing myself using "I" statements, try to use dialectics, etc. I don't know why I have to learn these stupid acronyms.
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#852
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I'm sorry if it's I'm wrong about L, Artie. Last edited by Quietmind 2; Apr 16, 2021 at 09:28 PM.. |
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#853
Maybe this would help explain panic attacks
Why Do I Feel Like I'm Dying During a Panic Attack? __________________ Please NO @ Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live. Oscar Wilde Well Behaved Women Seldom Make History - Laurel Thatcher Ulrich Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional. |
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#854
So doesn’t everybody here qualify as a therapist-devaluer? We’ve almost all questioned or criticized their methods.
I bought an under-desk elliptical, which I’ve moved in front of the TV when I watch baseball. My legs are churning away as I write and not being couch potato legs. I doubt many calories are being burned, but it feels good to still be in motion while resting. Last edited by atisketatasket; Apr 16, 2021 at 08:10 PM.. |
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#855
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I have one of those at my office at school. I had a ball chair thing but I kept bouncing on it and so it was not good to have student conferences when sitting on it __________________ Please NO @ Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live. Oscar Wilde Well Behaved Women Seldom Make History - Laurel Thatcher Ulrich Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional. |
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#856
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Thanks. Yes, the fear when it was 'born' so to speak when I was a kid was just that, self protective. And her comment, coming at any other time than during the specific conversation we were having today, it would have felt dismissive. For some reason though, it just fit today, it was like briefly there, we were talking flawed human to flawed human and not t-hiding-behind-a-mask to client, and that was how I heard it. That moment did not last long, but it was long enough. Incidentally one of my homework assignments is to tell my mother something big that I'm afraid of telling her (I'm going to have to anyway soon so I really should just get it over with). I think that once I do tell her this thing, I will be taking back the power that she obviously still has over me emotionally even though I am 58 years old. Once I take back that power - I don't think I will be worrying so much anymore about being bad/wrong. |
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#857
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#858
Ah, I love when you guys make these wide sweeping statements about all therapists. It gives me this feeling that I can only describe as chaotic energy.
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#859
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#860
I think mine is a desk cycle but I could be wrong - I got mine used from a second hand shop. Mine is pretty old - I have had it for about 10 yrs now
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