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Old 07-21-2021, 08:45 PM   #161
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Both of the women said my eulogy for my person made them cry -but I wasn't there in person when they read it - I tend to think they speak in hyperbole rather than meant it literally.
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I had to see a locum doctor today. It was awful. I have an nderstanding with my doctor that she can advice and i can make up my own mind and do my own thing and she wont lecture me. This foctor went on and on so i stopped listening. I got my script so the trip wasnt wasted.
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I don't know why those guys think they are in a position to lecture people. I don't listen to them either
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Yay amys baking company on ramsey tonight. This is the best, craziest episode.
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I don't know why those guys think they are in a position to lecture people. I don't listen to them either
This one was truly awful and kept telling me thing i already know as i used to be nurse but i couldnt be bothered arguing today and at the end of it all just to make me more irritated she called me sweet. I hate days where i want to punch them.
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Crappy day at work. We were down two people (we were 5/7) and then we got about twice as many requests to help as we usually get. It was my fourth day, so I don’t know how anything works or where anything is or how to use the weird phone-based pager system etc etc.

The thing that really got me was my attending (W) snapping at me. She asked me to page someone but it turns out that particular person can’t be paged directly. I asked her if she could help me troubleshoot and she said yes, then changed her mind and said, “let me finish this quick note first.” Fine by me. But the other attending (S) notices that I’m stuck and says, “chihiro, can I help you figure this out?” So I start explaining to S what the issue is, but W interrupts and says, “chihiro, can you just be quiet for a few minutes?”

I was flabbergasted. I wasn’t even effing talking to W! I start saying, “sorry, S was showing me how to do the thing,” but she says, “there’s just too much noise in here” (it’s a big workroom and two of the PAs were also discussing something). So I shut up. S apologizes (which also annoyed me bc S is our site director foe the hospital and I would have expected her to stick up for me). And I wait a few minutes until W can show me how to page the person.

I honestly felt like crying. Which is weird, because I hardly ever cry (or get choked up) and am used to other doctors snapping at me for various reasons. But also not completely insane because people in this specialty are known for being nice, and I just wasn’t expecting it. It’s one thing if I’m girding my loins going into an interaction with someone, knowing I’m going to be screamed at. But it’s another if I think I’m in this warm fuzzy environment and am effing trying my best but don’t know how everything works yet (b/c it is my fourth day on the job ffs) and I get smacked like a disobedient puppy.

I recognize that other people wouldn’t be upset by something like this. I wish I weren’t. But here we are.
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So you wanna marry me so you can change me? Huh. Typical! i watch stuff i dont care to remember cuz my brain is already too stuffed full of stuff.
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I just really hate how some doctors talk to you like you are an idiot and cant make a decision for yourself
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I recognize that other people wouldn’t be upset by something like this. I wish I weren’t. But here we are.


It doesn't matter if other people would or would not be upset by it, it effected you. Being snapped at isn't a nice experience to go through.

Hope you can do something nice for yourself after work.
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One was basically like, you've got this. No. No. No. I don't have this. That's the point! I'm scared I'm in trouble here.
You were scared.
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I recognize that other people wouldn’t be upset by something like this. I wish I weren’t. But here we are.
That person is having unreasonable expectations - it's your 4th day and it's not like you can read their mind.

I would have been upset too.
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Chihiro, that would have upset me as well. It's just plain rude to tell someone to stop talking. Especially considering you weren't even talking to her! If she can't handle much background noise, then it seems like she shouldn't be working in a hospital.


I hope the rest of the week is better...
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So you wanna marry me so you can change me? Huh. Typical! i watch stuff i dont care to remember cuz my brain is already too stuffed full of stuff.
Sweetie, I spent a whole marriage subjected to relentless harassment to change. You know I wouldn’t do that to you.
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Today was hard. I'll be sitting in the corner for a bit.

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After being told not to talk yesterday, attending is now mad that I didn’t call her at 6pm and tell her something. I can’t win.
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I had to talk to backup T briefly today to give her my credit card number (mistakenly thought she had my current one from the last time and I certainly wasn't going to email it). She said she was glad she was able to talk to me because she'd forgotten to talk at the end about how much I wanted her to share with Dr. T about what we talked about. I was basically like, "Uh, none of it?" (I'd technically signed a release when I saw her 2 years ago and thought they expired, but apparently they don't.) She said she wouldn't say more than anything I wanted her to say. She offered up some stuff she could share, and I said no. Then she said that she could share, "We discussed working toward more self-reliance and also some about boundaries." Me: "Not the boundaries part." R: "OK...'We discussed working toward more self-reliance.'" Me: "Yes, you can share that, but nothing more." R: "OK."

She was just pushing me, which bothered me. Like, if I want to share stuff with Dr. T, then...I want to be the one to share it. It would be different if I specifically said to her that I was having trouble talking about something with him, maybe she could mention we'd talked about it. I really hope she's true to her word though. If I'd thought she was going to share with him all we talked about, I...probably would have just spent the whole time talking about Tuesday's doctor's appointment instead. I figured it was a good opportunity to talk stuff out with a third party, but now I feel weird about it. I'm wondering if I should email her asking to completely revoke her right to share with him at all?
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You don’t ask to revoke the right. You tell them. At least I do. And I attach a formal signed letter revoking that right.
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I finally found a pizza place I have been hearing about for over 25 years - the pizza is okay -probably not worth searching for 25 years for -and I was just driving around not doing anything specific when I found it.
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