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Writing my way through...
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#341
I was just on a group text with my mom and 2 sisters and my one sister said something that totally triggered something in me and i snapped back "i will just shut up then" and turned off my phone. now i feel like an idiot. what the hell is wrong with me?!
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Always in This Twilight
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#342
Hugs, Artie. Nothing is wrong with you. You were triggered and stepped away to protect yourself. You were taking care of yourself.
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ArtieTheSequal
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underdog is here
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#343
Texts can be hard to judge tone.
__________________ Please NO @ Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live. Oscar Wilde Well Behaved Women Seldom Make History - Laurel Thatcher Ulrich Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional. |
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Child of a lesser god
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#344
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He is who he is. Either that benefits you or not. Your therapy isn’t about changing him, it’s about helping you handle life. Maybe the conversation grenades give you more insight into other issues in your life, or maybe they’re useless. Only you can really know. Totally separate issue: I have 4 hours between classes, so I spent it walking a couple miles around the campus lake and I was thinking about how there’s the rule of thumb, 7 animal years = 1 human year. What’s the ratio of therapy years to real-life years? Like I feel it’s only now after 3 1/2 years that Info is becoming regularly useful. And I’d know that a lot faster in real life. So I posit 1 year in therapy = 1 month of real life. |
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Wise Elder
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#345
Got my first shot! 6 more weeks and L says we won't have to wear masks with each other anymore!
Tomorrow I "see" T. I'm so nervous! __________________ "Odium became your opium..." ~Epica |
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Writing my way through...
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#346
I texted my sister back and we worked it out, I let her know that I've been kind of a mess lately struggling with stuff and that I reacted to what she'd said from that place. She said she's struggling too and hadn't meant to upset me. I think I'm more than a little nervous also about getting my 2nd covid shot day after tomorrow.
I need to get out of the house. I'm off work tomorrow, have physical therapy in the morning. Maybe I'll go do a short hike tomorrow after that. I'm gonna go cook dinner now (fish and air fried potatoes and maybe green beans or corn not sure yet). |
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#347
I get my second shot on friday. So far, most of my friends (all older than I am and have gotten theirs before me) have not had too much trouble with it - sore arm again and feeling a little blah the next day but not much more than that
__________________ Please NO @ Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live. Oscar Wilde Well Behaved Women Seldom Make History - Laurel Thatcher Ulrich Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional. |
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Child of a lesser god
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#348
I am looking over my student evaluations from last term. Is it good to have an online course compared to a Netflix docuseries? (I don't watch them so I have no idea what they're like.)
At least they didn't compare it to a mockumentary. |
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#349
I don't know what a netflix docuseries is. I don't watch much netflix.
__________________ Please NO @ Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live. Oscar Wilde Well Behaved Women Seldom Make History - Laurel Thatcher Ulrich Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional. |
Always in This Twilight
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#350
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The thing today is that he recognized how some issues I've dealt with regarding him and our relationship have helped me with my outside life (like, I have similar concerns in my relationship with him that I do regarding friends and family). But he said he'd rather I leave him out of it if possible, to just skip that step in talking to him if I have a realization about something. And in a way, I get that, but if talking about the step in between (involving him) helps me, then I don't see what's so bad, aside from his personal discomfort, about mentioning it in the process of talking about things. Do I really need to protect/take care of the therapist that much? Isn't that part of the point of paying them? For them to take care of their own stuff? Otherwise, how is it that much different from a friendship, except that I'm also paying for it? |
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Child of a lesser god
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#351
I would guess that he wants you to move on from using him as an intermediary step in analyzing your relationships with others and learn how to directly work on those relationships without thinking about him too. It’ll make your real world relationships more immediate. It’s like avoiding distancing when writing. It’s like taking the training wheels off a kid’s bike.
I don’t think he’s asking you to take care of him at all. |
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#352
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__________________ Please NO @ Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live. Oscar Wilde Well Behaved Women Seldom Make History - Laurel Thatcher Ulrich Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional. |
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Writing my way through...
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#353
Another painting.
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#354
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@@ - thats why ts wanna see you (ie me) several times a week, to speed that up. Im not sure who the slow one is, tho. |
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Writing my way through...
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#355
Last edited by ArtieTheSequal; Apr 07, 2021 at 11:08 PM.. |
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Writing my way through...
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#356
I'm watching an old episode of the x-files. man, mulder and scully look like college kids!
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Elder Harridan x-hankster
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#357
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Child of a lesser god
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#358
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Magnet
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#359
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I finally told our last exchange student to stop using my cast iron pan (and provided an alternative pan) because he...well, his gf who came to cook for him every weekend...didn't clean mine properly even after I showed them how to clean and oil it. I came home one day and they had used it and then scrubbed it into ruin. It has taken me a year to get it back to normal and I can still see scratch marks. I'm not even sure how they did that. But they stopped using it after that, so I guess they learned why I'd asked them not to use it. __________________ Since you cannot do good to all, you are to pay special attention to those who, by accidents of time, or place, or circumstance, are brought into closer connection with you. (St. Augustine) |
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Grand Magnate
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#360
Just got back from the ER with my youngest, who has a kidney infection. I have to work tomorrow, but I won't be able to go the whole day on 3.5 hours sleep. My boss would tell me not to come in, but I was out unexpectedly all day with my oldest at the dentist. Boss had to cover one of my reports, which is a very un-boss-like thing to do and I feel terrible about it.
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