Couch 230: Decent Communications

stopdog · 06:16 PM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

I thought SD was referring to The Importance of Being Earnest.

Yes, I was.
Context is often an important component.

ArtieTheSequal · 06:29 PM

Had a good session today. Not like 2 weeks ago, but that was a special one and they can't all be that incredible. I'm in a quandary again though (my most predictable pattern, which I see clear as day) as I was getting ready to leave I was overcome with this sudden emotion that I didn't think showed on my face but she felt it anyway and said so, I told her yes, there's something I suddenly want to say but I'll just write it down when I get home. She said something like "You can hold it." And I said yes I can. I'm not really sure I even have the words for it though so I'm having little luck writing it down. It had something to do with fear of becoming dependent again. Ego feeling trapped again! That's not all of it but I'm trying to get curious about that. This is such a regularly recurring pattern for me, that getting curious about it seems to be the only logical thing to do with it.

edited to remove some stuff that i didn't word right.

ArtieTheSequal · Jul 16, 2021 at 06:19 PM

H is seeing a liver specialist tomorrow, and thankfully they're letting me come in with him. Our regular dr won't let anyone else come in still because of covid but I called to check and they said I can come in with him, so that's good. I want to make sure we get all the information.

CantExplain · Jul 16, 2021 at 07:30 PM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

I thought SD was referring to The Importance of Being Earnest.

Ah yes. But he doesn't come up on Google.

NP_Complete · Jul 16, 2021 at 07:39 PM

I don't know if anyone remembers, but when I first found out my therapist was leaving, I came up with the idea of making a kintsugi heart as a present for him. It's not intended as a romantic thing and I hope he doesn't take it that way!

I've had the supplies I needed to make it for quite a while, and I decided recently to go ahead and make it. Earlier this week was the 5th anniversary of when I started therapy with him and I decided I wanted to give it to him now instead of waiting until he's leaving. I was kind of scared to break the heart actually because I had a hard time finding one I liked on Etsy and when I did find one, they only had one and no longer had the mold. Over the last couple of days, I broke it, glued it back together and painted the seams. In that sense, it's more of a faux kintsugi I guess. I forgot to take photos when it was broken, but you'll have to trust me that it was. I also got some lovely fabric so I could wrap it up Japanese-style (furoshiki).

I really hope this isn't dumb and that he'll find it meaningful.

ArtieTheSequal · Jul 16, 2021 at 07:58 PM

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Originally Posted by NP_Complete

I don't know if anyone remembers, but when I first found out my therapist was leaving, I came up with the idea of making a kintsugi heart as a present for him. It's not intended as a romantic thing and I hope he doesn't take it that way!

I've had the supplies I needed to make it for quite a while, and I decided recently to go ahead and make it. Earlier this week was the 5th anniversary of when I started therapy with him and I decided I wanted to give it to him now instead of waiting until he's leaving. I was kind of scared to break the heart actually because I had a hard time finding one I liked on Etsy and when I did find one, they only had one and no longer had the mold. Over the last couple of days, I broke it, glued it back together and painted the seams. In that sense, it's more of a faux kintsugi I guess. I forgot to take photos when it was broken, but you'll have to trust me that it was. I also got some lovely fabric so I could wrap it up Japanese-style (furoshiki).

I really hope this isn't dumb and that he'll find it meaningful.

I think that is lovely and will be very meaningful. Very nice job.

StressedMess · Jul 16, 2021 at 08:03 PM

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Originally Posted by NP_Complete

I don't know if anyone remembers, but when I first found out my therapist was leaving, I came up with the idea of making a kintsugi heart as a present for him. It's not intended as a romantic thing and I hope he doesn't take it that way!

I've had the supplies I needed to make it for quite a while, and I decided recently to go ahead and make it. Earlier this week was the 5th anniversary of when I started therapy with him and I decided I wanted to give it to him now instead of waiting until he's leaving. I was kind of scared to break the heart actually because I had a hard time finding one I liked on Etsy and when I did find one, they only had one and no longer had the mold. Over the last couple of days, I broke it, glued it back together and painted the seams. In that sense, it's more of a faux kintsugi I guess. I forgot to take photos when it was broken, but you'll have to trust me that it was. I also got some lovely fabric so I could wrap it up Japanese-style (furoshiki).

I really hope this isn't dumb and that he'll find it meaningful.

Turned out amazing!

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NP_Complete · Jul 16, 2021 at 08:05 PM

All wrapped up. Next session is tomorrow morning. I guess I'm going to give it to him then. I don't know why I'm so nervous about this.

LonesomeTonight · Jul 16, 2021 at 08:05 PM

I agree that it is lovely and meaningful (I thought those words before reading Artie's post). I hope your T understands the meaning behind it and is touched by it. When do you plan to give it to him?

Incidentally, one of my favorite bands, Death Cab for Cutie, has an album titled Kintsugi.

ArtieTheSequal · Jul 16, 2021 at 08:24 PM

Oooh my phone just beeped an "Imminent severe weather" warning. I think that monsoon is my favorite time of year.

unaluna · Jul 16, 2021 at 08:38 PM

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Oooh my phone just beeped an "Imminent severe weather" warning. I think that monsoon is my favorite time of year.

We see cars being swept away in your state! Ours just get stuck trying to go thru underpasses on the freeways.

unaluna · Jul 16, 2021 at 08:41 PM

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Originally Posted by NP_Complete

All wrapped up. Next session is tomorrow morning. I guess I'm going to give it to him then. I don't know why I'm so nervous about this.

Its gorgeous.

ArtieTheSequal · Jul 16, 2021 at 08:48 PM

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Originally Posted by unaluna

We see cars being swept away in your state! Ours just get stuck trying to go thru underpasses on the freeways.

Yes, it happens. Too many times it's people driving around the 'road closed' signs thinking it's a good idea to drive through a flooding wash. The problem is that even if you think you know the road because it's one you drive every day, under all that rushing water sometimes chunks of the road wash away and then a tire goes clunk down into a hole and they can't steer anymore and get sideways in the water and swept away. It's scary but mostly preventable if you don't drive down into flooded washes! I won't be too judgemental though because I know there's roads that flood unexpectedly where there are no washes. That stuff you can't really help. What I just hate is when I see someone drive around one of the many road closed signs. We have lots of usually-dry washes around town that flood every year, that's what they're for, to keep the water from flooding other things, and the city always puts up big road closed signs.

ArtieTheSequal · Jul 16, 2021 at 08:51 PM

I have a bit of a therapy hangover, despite it being an overall good session. There were a couple of elements though that brought on the hangover. I think I'm going to go watch baseball with h.

ScarletPimpernel · Jul 16, 2021 at 08:59 PM

I have pre-birthday jitters! My birthday isn't until next weekend, but my sister is planning a surprise for me. And it's intriguing and scary because it somehow involves L! I can't think of what my sister is possibly doing or how L can even be involved. I'm nervous too because what if I don't react the way they hope I react? I'm not the type of person to show outward excitement. And my dad says I'm going to cry. I am a cryer, but not normally for happy things.

Everyone including L says this is a good thing. So I am looking forward to it. And I also just wish I could simply spend time with them and make my favorite meal (which I am).

I think part of my jitters is that I just don't have good birthdays. Normally they are really bad or just okay.

CantExplain · Jul 16, 2021 at 10:18 PM

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Originally Posted by ArtieTheSequal

I'm in a quandary again though (my most predictable pattern, which I see clear as day) as I was getting ready to leave I was overcome with this sudden emotion that I didn't think showed on my face but she felt it anyway and said so, I told her yes, there's something I suddenly want to say but I'll just write it down when I get home. She said something like "You can hold it."

I wonder if doorknob therapy could be turned into a force for good. T says, "Time's up". Patient says, "I just thought of something." T says, "Only joking. You have fifteen more minutes."

Farewells are powerful triggers. It seems a pity to waste them.

Quietmind 2 · Jul 16, 2021 at 10:52 PM

Gorgeous gift, NP.

Daffydungle · Jul 16, 2021 at 11:02 PM

I have been watching bear cams and i always thought that they edited the wildlife docos to only show bears catching salmon as they leap out of the water. Turns out bears just stand there and wait for the salmon to jump into their mouths.

WarmFuzzySocks · Jul 17, 2021 at 01:06 AM

NP, that is lovely.

unaluna · Jul 17, 2021 at 03:04 AM

I read that as "watching beer cans" and i felt a little less alone...

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ArtieTheSequal Writing my way through... Member Since Feb 2020 Location: In the desert Posts: 7,234 (SuperPoster!) 4 5,762 hugs given	Jul 16, 2021 at 06:19 PM #23 H is seeing a liver specialist tomorrow, and thankfully they're letting me come in with him. Our regular dr won't let anyone else come in still because of covid but I called to check and they said I can come in with him, so that's good. I want to make sure we get all the information.

LonesomeTonight Always in This Twilight Member Since Feb 2015 Location: US Posts: 20,744 (SuperPoster!) 9 74.9k hugs given	Jul 16, 2021 at 08:05 PM #29 I agree that it is lovely and meaningful (I thought those words before reading Artie's post). I hope your T understands the meaning behind it and is touched by it. When do you plan to give it to him? Incidentally, one of my favorite bands, Death Cab for Cutie, has an album titled Kintsugi.

ArtieTheSequal Writing my way through... Member Since Feb 2020 Location: In the desert Posts: 7,234 (SuperPoster!) 4 5,762 hugs given	Jul 16, 2021 at 08:24 PM #30 Oooh my phone just beeped an "Imminent severe weather" warning. I think that monsoon is my favorite time of year.

ArtieTheSequal Writing my way through... Member Since Feb 2020 Location: In the desert Posts: 7,234 (SuperPoster!) 4 5,762 hugs given	Jul 16, 2021 at 08:51 PM #34 I have a bit of a therapy hangover, despite it being an overall good session. There were a couple of elements though that brought on the hangover. I think I'm going to go watch baseball with h.

Quietmind 2 Poohbah Member Since Jan 2020 Location: Somewhere I'm working to leave Posts: 1,243 4 8 hugs given	Jul 16, 2021 at 10:52 PM #37 Gorgeous gift, NP.

Daffydungle Poohbah Member Since Apr 2020 Location: Nowhere Posts: 1,257 4 451 hugs given	Jul 16, 2021 at 11:02 PM #38 I have been watching bear cams and i always thought that they edited the wildlife docos to only show bears catching salmon as they leap out of the water. Turns out bears just stand there and wait for the salmon to jump into their mouths.

WarmFuzzySocks Magnet Member Since Jun 2017 Location: in the garden Posts: 2,308 6 15.5k hugs given	Jul 17, 2021 at 01:06 AM #39 NP, that is lovely. __________________ Since you cannot do good to all, you are to pay special attention to those who, by accidents of time, or place, or circumstance, are brought into closer connection with you. (St. Augustine)

unaluna Elder Harridan x-hankster Member Since Jun 2011 Location: Milan/Michigan Posts: 39,864 (SuperPoster!) 12 66.4k hugs given	Jul 17, 2021 at 03:04 AM #40 I read that as "watching beer cans" and i felt a little less alone...