I’m getting switched again.

So it’s considered an ED if you actually have weight to lose and are considered overweight?

My new therapist is super nice. And she was a lot more open and funny this time. I really liked her. But I told her about my eating habits and more about my transition. And she said something along the lines of “I’ll be honest with you. I’m not experienced in EDs and I’m not familiar with the trans thing either. At first I thought it would be ok but now I think you need to be switched to someone else.” She gave me the name of a former coworker she worked with who works with trans, autistic, ED, and people with chronic health issues. She said she’ll still work with me if I have to be on a waiting list until I can get into see the one she “highly” recommends.

But this is happening for the 3rd time. Where someone is not qualified to work with me based on my issues. And I feel like I’m just being shuffled from person to person and I honestly feel like I’m ultimately just getting hurt.

So my mom is calling the new one now.

But I am just kinda sad more then anything.

Edit: Well I’m on a waiting list. There’s about 3 people ahead of me. So no clue when it will be my turn. But I am concerned about continuing to work with my current therapist and then when it’s time to switch over that I’ll have a really hard time switching the way I did when I switched from transference T to unprofessional T. Honestly I’m just super down because I like this therapist.

I'm sorry... and I understand it really hurts. But maybe it's ultimately a good thing? If your current T felt she was out of her depth, then she might have seen you for a certain amount of time, then said or done something that really hurt you. And if you can see a T who specializes in these areas, they could potentially be more helpful to you.


No idea what to suggest in terms of whether to see this therapist until you can see the new one or wait.

Yes, it is but many professionals dismiss it because of unconscious prejudice against overweight people.

Your T is being ethical and prioritising your well-being, although of course it's really painful she's referred you to someone else.

In my country, many don't get help with ED because they're in bigger bodies. And some therapists don't know how to modify their approach for people with autism. Or provide gender affirming care. Not saying this to guilt you but to point out even great Ts have areas they're not competent in, and it's being ethical to tell you that. My ex T wasn't competent with complex trauma, and I didn't want to leave her, but she was really out of her depth. Friends with autism have needed Ts familiar with autism, they've had a lot of bad therapy because of the T.

My current T is fine with me seeing Gender T, she's affirming but not competent in this area. They just ensure no overlap. Some of my friends are 2 Ts for a variety of reasons.

And I'm sad the waiting list for you is so long. It makes sense you forsee issues changing Ts when the time comes. Maybe this T can keep working with you in tandem with the ED T...?

It can be a challenge to find an experienced therapist the complexity of multiple issues. I know my transgender daughter has had to try several to find one that has worked for her combination of issues. I hope you can find the right fit.

She said I could still see her for the anxiety and depression part. She said that’s all she can really help me with. I’m not too enthusiastic about seeing 2 of them at one time and I don’t think my insurance would pay for 2 therapists at one time either. Plus I pay a crap load already for therapy. Although my insurance has surprised me before with what they will cover. But it’s mostly been on the medical side.

Basically I’m just gonna have to deal with it when the time comes. I don’t know what 3 people ahead of me looks like time wise. But I’m hoping in the meantime to get some other things taken care of that might help with my feelings regarding therapy.

I emailed my current therapist yesterday afternoon since she wanted me to email her after I called the new one. I told her about the waiting list I was on. I haven’t gotten an email back yet. So I’m not sure what she’s thinking or feeling about things

She emailed me today and said I should be seeing the new one in September. I mentioned in my email being worried about switching after seeing her for awhile. I don’t want another issue like I did with transference T. Plus with all the other stuff I have going on around that time I am actually very concerned about this change. But I’ll talk to her on Monday about how I’m feeling and what’s been going on. She wants me to sign a release of information. They are friends and also former coworkers. I wonder how much gossiping they will do about me. My mom says I only have 3 more appointments with her until Labor Day. I just hope this doesn’t wreck me emotionally the way it did with transference T. Who has been out of my mind since that session on Tuesday. I just don’t want this change to be another one of those situations