Therapy is like prostitution - selling fake love

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Originally Posted by stopdog in my experience, therapists are in love with themselves. I did not hire one of these people to be loved -the woman was merely a stranger charity case-she sat there and did nothing and I handed her money.

You're correct: that was your experience with one therapist. One therapist hardly represents every therapist on earth, you know? You might have a bad experience with one teacher - or ten teachers. But even those ten do not represent all teachers. Thinking in such a narrow way is how ugly prejudices develop.

The fun part of suing them is their tendency to weep when presented with evidence

My therapist always says that I pay her for her knowledge and expertise.I cannot buy her love and care because her heart is not for sale.

Awe, that's really nice.

Those people tell a lot of lies.

I recently stopped seeing my fifth therapist. This time, we stopped because I moved to a new state and she's unable to keep seeing me where I am now, even remotely. And I will miss her. It was the best and most professional therapy I ever received precisely because she had very clear boundaries and was not giving me fake love and friendship. I knew we weren't friends and it never crossed my mind. With every other therapist I've seen, it was like paying a friend for their ear, and it became very confusing at times, especially with my male therapist when I started to think he was attracted to me. With my most recent therapist, she was always only there to give me solid exercises for how to deal with my diagnosis, and I do feel that she helped me. And she was still compassionate about it without acting like my mom or friend. I never once felt confused about what we were doing or who she was.

My male therapist had a picture of Freud in his office and often went on these intellectual rambles while stroking his goatee, and I started to get the feeling he was really impressed with himself and wanted his clients to see him that way as well. We had some interesting conversations, but I saw him for two years and made zero progress. In fact, I got worse, and that's how I ended up with my last one. Big egos should not exist in a therapist's office, and yet most of them have one, if not a god complex. I've seen that, too.

I don't know that I will be able to find a therapist like my last one again, and I'm thinking about stopping, maybe permanently. Now that I know what therapy should be like, I don't want to pay anyone else for phony love and caring ever again. I don't want to pay anyone else to have me sit on a couch for an hour trying to think of something to say while they offer me nothing but "let's try some breathing exercises" and still bill me full price. Rant over.