Wrapping Up Therapy

ada1982 · Oct 13, 2021 at 06:07 AM

I like my therapist, but our sessions have become very mundane. At this point I feel like I could be a therapist myself. I know exactly what to say and do: compassion, non-judgement, attune to your body etc.

I want to end therapy but I don't know how to go about it. I just fill like I have hit a wall in terms of progress and a lot of the issues that originally brought me into therapy have been resolved.

The only reason I am conflicted on how to proceed is I will miss my therapist. I don't easily connect with people and I will no longer have her support. Did anyone conclude therapy and not miss a therapist that they liked?

ArtieTheSequal · Oct 13, 2021 at 03:28 PM

Not just yet. But I hope you get some answers from those who have.

velcro003 · Oct 13, 2021 at 09:18 PM

I guess you could just tell her what you said here? Maybe you can start by slowing down how often you go. If you go weekly, go every other week, and see how it goes? If that seems to be going well, maybe every third week, etc.

I have not stopped therapy with a T that I have liked, and am terrified of it! It isn't happening anytime soon, but still...

Favorite Jeans · Oct 13, 2021 at 11:48 PM

I recently did but it was because she retired. So not the same. In retrospect though, I can see that I’d sort of hit a wall with her therapeutically and that we weren’t doing quite as good work as we had been previously. I don’t think it’s because I am all sorted out but more that she was great but we’d gone as far as we could together.

I’m doing really different work in two very different kinds of therapy now and it’s cool and helpful. So I feel kind of grateful to my previous therapist for letting me go (I definitely did not feel ready to let her go!) because it’s freed me to try new things.

All this to say… if things are getting boring, stop. You can always go back or have less frequent check in sessions. You might find that freeing up the resources you’ve been putting into that therapy gives you an opportunity to explore something new.

Waterbear · Oct 14, 2021 at 07:14 AM

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Originally Posted by Favorite Jeans

I’m doing really different work in two very different kinds of therapy now and it’s cool and helpful. So I feel kind of grateful to my previous therapist for letting me go (I definitely did not feel ready to let her go!) because it’s freed me to try new things.

Thank you so much for writing this! I'm not sure I am at the point of grateful, yet, but definitely interesting to hear how you have reached this position. I still can't quite imagine never seeing or speaking to my T ever again though

ArtleyWilkins · Oct 14, 2021 at 07:55 AM

Yes, I finished up therapy about a decade ago. Loved my therapist, but I just really didn't need him anymore.

It helped that I had gotten more involved in activities that got me out and around other people with regularity, so I certainly wasn't relying on my therapist for social support.

We had a plan to just decrease sessions and stop when it felt right. What I discovered is that I really didn't need to "wean" off of therapy, and honestly, I just cancelled my last appointment and never went back. We didn't have some big closure session or anything; it really wasn't necessary. He knew why I stopped. I was ready.

ArtieTheSequal · Oct 16, 2021 at 02:06 PM

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Originally Posted by ArtleyWilkins

Yes, I finished up therapy about a decade ago. Loved my therapist, but I just really didn't need him anymore.

It helped that I had gotten more involved in activities that got me out and around other people with regularity, so I certainly wasn't relying on my therapist for social support.

We had a plan to just decrease sessions and stop when it felt right. What I discovered is that I really didn't need to "wean" off of therapy, and honestly, I just cancelled my last appointment and never went back. We didn't have some big closure session or anything; it really wasn't necessary. He knew why I stopped. I was ready.

Thanks Artley, this is helpful for me.

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ArtieTheSequal Writing my way through... Member Since Feb 2020 Location: In the desert Posts: 7,219 (SuperPoster!) 4 5,754 hugs given	Oct 13, 2021 at 03:28 PM #2 Not just yet. But I hope you get some answers from those who have.
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velcro003 Elder Member Since Oct 2008 Posts: 7,361 15 25 hugs given	Oct 13, 2021 at 09:18 PM #3 I guess you could just tell her what you said here? Maybe you can start by slowing down how often you go. If you go weekly, go every other week, and see how it goes? If that seems to be going well, maybe every third week, etc. I have not stopped therapy with a T that I have liked, and am terrified of it! It isn't happening anytime soon, but still...
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