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Default Jul 29, 2021 at 10:16 AM
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Is it possible he thought he didn't need to say anything in response until your next video chat or that he thought loving the messages was the same as saying he loved the idea? I don't see that he's saying no, but you seem to think so?
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Is it possible he thought he didn't need to say anything in response until your next video chat or that he thought loving the messages was the same as saying he loved the idea? I don't see that he's saying no, but you seem to think so?
Yeah, @@, I think you’re right. Now that I’ve sat with it for a bit, I realize he probably is coming from the perspective that he didn’t completely ignore it (i.e. “loved” the texts) and we’ll do the actual talking next time we video chat.

Oof. I’m working hard to be less reactive, but it it’s slow work.
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Default Jul 29, 2021 at 12:06 PM
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I got a hold of my pdoc's office today since he did not call me back yesterday. The lady I spoke to said I should have had one prescription on file from before the last visit so I had to explain to her that those were 40 mg and I am now taking 60 mg. So she looked in my file and saw what I was talking about and she said she would take care of it for me. I looked in all my prescriptions and I found one bottle of Latuda 60 mg which would almost get me through to seeing him (like a week short) so at least I am not in dire need and there is time to fix it. I'm glad I got through to them today and that they can get it fixed and I'm glad I have another bottle so I won't run out if the pharmacy has to order it or something like that.

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Default Jul 29, 2021 at 12:13 PM
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I think he probably means “start another streak of not self-harming again.”
I think you are right @@ about what Pastor T meant. I have trouble when people don't put things in context for me. It makes it really hard to figure out what they mean.


I'll see him on Saturday at the food distribution and he will probably ask how I am. Which is a difficult question. I didn't spiral. It was one incident. yeah I have to start counting all the way over but I'm not where I was 18 months ago. But I don't really know how I am feeling. I have a couple of days to come up with my answer, hopefully one that satisfies him. I know he cares about my well being. I know he still loves me (which is okay as he is my pastor too not just a T) and he says he "hurts with me" which I didn't really understand but I guess he means he was sympathetic towards what I was going through? I'm not sure. Anyway, I took it positively.


I've been talking to my support people and even a broader network of my friends that I don't lean on as often because they are out of the area. It's been good to have them supporting me through this and it is helping since I can't get in to see T sooner unless he miraculously has a cancellation next Monday or Tuesday. And I am particularly thankful for everyone on the couch who has been supportive of me and is helping me process stuff.

And, I'm proud of myself that I didn't spiral. One and done. Get back on the horse and try again.

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Default Jul 29, 2021 at 01:24 PM
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I don't feel like working today. I've been putting in lots of OT lately, although I'm salaried so it's not paid, and I'm just over it right now. I need a day at the beach or something.
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I don't feel like working today. I've been putting in lots of OT lately, although I'm salaried so it's not paid, and I'm just over it right now. I need a day at the beach or something.
Could you call in sick and take a mental health day? At my work we have personal days that can be used for anything so sometimes I use those for mental health days. Hang in there. But take care of yourself too.

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Default Jul 29, 2021 at 02:46 PM
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Some of my students called my chair and complained that my comments on their writing were "hurtful." Nevada multiple students were involved, I strongly believe this to have been coordinated by another faculty member. In any case, I am quite angry with my chair because she fell all over herself apologizing on my behalf. She now wants me to apologize.

I have no doubt some students' feelings were hurt by my comments, but they were factual statements, not attacks on their character. "Your writing is not up to graduate- level standards." "It doesn't seem like you've made any changes in response to the suggestive I made on the first draft." Sure, it would hurt to read these things, but they are not, in themselves, hurtful comments.

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Default Jul 29, 2021 at 02:49 PM
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I think any feedback that doesn't include something like "idiot" or "moron" is by definition not hurtful.

I've got a grad seminar in the fall, which means papers, which I hate grading for exactly the kind of situations your comments reference.
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Some of my students called my chair and complained that my comments on their writing were "hurtful." Nevada multiple students were involved, I strongly believe this to have been coordinated by another faculty member. In any case, I am quite angry with my chair because she fell all over herself apologizing on my behalf. She now wants me to apologize.

I have no doubt some students' feelings were hurt by my comments, but they were factual statements, not attacks on their character. "Your writing is not up to graduate- level standards." "It doesn't seem like you've made any changes in response to the suggestive I made on the first draft." Sure, it would hurt to read these things, but they are not, in themselves, hurtful comments.

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Today is my last day of live chat until end of August! woohoo. It's been verrrrry slow all day today, I've had only 8 chats since 5 am (it's almost 1 pm now where I am). Makes the day go by really slowly except today, I've been writing in my therapy journal between chats, so that has made the time go by more quickly. (I wear my headset so I can hear the alert tone and know when I have a chat so I don't miss one.) Much thinking/writing I've been doing after last week's session, so I have much to share with L again tomorrow.
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Default Jul 29, 2021 at 03:47 PM
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Today work was horrible. It's 107 degrees and I have a headache and I'm grumpy. I need a fairy godmother to conjure dinner tonight, blah.

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HUGS @StressedMess your fairy godmother should also do the dishes tonight!

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I was feeling on the verge of getting a panic attack. So I stopped what I was doing and did some deep breathing. I still feel panicky but it seemed to have lessened. I'm not entirely sure what I am panicky about.


I feel particularly vulnerable today and fragile. I feel like I am not protected. (Protected from what?) I feel as though I were in need of some comforting.


If I were at home, I would wrap up in my weighted blanket, sit in my lazyboy with the kitty cat, and a beverage, and a book, and a good mystery on TV and that would probably help me feel safer. I'm not at home though. I am at work.


I texted my three support people. One of them got back to me fairly quickly and was a little comforting. I remembered some stuff that Pastor T did with me that was comforting and so I did those exercises. But boy do I just feel really fragile today. It's really tough.


HUGS to anyone who wants one, and nods to everyone else. Kit

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HUGS, Kit. You are allowed to feel fragile.
I'm glad you were able to find some things that helped, even a tiny bit.
Sometimes a little bit is enough.

Is it Doughnut Friday for you tomorrow?

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HUGS, Kit. You are allowed to feel fragile.
I'm glad you were able to find some things that helped, even a tiny bit.
Sometimes a little bit is enough.

Is it Doughnut Friday for you tomorrow?
Thank you Lost! Thank you.

Yes tomorrow is doughnut Friday. Today was bagel Thursday. Yesterday was Jimmy Johns sandwiches for lunch and pie and ice cream for two o'clock break. It's no wonder I'm having trouble losing weight! Oh and we had pull apart bread on Wednesday morning. MMM. Also known as Monkey Bread.

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For what it's worth, it's hard to see how Dr. K's schedule fits in with helping you. Two consecutive days a week leaves little room for clients that need more support. It's little wonder you are feeling fragile at the moment.

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For what it's worth, it's hard to see how Dr. K's schedule fits in with helping you. Two consecutive days a week leaves little room for clients that need more support. It's little wonder you are feeling fragile at the moment.
I know. If I needed to see him more than once a week it wouldn't be possible. Heck its not even possible to see him weekly. I thought it would be okay because I was kind of burned out on therapy but I don't know. I might have to look at Kayla's list of providers and see if there is a better fit. Some of them were pretty far away but I'm sure they are doing telehealth as everyone seems to be doing telehealth up here these days.

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Omg I am completely furious. Chiding German chair is in her last year as chair. Already having to work with her remotely as associate chair is taxing enough (a major reason I demanded a pay raise), and I’m not looking forward to doing it in person when school starts.

But this is more personal. We have some disabled faculty coming in and they need accommodations. So she sent an email cc’ing me to ask about accommodations and how to get them—thus outing me to them as disabled, and also outed them to me. As well as the office staff she also cc’d. I not only don’t think that’s legal, it’s crass.

Between that and my troubles with her over accommodations last year, I may go through the roof.
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Omg I am completely furious. Chiding German chair is in her last year as chair. Already having to work with her remotely as associate chair is taxing enough (a major reason I demanded a pay raise), and I’m not looking forward to doing it in person when school starts.

But this is more personal. We have some disabled faculty coming in and they need accommodations. So she sent an email cc’ing me to ask about accommodations and how to get them—thus outing me to them as disabled, and also outed them to me. As well as the office staff she also cc’d. I not only don’t think that’s legal, it’s crass.

Between that and my troubles with her over accommodations last year, I may go through the roof.
Where’s the “eff that” button when you need one?

That fully sucks, @@.
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Wow, @@. That is poor form beyond belief. Terribly unprofessional.

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