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Always in This Twilight
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#121
Hugs, Kit, I'm sorry you're struggling so much and that T wasn't more helpful. I do think maybe you need a different T? And why are you unable to see him for another 3 weeks?
Can I ask what you do want to hear from friends you text for support? If you even know the answer--I know for me sometimes, when someone says something in an attempt to be supportive, that it's the wrong thing, but I might not know what the right thing is (hope that makes sense, been a long, difficult day). But if you know what you might want them to say, it could help to tell them, maybe? Like "I know you're trying to be supportive, but 'You got this' doesn't help. I want you to say something more like _____." |
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Always in This Twilight
Member Since Feb 2015
Location: US
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#122
Possible trigger:
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Writing my way through...
Member Since Feb 2020
Location: In the desert
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#123
Hugs LT, Kit, Chihro, NP and whoever else needs/wants.
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Luna's offical mini me.
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#124
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__________________ "Love, like life, flows Through the heart. Feel the thrill of the flow And say nothing." |
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Child of a lesser god
Member Since Jun 2015
Location: Tartarus
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#125
Between paying for my therapist’s holidays and Jeff Bezos’s spaceflight, I’m feeling very generous.
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Luna's offical mini me.
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#126
__________________ "Love, like life, flows Through the heart. Feel the thrill of the flow And say nothing." |
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Location: CA
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#127
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I don't know if going on the trip would help me or if staying home would help me more. I'm trying to decide. I can still cancel the hotel room and get my money back. I think if I cancel it the day of I lose a day. Still getting something back would be better than nothing. As for the aquarium, I'd just be out the $50 but I'd still be saving money on gas and everything else. I'll try to talk to my Dad. Really talk to him. It sucks because we have Church tonight. I have Kayla at 4 so there's not a lot of time. Then it's hard to get him alone without my Mom there. I mean, I don't care if she knows but sometimes it is easier just talking to my Dad. My brain feels like it is in pieces! __________________ Dum Spiro Spero IC XC NIKA |
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#128
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I think I have exhausted the T's in my area. I wish former T would take me back but I know that isn't going to happen. I could write her though. I doubt she would respond. I guess I could see Dr. K earlier if I took time off of work. That was his first 4 PM appointment available. I get off of work at 3:30. So 4 works well for me. Yeah, I know what you mean. I don't know what would help to hear but not that. And maybe that would be helpful another time, this time it just wasn't. It's hard to know what would be helpful. __________________ Dum Spiro Spero IC XC NIKA |
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#129
__________________ Dum Spiro Spero IC XC NIKA |
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Always in This Twilight
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#130
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Thanks, Lemon. It helps to read that. He could have very easily said, "Only contact me in an emergency" or "You have backup T's contact info, I won't be checking email that often." But he chose to say he's reading and responding to email. I feel I did good for 4 days without him, without even being tempted to contact him, so that's some sort of progress. Had things gone differently in the appointment today, I wouldn't have contacted him either. It's like I hit some sort of wall in what I can handle (both on my own and with non-T supports). |
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Poohbah
Member Since Jan 2020
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#131
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Kit, you deserve better. Dr K seems to not be attuned. So what if you have Google Maps? It doesn't completely ease the anxiety and fear. Even with Google Maps and researching whatever route I needed on Street View or doing practice runs, I would still be horribly anxious. I couldn't go more than 10 minutes away from a train station without someone with me. I had to take lots of baby steps to get to not being anxious and then confident. T cheered on every little step and helped me with my shame on how I struggled with such "small" things. She helped me focus on using whatever I needed to BE able to go places, then slowly reduce my safety behaviour. I found City Mapper helped with my fear of missing bus stops and getting lost because it'd notify me with sounds and vibration as I'm approaching the stop. And that's for public transport, I can't imagine driving or even driving lessons. And for SH... sigh. He shouldn't just assume... |
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Luna's offical mini me.
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#132
Saw this yesterday. Thought it was super cute.
Owners Wanted To See The Reactions Of Their Pets After They Get Unexpected Kisses (45 Pics) | Bored Panda __________________ "Love, like life, flows Through the heart. Feel the thrill of the flow And say nothing." |
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#133
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Always in This Twilight
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#134
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Dr. T ended up sending a very supportive response to my email this morning. It felt really validating (particularly regarding one reaction I'd mentioned), which is what I needed. So I'm glad I reached out to him. |
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Always in This Twilight
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#135
Scarlet, how are you doing?
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Legendary Wise Elder
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#136
Kayla, my case manager/care coordinator person, did not discharge me. She wants me to talk to a different Pdoc because she's not sure the medications I'm on are right for me. So just like get a second opinion. That's my homework. I have two weeks to make an appointment. She was worried because of the suicidal thoughts and SH thoughts last night. She told me if I get worse to go to the ER.
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#137
I made the difficult decision not to go to my sister's Thursday through Saturday. My parents thought I should go. That even though I'm terribly depressed, maybe the break would be good for me. My Mom offered to go with me but she didn't have a ticket to the Aquarium so what was she going to do just stay in the hotel all day, boring! So I cancelled my hotel, which I should get a refund within 30 days and I'm out the ticket for the aquarium, but whatever. I texted my sister and my niece and told them I wasn't coming. My sister sent me a gift card to Starbucks. That was sweet of her. I didn't tell my niece I was/am suicidal but I told my sister. I just told my niece I'm very depressed. My parents said they haven't seen me this depressed in a while. I don't feel all the way better this morning but I do have some relief that I am not going on the trip. I think the trip was stressing me out too much. I'm still going to take Thursday and Friday off of work but I am just not going to go to my sisters. I will rest and recuperate at home.
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Luna's offical mini me.
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#138
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Just wondering can you post your niece your aquarium ticket if it's physical. We have a guaranteed next day delivery service by 1pm. __________________ "Love, like life, flows Through the heart. Feel the thrill of the flow And say nothing." |
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#139
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My sister has my aquarium ticket. It is for a specific day (Friday) at a specific time (12:30) if she can't find someone else to go with her then I wasted $50 on a ticket that will go unused. But maybe my sister can invite one of my niece's friends or something to go with them and use the ticket. If not, oh well, $50 is $50 but maybe she can get a refund if she doesn't use it? I Zelled her the money so my sister didn't pay for the ticket. So at least there's that. __________________ Dum Spiro Spero IC XC NIKA |
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#140
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