Couch 232: Not Sully!

unaluna · Oct 09, 2021 at 10:18 PM

I blew dry my hair today, and it looks da bomb. The undercarriage, in back, could be a little neater, but the rest is your basic page boy bob whatever, all smooth and shiny silver. With baby bangs.

WarmFuzzySocks · Oct 10, 2021 at 01:15 AM

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Originally Posted by unaluna

Wait much longer and i will be going up the aisle feet first

#notgettinganyyounger

And I will be stuck with this sparkly dress. Get a move on, you two.

WarmFuzzySocks · Oct 10, 2021 at 01:18 AM

una, I am jealous of your silver hair.

My dad's hair has turned a gorgeous silvery white. Stunning. I was crushed when my hair gal told me I am not blessed with that kind of hair and mine will just turn plain ol' grey.

comrademoomoo · Oct 10, 2021 at 02:38 AM

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Originally Posted by CantExplain

If you were in the sort of pain I was in, naturally you would want to get rid of it as soon as possible!

Which is why I added parentheses explaining how desperate I am for her to soothe me, but acknowledging that this is not within her (or any therapist's) gift. It's natural to want soothing and to look to another for that, but that is ultimately self defeating particularly when pain originates from unmet childhood needs. No adult is meeting that need for us when we are adults.

ScarletPimpernel · Oct 10, 2021 at 02:46 AM

Maybe the therapist, or any adult for that matter, can't fully meet our unmet needs, but they can meet some of them. L and T have met many of my needs to the capacity that they can. Even H mets some of my needs.

I've been told that's why you need a collection of people: each meets different needs and helps get those needs more fully met.

L does soothes me and comforts me by touch, emotuonal presence, understanding, empathy, acceptance, mirroring, etc. It doesn't fully meet both adult or childhood needs, but it's better than nothing.

comrademoomoo · Oct 10, 2021 at 02:57 AM

Yes, I am not disagreeing with you Scarlet. I am thinking about my own experience at the moment and how excruciating I can find it to have my therapist offer *something like* the love I crave. It's the *almost it* nature of her love which is currently so hard for me - in part because it shows what I was denied as a child. Other people can meet some of our needs (I suppose it's partly why we are social animals) but my yearning for maternal love can't be met now and it is sometimes devastating.

ScarletPimpernel · Oct 10, 2021 at 07:03 AM

Comrade - now I'm tracking. Yes, I can understand and relate to the "not enough" feelings I think you're describing. Is it like a tease? That's sometimes how I feel.

I have fantasies and longings that L can't meet. Like I wish she would hold me in her arms or cuddle with me or tuck me into bed. And even though H can physically do all those things, he's not a woman and can't be/isn't a mother-figure.

I'm sorry it feels devastating for you. It makes sense. It's not how things are meant to be. I watched a TED talk about how the first 5 years are the most important in a child's life. It made me sad: sad for myself and for my nieces. I try to give as much love as I can to my nieces, but I know, at least the middle child, is suffering greatly. It's not fair. She's done nothing wrong. How could she? She's just a child.

Anyways, I just wanted to say that I think I'm relating and feel for you. You're not alone.

Molly Wright: How every child can thrive by five | TED Talk

ArtieTheSequal · Oct 10, 2021 at 11:57 AM

Morning couch. Hugs/dignified head nods all around as appropriate.

atisketatasket · Oct 10, 2021 at 12:42 PM

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Originally Posted by WarmFuzzySocks

And I will be stuck with this sparkly dress. Get a move on, you two.

Well, we have to wait for you to buy the matching custom-made shoes. Same colors, same glitter, but with a pompom on the toe.

stopdog · Oct 10, 2021 at 04:12 PM

In my area, we have these large swarms of giant gnats that will plague us until a heavy frost occurs. Today I think I must have breathed in or swallowed about 1/2 a swarm just from walking the dogs with a friend.

stopdog · Oct 10, 2021 at 04:14 PM

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Originally Posted by WarmFuzzySocks

And I will be stuck with this sparkly dress. Get a move on, you two.

It would work for either occasion. Nothing says goodbye like sparkles. Not for me of course, but exhankster seems the sort

Daffydungle · Oct 10, 2021 at 04:39 PM

Last night i felt like singing in bed and all the pets jumped off and ran away. I will sing regardless these guys lick their privates.

Daffydungle · Oct 10, 2021 at 04:49 PM

Ok this is the first yime i have worked with polymer clay and i have learned i need to get an x-acto knife set but here is a wip Totoro for my kids. They are getting one each. I also couldn't find plain polymer clay just sparkly ones. The chevron on the chest is wonky because i made it too big and i attempted to take it off with my fingers so need to get a knife

unaluna · Oct 10, 2021 at 06:43 PM

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Originally Posted by stopdog

It would work for either occasion. Nothing says goodbye like sparkles. Not for me of course, but exhankster seems the sort

I was gonna say, but i didnt wanna seem braggy.

WarmFuzzySocks · Oct 10, 2021 at 07:50 PM

I have a glue gun and pom poms at the ready.

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

Well, we have to wait for you to buy the matching custom-made shoes. Same colors, same glitter, but with a pompom on the toe.

WarmFuzzySocks · Oct 10, 2021 at 07:57 PM

I had to order old man cat a new coat. The other one was misplaced over the summer and he just got a shave. He is still creaking around, and delighted with his new haircut.

I picked him up earlier (he's starting to have trouble jumping as high as my lap) and realized how skeletal he was last year(ish) when he was ill. He looks and feels healthy.

unaluna · Oct 10, 2021 at 07:59 PM

No kidding, in the early 70's i had shoes similar to that. Only the platforn was solid brown, and the uppers were gorgeous yellow and brown leather like swoopy saddle shoes, with a red leather circle appliqué on the sides. I got them in Toronto. Loved those shoes. Eventually the soles cracked apart.

unaluna · Oct 10, 2021 at 08:01 PM

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Originally Posted by stopdog

In my area, we have these large swarms of giant gnats that will plague us until a heavy frost occurs. Today I think I must have breathed in or swallowed about 1/2 a swarm just from walking the dogs with a friend.

I have a net gnat hat you can borrow.

atisketatasket · Oct 10, 2021 at 08:20 PM

We have to workshop in my writing contemporary fairytales course, and my interest in undergraduate versions of fairytales (at least this round) is really flagging. They all have happy endings and are about beautiful misunderstood princesses passively flapping around waiting to be Saved.

Did they miss the fact that real fairytales are dark, dark, dark, not Disney?

unaluna · Oct 10, 2021 at 08:37 PM

They grew up wearing actual princess dresses and crowns.

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unaluna Elder Harridan x-hankster Member Since Jun 2011 Location: Milan/Michigan Posts: 39,871 (SuperPoster!) 12 66.4k hugs given	Oct 09, 2021 at 10:18 PM #541 I blew dry my hair today, and it looks da bomb. The undercarriage, in back, could be a little neater, but the rest is your basic page boy bob whatever, all smooth and shiny silver. With baby bangs.

ArtieTheSequal Writing my way through... Member Since Feb 2020 Location: In the desert Posts: 7,239 (SuperPoster!) 4 5,775 hugs given	Oct 10, 2021 at 11:57 AM #548 Morning couch. Hugs/dignified head nods all around as appropriate.

Daffydungle Poohbah Member Since Apr 2020 Location: Nowhere Posts: 1,257 4 451 hugs given	Oct 10, 2021 at 04:39 PM #552 Last night i felt like singing in bed and all the pets jumped off and ran away. I will sing regardless these guys lick their privates.

unaluna Elder Harridan x-hankster Member Since Jun 2011 Location: Milan/Michigan Posts: 39,871 (SuperPoster!) 12 66.4k hugs given	Oct 10, 2021 at 07:59 PM #557 No kidding, in the early 70's i had shoes similar to that. Only the platforn was solid brown, and the uppers were gorgeous yellow and brown leather like swoopy saddle shoes, with a red leather circle appliqué on the sides. I got them in Toronto. Loved those shoes. Eventually the soles cracked apart.

unaluna Elder Harridan x-hankster Member Since Jun 2011 Location: Milan/Michigan Posts: 39,871 (SuperPoster!) 12 66.4k hugs given	Oct 10, 2021 at 08:37 PM #560 They grew up wearing actual princess dresses and crowns.