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Poohbah
Member Since Apr 2020
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#821
I find friendships hard i can find friends but people don't really occupy a huge part in my mind and i go off and pursue things that interest me and forhet to return phone calls and texts and eventually i lose contact all together. i am also terrible at remembering important things like names, what they like, birthdays etc. Sometimes i get lonely but not for long.
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Elder Harridan x-hankster
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Location: Milan/Michigan
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#822
Daf it is only jacinda's evil heart that keeps us apart
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Wise Elder
Member Since Nov 2013
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#823
So I tried to appeal the rental assistance decision, and they said I can't because I already appealed once. So I'm moving onto the next rank: congressmen, senators, and assemblymen. I did it once before to fight MediCal, let's see if I can do something with this.
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Always in This Twilight
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Location: US
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#824
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Good luck! It's worth trying to fight. Another potential area to target would be the media, like if you could talk to someone at a local TV station, say. Or...blog? I don't know. |
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Child of a lesser god
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#825
Are you sure you meet the qualifications for assistance? I’ve directed students where to apply for rent assistance and the big criterion appears to be that income be no more than X% of the median income for the area, and the X% starts really low iirc—like poverty level or close to it. That can actually be a hard threshhold to meet if your husband is employed. For my graduate students with just a TA stipend, it’s much easier.
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#826
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You know, H could go get himself fired, file for unemployment, and then we would qualify. So dumb. __________________ "Odium became your opium..." ~Epica |
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Grand Magnate
Member Since Feb 2017
Location: the upside down
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#827
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Location: New Zealand
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#828
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Child of a lesser god
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#829
Here, in case anybody wants to laugh at me geeking out:
I just found out King Ethelred the Unready’s name is a pun in Old English. Ethelred means well-advised, and unready doesn’t mean what it does today but badly advised. So he got his nickname because he didn’t live up to his name. Is that neat or what? |
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Always in This Twilight
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Location: US
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#830
Orthopedist is sending me for an MRI of my neck, as he said my range of motion seemed rather limited. He asked about past accidents, and I said there was a car accident when I was 20, but that was ages ago. He said it's possible that some sort of damage from that combined with aging (whee!) could be causing issues now.
Because I have some claustrophobia issues, he prescribed me a valium to take an hour before it (with someone driving me to/from). The MRI place I called said I have to arrive there an hour early for them to witness me taking the valium. Is that normal? Why would they need to do that? It's just annoying because it means my H will have to miss more work meetings, plus then I'll need to be sitting in the parking lot or waiting room for an hour (she did say I wouldn't have to stay in waiting room, which I'd prefer because even though I'd be wearing a mask, that place tends to be pretty packed in--been there for mammograms and pelvic ultrasounds before, and since Covid, you normally wait in your car there till they're ready for you to check in). So is this normal protocol for them to watch me take the valium? Or do I try one of the other centers on my list? |
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Location: CA
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#831
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#832
Hi guys. boy IOP was INTENSE yesterday. The leader S is tough but she is cool. I like her but boy is she tough. There's like this 15 minute rule that if you come 15 minutes late you can't join the class. On Friday someone was a few minutes past that and she didn't let them in. And then last night someone was 14 minutes late and she let them in but she let them know it was not cool to be late. The topic was on shame and resilience. It was super intense. I learned a lot though. And we watched part of a video by Brene Brown. Not sure if that is how you spell her name. I have heard of her but I have never actually seen any of her videos. Tough stuff. I get a reprieve tonight, though I have religious class tonight and religious class tomorrow and then back to IOP Thursday and Friday. I am writing notes down in a notebook as I watch the videos and answer the questions and then I am transferring them (so they make more sense) to another notebook so I can have that after IOP is over. I'm learning a lot but yesterday made me feel really bad about myself because I don't understand emotions very well in myself which means I don't understand them in others which makes it harder for me to be empathetic. Like I care about what others are going through but I have trouble putting myself in their shoes. I find myself at a loss of words to say when someone around me is upset. I'll just say that I'm listening. Or that I'm here. Or I'll hug them or something. Then S was like, Kit that IS being empathetic! Oh.
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Member Since Feb 2016
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#833
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I guess there is probably some remote 0.0001% chance of something happening that they could justify this? Your choice as to whether to comply or go somewhere else. Finding another place is a hassle, and who's to say they won't have the same requirement? Sent from my SM-G981U using Tapatalk __________________ "I would rather have questions that can't be answered than answers which can't be questioned." --Richard Feynman |
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#834
I have NO IDEA how I feel today. I think I must be overwhelmed from IOP but I'm not sure overwhelmed is a feeling. I need that feelings wheel that S has.
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Always in This Twilight
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#835
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Thanks, Mobius. I have another (locally owned) place that's confirming with my insurance and will call me back to set something up. So canceling with the other one for now--figure I can always call back and reschedule without mentioning the valium (unless they put it in my chart), if the second place doesn't work out. I would have just left the other appointment on the books, but if they were also checking with my insurance, didn't want to have a potential issue. My H said that maybe they would want to know what I was on if I showed up stoned, but my one past experience with valium (and a couple times I've taken xanax) is it just made me a bit calmer, not like unable to walk or talk or something. |
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#836
Session with L in an hour. I'm feeling sad and heartbroken because Friday is my first session I'm missing to start reducing. I know I'm not losing her completely, and I feel like I am. I crocheted her a blanket that I was going to give her between her birthday and Christmas, but I want to give it to her now. She said she's going to give me a poem/blessing she wrote using the words I describe for the meaning of lighting the candle. We will both read the words when we light our candles on Fridays.
I hope I can cry this all out today. I need the release so badly. __________________ "Odium became your opium..." ~Epica |
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#837
HUGS Scarlet, I hope the appointment goes well and I hope you can get the release that you need. I'm so sorry you have to reduce. HUGS Kit
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Elder Harridan x-hankster
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#838
Hey slumber - i was just looking up long term effects of shaming (in child raising) (for myself - that was my parents only technique, seriously - the rest of the time they were laissez-faire, but when they put their parenting hats on, almost literally, it was to shame) - anyway one of the long term effects was lack of empathy. I dont quite remember the connection, but i think it had to do with lack of connection - ie because shaming is so isolating, so it displaces connection and subsequently empathy. I am surprised shame has affected me so much. But i only ever tried to reject it, to push it away - not really deal with it. Now the chickens have come home to roost.
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#839
Kit, I wonder if you have prosopagnosia or a form of it which could cause the problems with emotions and empathy?
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#840
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Hugs. I hope it goes well, Scarlet, and she likes the blanket. I like the idea of her giving you the poem/blessing that you'll both read when you light candles. Are you going down to one session a week every week starting this week, or are you just going to skip some Fridays? |
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