Does this email sound legit or rude/sarcastic?

Mountaindewed · Sep 22, 2021 at 04:08 PM

She says I’m abusing my meds and last night I took a lot of melatonin and a Benadryl to help me sleep. Which I guess could technically be considered an OD or a SA. Which was not my intention. So she says she wants to talk to my mom. I am 28 but my mom is my emergency contact. She calls my mom “mom” and is always talking about “mom” and acts like she’s my guardian even though I’m my own guardian. She never did call her so I guess I’m in the clear. Especially since it’s now been 24 hours since the incident so I don’t think she can legally do anything. Like force me IP.

Mountaindewed · Sep 22, 2021 at 04:23 PM

I honestly just wanted her to wish me luck regarding my surgery in the email she had sent about rescheduling my appointments. If she had just mentioned that very important thing I wouldn’t be upset.

She did though say she hopes it goes well as I was halfway out of her office.

My mom is confused about why she wants to talk to her. I already told her all about the med situation. I even give her my meds when I don’t trust myself. And I told my therapist that too. When I told my mom my therapist wanted to talk to her my mom thought my therapist was mad at her about something. I don’t think it’s very normal to have a therapist talk to an adult clients mom. It just seems like tattling.

Salmon77 · Sep 23, 2021 at 07:48 AM

I don't think it's normal either, you're an adult and there's really no reason for her to do so.

Glad she finally wished you well though.

Mountaindewed · Sep 23, 2021 at 05:04 PM

I had sent her an email this morning because I was excited about the news I got. Then around 2:30 maybe my mom came home from the store and told me she had called. She just said she wanted my mom to be aware of her concerns. My mom told her we are both keeping track of my Valium, and that I give her my meds when I don’t trust myself with them. My t said she’d email me back but I haven’t received one. I’m trying not to let this bug me. But I had great news I wanted to share with her and instead she talks to my mom.

velcro003 · Sep 23, 2021 at 09:00 PM

I really do not find it ethical that she called and talked to your mom. Did you give her permission (written) to do so?

Mountaindewed · 07:10 AM

My mom is listed as my emergency contact person. My therapist used that excuse to talk to her yesterday. Even though it wasn’t an emergency.

ScarletPimpernel · Sep 24, 2021 at 07:24 AM

If she thought you were in danger and wanted to make sure you're safe, and your mom is your emergency contact, then she did nothing wrong. Just because you aren't worried about something doesn't mean she's not.

ArtleyWilkins · Sep 24, 2021 at 08:04 AM

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Originally Posted by Mountaindewed

My mom is listed as my emergency contact person. My therapist used that excuse to talk to her yesterday. Even though it wasn’t an emergency.

If she feels you are overusing and/or abusing medications with the potential to cause you harm, that is a legitimate use of your mother as an emergency contact.

If you do not want your mother as an emergency contact, you can revoke that permission. (You do seem to fairly regularly abuse your meds though from what I remember reading your posts - perhaps this is a valid concern that you need to address in therapy.)

Salmon77 · Sep 24, 2021 at 09:12 AM

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If she thought you were in danger and wanted to make sure you're safe, and your mom is your emergency contact, then she did nothing wrong. Just because you aren't worried about something doesn't mean she's not.

But OP wasn't in danger? Even if the use of meds had been dangerous (doesn't really sound like it was--Benadryl and melatonin?) that danger was past. It's not an emergency and the fact that it took a couple days for the T to actually call shows she didn't feel it was an emergency.

Personally I'd put it in writing that T does not have permission to call your mom except under certain circumstances and specify what those are.

ScarletPimpernel · Sep 24, 2021 at 09:30 AM

I agree. The T should have called sooner if she thought the OP was in danger. But even the OP thought the police would be called, so I assume they thought they were in danger as well.

ArtleyWilkins · Sep 24, 2021 at 09:34 AM

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Originally Posted by ScarletPimpernel

I agree. The T should have called sooner if she thought the OP was in danger. But even the OP thought the police would be called, so I assume they thought they were in danger as well.

That's what keeps coming to my mind. The OP kept talking about thinking the police were going to be called, so even the OP appears to think this use of meds was at least done in a way that was probably not aligned with safe use of medications.

But again, take mom off the emergency list if this is something that you don't want to happen anymore. Easy fix.

Mountaindewed · Sep 24, 2021 at 10:04 AM

I didn’t think I was in danger. It’s melatonin and a Benadryl. I’ve done it tons of times. The therapist wouldn’t tell me anything. I just assumed she thought I was in danger. This therapist has poor communication skills and wouldn’t tell me what she would or wouldn’t do when I mentioned the police. When I told her not to call them she just stared at me.

She loves the police so I figured out later I probably just offended her with my very different opinion.

littleblackdog · Sep 24, 2021 at 10:23 AM

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Originally Posted by Mountaindewed

I didn’t think I was in danger. It’s melatonin and a Benadryl. I’ve done it tons of times. The therapist wouldn’t tell me anything. I just assumed she thought I was in danger. This therapist has poor communication skills and wouldn’t tell me what she would or wouldn’t do when I mentioned the police. When I told her not to call them she just stared at me.

She loves the police so I figured out later I probably just offended her with my very different opinion.

It doesn't matter that you have done it several times, you said:

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Originally Posted by Mountaindewed

I told her last night before I fell asleep that I was using my meds to numb my anxiety and she told me that is abusing my meds and I need to talk to my doctor.

and that I guess is what concerns her - you aren't using meds properly, and are taking very high doses of over-the-counter meds in addition to your prescription meds.
As for the police, you seem hung up on the fact that she 'loves' police which is why she didn't respond to you, but equally it could be that misusing your meds is not a police matter - it is something she has already said you need to discuss with your doctor...

Mountaindewed · 09:03 PM

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Salmon77 Poohbah Member Since Mar 2014 Location: PNW Posts: 1,394 10 106 hugs given	Sep 23, 2021 at 07:48 AM #23 I don't think it's normal either, you're an adult and there's really no reason for her to do so. Glad she finally wished you well though.

velcro003 Elder Member Since Oct 2008 Posts: 7,361 15 25 hugs given	Sep 23, 2021 at 09:00 PM #25 I really do not find it ethical that she called and talked to your mom. Did you give her permission (written) to do so?

Mountaindewed Legendary Wise Elder Member Since Jun 2016 Location: Where the sidewalk ends Posts: 36,174 (SuperPoster!) 7 8,753 hugs given	Sep 24, 2021 at 06:09 AM #26 My mom is listed as my emergency contact person. My therapist used that excuse to talk to her yesterday. Even though it wasn’t an emergency. __________________ Ridin' with Biden Last edited by Mountaindewed; Sep 24, 2021 at 07:10 AM..

ScarletPimpernel Wise Elder Member Since Nov 2013 Location: US Posts: 8,407 (SuperPoster!) 10 6,413 hugs given	Sep 24, 2021 at 07:24 AM #27 If she thought you were in danger and wanted to make sure you're safe, and your mom is your emergency contact, then she did nothing wrong. Just because you aren't worried about something doesn't mean she's not. __________________ "Odium became your opium..." ~Epica

ScarletPimpernel Wise Elder Member Since Nov 2013 Location: US Posts: 8,407 (SuperPoster!) 10 6,413 hugs given	Sep 24, 2021 at 09:30 AM #30 I agree. The T should have called sooner if she thought the OP was in danger. But even the OP thought the police would be called, so I assume they thought they were in danger as well. __________________ "Odium became your opium..." ~Epica

Mountaindewed Legendary Wise Elder Member Since Jun 2016 Location: Where the sidewalk ends Posts: 36,174 (SuperPoster!) 7 8,753 hugs given	Sep 24, 2021 at 10:33 AM #34 I’ve asked the moderators for this thread to be closed. __________________ Ridin' with Biden Last edited by FooZe; Sep 24, 2021 at 09:03 PM.. Reason: Administrative edit to bring within guidelines