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Grand Poohbah
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Location: Sweden
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In May I abruptly left my counselor and never returned. I liked her as a person but she couldnīt help me with my issues and we mostly talked about everyday things and she shared a lot about herself.
I got very disappointed in her when she in May asked me what I would do if I canīt get psychotherapy at the facility and I then told her Iīll file a complaint and Iīll tell my welfare secretray that I, if they cut me off from the facility, I donīt have a doctor to see anymore. My counselor then said, "Well, by that you have a plan!" and she didnīt present any solutions but left me sitting there. I began to cry and I sat quiet for the rest of our meeting. When the time was up and she had given me the date for our next meeting I just went straight to the door saying nothing. Many more things have happened during the time I saw this counselor and although she couldnīt help me she never acknowledged that but just asked me what I should do if I canīt get psychotherapy. It should have been her who presented some kind of solution as she must be aware she couldnīt help me. But I though feel bad about just leaving as we had some nice meetings and I got to know her rather well. In a therapeutic sense she crossed boundaries by talking a lot about herself, her family and so on but she wasnīt a therapist, nor giving therapy but just supportive chats. In some ways I miss her and I feel sad about our "ending" when I just rushed out the door saying nothing. Even if I could phone her or book a meeting I donīt want to as it wouldnīt change how I feel, that I miss her at the same time as Iīm disappointed in her. I also think a lot about that she has her family, her job, her dogs and so on and Iīm alone as Iīve been for many years now. I feel itīs very unfair as I went to her and that facility to get help and when I donīt get it, they just continue living their lives. |
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Grand Magnate
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I'm so sorry this is happening to you. Sounds really dreadful. I lost a therapist who I liked and it was very, very sad for me. She was the only therapist I liked. But the circumstances of this were quite different than what you experienced and I think it is very understandable that you have mixed feelings about it. I hope that somehow things will get better for you. I know that is kind of a pathetic response to your post, but I really don't know what to say to be helpful. So sorry!
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It is normal to have mixed feelings about this. The heart can't disengage overnight.
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Grand Poohbah
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Thanks. Iīm sorry for you as well, that you lost that therapist you liked. I also feel hopelessness in my situation as I canīt get access to therapy and by that Iīm also left with my feelings of sadness and grief.
Thanks for showing support. |
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How are you doing now?
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Grand Poohbah
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Thanks Bill3 for asking about me.
I still miss that counselor from time to time and I sometimes cry over how I left her and that Iīll never see her again. Some days it feels a bit better and I donīt think about it that much. Iīm waiting for a referall to a health care center but they wonīt be able to give me the treatment I need so in that sense I seem to be out of options. |
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