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Daffydungle · May 04, 2021 at 07:08 PM

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Originally Posted by NP_Complete

I really want one of those Dyson fans that don't have blades because they seem like they'd be a whole lot easier to keep clean. My fans get so dusty! The price always stops me from getting one though.

The mechanic i go to has one in the office and even on a low setting it cooled quite well in our tropical heat.

stopdog · May 04, 2021 at 07:27 PM

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Originally Posted by WarmFuzzySocks

Oh good golly.

I read "rinsed out the nasal passages" and my eyes skipped to honey, lemon and cayenne. I thought: Man, I know stopdog is made of stern stuff but YIKES.

Cocaine is for sissies. Cayenne is the ticket.
I couldn't even do ever clear tincture under my tongue -that was an awful experience -eating cayenne does my nose in enough-rinsing with it would take someone of sterner stuff than I possess. I use the wimpy salt/baking soda solution

MobiusPsyche · May 04, 2021 at 10:40 PM

Posting a health update. I'm much improved over last week. I finally got approval to take some Imodium, which was a big relief and put an end to ten days of misery. Most of my labs are back to normal and the few that aren't are headed in the right direction. I'm once again able to eat the high-protein bariatric diet, so no worries there. I was so very fatigued last week, I didn't know how I was going to manage to get the last of my grading done, even.

But Saturday and Sunday were better, and I pulled it out somehow. I was very generous in both graduate classes; one class deserved it, but the other did not. Oh, well. Such is life. Today I finished the syllabus and online site for the first of my 3 summer classes. Those start on May 15.

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Quietmind 2 · May 05, 2021 at 01:40 AM

Mother broke no contact boundary via my younger brother. Mother's Day will be my 1 year anniversary of moving out. Have therapy before mother's day then.3 week gap between sessions. Sigh, this awful "possibly depression" thing plus all the recent stressors isn't going to help...

Lemoncake · May 05, 2021 at 03:27 AM

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Originally Posted by MobiusPsyche

Posting a health update. I'm much improved over last week. I finally got approval to take some Imodium, which was a big relief and put an end to ten days of misery. Most of my labs are back to normal and the few that aren't are headed in the right direction. I'm once again able to eat the high-protein bariatric diet, so no worries there. I was so very fatigued last week, I didn't know how I was going to manage to get the last of my grading done, even.

But Saturday and Sunday were better, and I pulled it out somehow. I was very generous in both graduate classes; one class deserved it, but the other did not. Oh, well. Such is life. Today I finished the syllabus and online site for the first of my 3 summer classes. Those start on May 15.

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I'm glad to hear you're doing better M.

Love the generous marking!

Lemoncake · May 05, 2021 at 03:30 AM

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Originally Posted by Quietmind 2

Mother broke no contact boundary via my younger brother. Mother's Day will be my 1 year anniversary of moving out. Have therapy before mother's day then.3 week gap between sessions. Sigh, this awful "possibly depression" thing plus all the recent stressors isn't going to help...

I'm sorry about your mother crossing your boundaries.

Maybe it's not possible depression, but you're actually struggling with real depression?

Quietmind 2 · May 05, 2021 at 03:46 AM

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I'm sorry about your mother crossing your boundaries.

Maybe it's not possible depression, but you're actually struggling with real depression?

I don't know really.

Someone in my system took a lot of the violence our mother dished out over seriously tiny things or her paranoid episodes. It started really young apparently.

Mother's message is sickly sweet, like Umbridge in Harry Potter.

I'm flooded with despair and passive SI.

I cannot see my psychiatrist any earlier than June. I see T in 2 days, then we have a 3 week break. I just emailed T to ask if depending on how things go at our upcoming session, if I see her earlier than 3 weeks.

Lemoncake · May 05, 2021 at 03:57 AM

I took skipped class today, just feeling worn out.

I booked a session with new T on the 15th, but I feel like I want to cancel now.

First part of my exam will be on the 26th.

Lemoncake · May 05, 2021 at 04:01 AM

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Originally Posted by Quietmind 2

I don't know really.

Someone in my system took a lot of the violence our mother dished out over seriously tiny things or her paranoid episodes. It started really young apparently.

Mother's message is sickly sweet, like Umbridge in Harry Potter.

I'm flooded with despair and passive SI.

I cannot see my psychiatrist any earlier than June. I see T in 2 days, then we have a 3 week break. I just emailed T to ask if depending on how things go at our upcoming session, if I see her earlier than 3 weeks.

I'm sorry you're struggling so much right now. It really does seem like you need a lot more support right now. A three week wait between sessions is a lot. Is there any other T you could have as a back up?

Quietmind 2 · May 05, 2021 at 04:03 AM

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Originally Posted by Lemoncake

I took skipped class today, just feeling worn out.

I booked a session with new T on the 15th, but I feel like I want to cancel now.

First part of my exam will be on the 26th.

Hugs. I hope you'll go to the therapy appointment if you think it'll help.

I never understood higher education exams, they sound so very stressful. Hugs.

Quietmind 2 · May 05, 2021 at 04:05 AM

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Originally Posted by Lemoncake

I'm sorry you're struggling so much right now. It really does seem like you need a lot more support right now. A three week wait between sessions is a lot. Is there any other T you could have as a back up?

Nope. We unfortunately took up Gender T's suggestion just last Monday to close our case at the gender clinic, as we've too much trauma stuff going on to be able to make good use of gender therapy.

LonesomeTonight · May 05, 2021 at 04:53 AM

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Originally Posted by MobiusPsyche

Posting a health update. I'm much improved over last week. I finally got approval to take some Imodium, which was a big relief and put an end to ten days of misery. Most of my labs are back to normal and the few that aren't are headed in the right direction. I'm once again able to eat the high-protein bariatric diet, so no worries there. I was so very fatigued last week, I didn't know how I was going to manage to get the last of my grading done, even.

But Saturday and Sunday were better, and I pulled it out somehow. I was very generous in both graduate classes; one class deserved it, but the other did not. Oh, well. Such is life. Today I finished the syllabus and online site for the first of my 3 summer classes. Those start on May 15.

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Glad to hear you're feeling better!

Lemoncake · May 05, 2021 at 05:17 AM

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Originally Posted by Quietmind 2

Nope. We unfortunately took up Gender T's suggestion just last Monday to close our case at the gender clinic, as we've too much trauma stuff going on to be able to make good use of gender therapy.

How long will the process take to start again?

Can you find anyone else just for supportive therapy?

Quietmind 2 · May 05, 2021 at 05:28 AM

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Originally Posted by Lemoncake

How long will the process take to start again?

Can you find anyone else just for supportive therapy?

We need a new referral so 6 weeks till pdoc then possibly another couple of weeks.

Regarding supportive therapy, we're unsure. Mostly because we've trust issues and our attachment is to T. There are free time limited counselling organisations but we don't benefit from strangers, plus feel immense guilt about taking up resources.

We'll talk to some friends about light stuff and request they not mind if we fall silent. And it might sound silly but posting here helps and us reading here and reddit helps. We just don't want people to feel pressured to care or help, we were a burden our entire life to our family and burned out friends so we just want to not bother people.

littleblackdog · May 05, 2021 at 07:42 AM

I saw my (ex)T today - we finished CBT a couple of weeks ago but she had a meeting this week with the rest of the team to discuss the next steps in my treatment, and..... nothing.
They are discharging me from the psychology service

Possible trigger:

even though I am self-harming a lot and suicidal

She said that they can't offer me long-term therapy (NHS won't pay for it because I am not sick enough) and they don't want to give me false hope and make me worse.
I knew from the start that this would happen (because it happened last time I had therapy, 3 years ago. I was just discharged even though I was desperate) and she promised me time and time again that it would not happen this time. Even in our last session she was talking about arranging for me to have compassion focused therapy and there being other things that could help me.
I can't deal with this on my own but I literally have nobody, tomorrow it is

Possible trigger:

3 years since my granny died, and Friday is 3 years since my dad died

I don't feel safe but nobody cares. Crisis line just tell me to ring my MH duty team but last time I did that they didn't even bother to call me back...

Quietmind 2 · May 05, 2021 at 09:11 AM

I'm so sorry Little Black Dog. You deserve better from the NHS.

ArtleyWilkins · May 05, 2021 at 10:35 AM

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Originally Posted by NP_Complete

I really want one of those Dyson fans that don't have blades because they seem like they'd be a whole lot easier to keep clean. My fans get so dusty! The price always stops me from getting one though.

We have a Dyson fan. Definitely worth it for us. It's quiet and very effective in our front sitting room that is always particularly warm.

We have a Shark vacuum which is quite good and not quite the hefty Dyson price.

Lemoncake · May 05, 2021 at 10:49 AM

The show In treatment returns for a fourth season. Not with Paul though.

In Treatment - Official Website for the HBO Series

Quietmind 2 · May 05, 2021 at 10:52 AM

Seriously. Wtf at my mother. After I set the boundary with my younger brother, she messaged my fiancé. Gahhhh!

He didn't show me her message but I guess it was more attempts by her to manipulate him to get me to talk to her. He read out his response to her on how he won't betray my trust, and that I had made it very clear I don't want contact with her.

I don't think she'll stop because I know her, but it really helps that he's being my buffer.

Lemoncake · May 05, 2021 at 10:53 AM

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Originally Posted by littleblackdog

I saw my (ex)T today - we finished CBT a couple of weeks ago but she had a meeting this week with the rest of the team to discuss the next steps in my treatment, and..... nothing.
They are discharging me from the psychology service

Possible trigger:

even though I am self-harming a lot and suicidal

She said that they can't offer me long-term therapy (NHS won't pay for it because I am not sick enough) and they don't want to give me false hope and make me worse.
I knew from the start that this would happen (because it happened last time I had therapy, 3 years ago. I was just discharged even though I was desperate) and she promised me time and time again that it would not happen this time. Even in our last session she was talking about arranging for me to have compassion focused therapy and there being other things that could help me.
I can't deal with this on my own but I literally have nobody, tomorrow it is

Possible trigger:

3 years since my granny died, and Friday is 3 years since my dad died

I don't feel safe but nobody cares. Crisis line just tell me to ring my MH duty team but last time I did that they didn't even bother to call me back...

I'm sorry you're struggling so much right now and the help you've been given is lacking.

Maytree also offers support, but you should go to A&E if you feel unsafe.
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Quietmind 2 Poohbah Member Since Jan 2020 Location: Somewhere I'm working to leave Posts: 1,243 4 8 hugs given	May 05, 2021 at 01:40 AM #524 Mother broke no contact boundary via my younger brother. Mother's Day will be my 1 year anniversary of moving out. Have therapy before mother's day then.3 week gap between sessions. Sigh, this awful "possibly depression" thing plus all the recent stressors isn't going to help...

Lemoncake Luna's offical mini me. Member Since May 2017 Location: Cafe Nervosa. Posts: 9,697 (SuperPoster!) 6 10.2k hugs given	May 05, 2021 at 03:57 AM #528 I took skipped class today, just feeling worn out. I booked a session with new T on the 15th, but I feel like I want to cancel now. First part of my exam will be on the 26th. __________________ "Love, like life, flows Through the heart. Feel the thrill of the flow And say nothing."

Quietmind 2 Poohbah Member Since Jan 2020 Location: Somewhere I'm working to leave Posts: 1,243 4 8 hugs given	May 05, 2021 at 09:11 AM #536 I'm so sorry Little Black Dog. You deserve better from the NHS.

Lemoncake Luna's offical mini me. Member Since May 2017 Location: Cafe Nervosa. Posts: 9,697 (SuperPoster!) 6 10.2k hugs given	May 05, 2021 at 10:49 AM #538 The show In treatment returns for a fourth season. Not with Paul though. In Treatment - Official Website for the HBO Series __________________ "Love, like life, flows Through the heart. Feel the thrill of the flow And say nothing."