Couch 233: Nothing’s Ghana Stop Us Now

ScarletPimpernel · Nov 18, 2021 at 07:47 PM

I just had a cortisone shot in my knee. Last time I had it was 15 years ago. Dang those hurt! I'm such a baby with needles even though I have tons of tattoos. But I think it might be working. I don't think I feel as much pain. I'm limping, but it's because it feels weird.

ArtieTheSequal · Nov 18, 2021 at 07:52 PM

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Maybe it could have been L not containing her emotions? Just because she's a T, and a good T, doesn't make her perfect. Even my L has had a few times where she didn't contain her emotions. Or maybe it was both Artie and L?

I guess I pushed a button is all. Not on purpose. But I did.

ArtieTheSequal · Nov 18, 2021 at 07:53 PM

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Originally Posted by ScarletPimpernel

I just had a cortisone shot in my knee. Last time I had it was 15 years ago. Dang those hurt! I'm such a baby with needles even though I have tons of tattoos. But I think it might be working. I don't think I feel as much pain. I'm limping, but it's because it feels weird.

Ouch!! I had one of those a few years back in my foot, when I first found out I had the bone spur on my heel along with plantar fasciatis. however you spell it

ScarletPimpernel · Nov 18, 2021 at 07:54 PM

You are not responsible for others feelings. That's what my L tells me.

ArtieTheSequal · Nov 18, 2021 at 07:58 PM

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Artie, out of curiosity, did you say something critical about her or about how she does therapy? I ask, because that's what happened when ex-MC lashed out at me. When we were in the rupture where I said I loved him, then he said it was OK, but that I needed to talk about that with him or Dr.T. And then I said I wanted to talk about it with him (ex-MC), and he said he thought I should talk about it with Dr. T instead. And then said something about trying to keep clear and consistent boundaries around marriage counseling (this was over text). To which I said something like, "Oh, now you're trying to play the boundary card?" Which is when he called me and was very harsh toward me. I suspect it was because I challenged him and was critical, and he couldn't deal with that, so got not just defensive, but offensive.

Anyway, I was just wondering if something like that could be happening with L? Where you were challenging/questioning/pushing her, and she's not used to that, so she's expressing anger and/or frustration?

Whatever is going on, I hope tomorrow is helpful.

Not challenging or questioning her, but definitely pushing the limits of her patience. Not intentionally, but....I need to think about why I did that before I see her tomorrow.

And thanks. I'm sure it will be. I still have a lot of faith in the length of time the relationship was totally solid - and in her as a t. And in me. We can both do this.

ArtieTheSequal · Nov 18, 2021 at 08:01 PM

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Originally Posted by ScarletPimpernel

You are not responsible for others feelings. That's what my L tells me.

I hear that a lot too.

ArtieTheSequal · Nov 18, 2021 at 08:12 PM

We went and picked up dinner at our favorite little italian restaurant. they have cauliflower crust pizza now. omg it was GOOOOOD!!! Especially since I threw out over half the soup I tried to eat for lunch - it was just toooo spicy. Artie was hungry!

ScarletPimpernel · Nov 18, 2021 at 09:21 PM

How do you tell family that you want a loved one to move out?... I think this will have to be part of my session with L tomorrow even though I really need to focus on me and surviving all of this.

MobiusPsyche · Nov 18, 2021 at 09:26 PM

Gingerbread Oreos are a thing and they're actually quite nice.

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NP_Complete · Nov 19, 2021 at 12:36 AM

I recently subscribed to this snacks-from-different-countries box and this month it's Scandinavian snacks, never mind that's not an actual country. One of them is a nougat + caramel candy bar covered in chocolate, so like a US Milky Way (don't know what that's called elsewhere), with salty licorice. I can't decide if that sounds good or awful. I do like licorice, but my brain isn't cooperating with the concept of adding it to a Milky Way. It's called 'Yankie Lakrids' and is from Denmark.

WarmFuzzySocks · Nov 19, 2021 at 01:15 AM

NP- the snacks box sounds like something my son would enjoy. Do you mind sharing a link or name so I can take a look?

WarmFuzzySocks · Nov 19, 2021 at 01:30 AM

Acupuncture has made a huge difference in my sleep. I remember *longing* for just one night of half-decent sleep, for years. Constant night waking, early morning waking. After a few sessions, I was getting decent sleep almost every night. After additional treatments for my tmj I started sleeping consistently and it's lasted even though I haven't been for a couple months. (Jaw clenching and tooth grinding, also gone.)

I'm still not sure I even believe in it, although I definitely believe in the curative effects of lying still for 20 minutes alone in a dark room. Whether it's real, placebo, magic, who cares?

NP_Complete · Nov 19, 2021 at 02:17 AM

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NP- the snacks box sounds like something my son would enjoy. Do you mind sharing a link or name so I can take a look?

Sure, no problem. 'Scandinavia' is only my second box, but it's kind of interesting to see what other countries snack on. Turkey was the first box, and by far the best snack was this Snowball type thing that was chocolate and coffee flavored, and I don't even like coffee, but it was delicious.

https://www.universalyums.com/

LostOnTheTrail · Nov 19, 2021 at 03:32 AM

Chocolate is one of my favourite subjects - what America calls a Milky Way is known as a Mars bar in the UK. The UK Milky Way is similar to the US 3 Musketeers bar.

comrademoomoo · Nov 19, 2021 at 04:08 AM

The UK box is funny. Some of those brands are well known (Mackies crisps are the best and I am a recognised crisp expert of many years training and specialist research) and all the snacks are popular. However, some of the brands are not well known or are really low quality. It's an uncanny box, a Stepford snack box if you will.

comrademoomoo · Nov 19, 2021 at 04:13 AM

Oh hang on, unless some snacks are
specifically chosen because they are from Wales and Northern Ireland. I wouldn't know those snacks, I only know English and Scottish snacks. Huh, in which case this would be a pretty cool box. My my, you live and learn. I still have so much to discover about life.

comrademoomoo · Nov 19, 2021 at 04:25 AM

Actually, this is really cool if they have broken down the snacks into the four nations. Usually, UK just translates as "England" which is boring and inaccurate. I wonder what the drinks would be. Scotland would be Irn Bru of course. Would Vimto be England's offering? Horlicks maybe? I would say tea but of course we stole that like we steal everything. Oh they could branch out and have a colonial box for the politically minded snack consumer. Tea, Bombay mix, gin.

ChickenNoodleSoup · Nov 19, 2021 at 04:41 AM

Those boxes look amazing, wished they'd ship to here :P

Also, today I learned milky ways are not the same in Europe and the US. I always assume they are the same... our milky ways are like in the UK and Mars is the name of the US version too.

LonesomeTonight · Nov 19, 2021 at 06:24 AM

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Originally Posted by NP_Complete

I recently subscribed to this snacks-from-different-countries box and this month it's Scandinavian snacks, never mind that's not an actual country. One of them is a nougat + caramel candy bar covered in chocolate, so like a US Milky Way (don't know what that's called elsewhere), with salty licorice. I can't decide if that sounds good or awful. I do like licorice, but my brain isn't cooperating with the concept of adding it to a Milky Way. It's called 'Yankie Lakrids' and is from Denmark.

My friend has now lived in Finland for years. The first time she visited there, she brought back this licorice snack called (I'm sure I'm butchering the spelling) salmyaki. It was on one of the most vile things I've ever tasted, and I had to spit it out. Wonder if the licorice in the bar is similar, as it was also salty? (I know, different country, but nearby!) Trying to imagine a Milky Way involving that...

Apparently they even have a popular liqueur based on it. No thanks!

MobiusPsyche · Nov 19, 2021 at 07:10 AM

I used Universal Yums for a while, too, and it was good. I preferred the sweet snacks to the salty, but I thought it was a good value. Plus if there's a snack you really liked, you can go on their site and order more of just that one! (I stopped when I had the gastric bypass.)

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ScarletPimpernel Wise Elder Member Since Nov 2013 Location: US Posts: 8,407 (SuperPoster!) 10 6,405 hugs given	Nov 18, 2021 at 07:47 PM #441 I just had a cortisone shot in my knee. Last time I had it was 15 years ago. Dang those hurt! I'm such a baby with needles even though I have tons of tattoos. But I think it might be working. I don't think I feel as much pain. I'm limping, but it's because it feels weird. __________________ "Odium became your opium..." ~Epica

ScarletPimpernel Wise Elder Member Since Nov 2013 Location: US Posts: 8,407 (SuperPoster!) 10 6,405 hugs given	Nov 18, 2021 at 07:54 PM #444 You are not responsible for others feelings. That's what my L tells me. __________________ "Odium became your opium..." ~Epica

ArtieTheSequal Writing my way through... Member Since Feb 2020 Location: In the desert Posts: 7,224 (SuperPoster!) 4 5,756 hugs given	Nov 18, 2021 at 08:12 PM #447 We went and picked up dinner at our favorite little italian restaurant. they have cauliflower crust pizza now. omg it was GOOOOOD!!! Especially since I threw out over half the soup I tried to eat for lunch - it was just toooo spicy. Artie was hungry!

ScarletPimpernel Wise Elder Member Since Nov 2013 Location: US Posts: 8,407 (SuperPoster!) 10 6,405 hugs given	Nov 18, 2021 at 09:21 PM #448 How do you tell family that you want a loved one to move out?... I think this will have to be part of my session with L tomorrow even though I really need to focus on me and surviving all of this. __________________ "Odium became your opium..." ~Epica

MobiusPsyche Magnate Member Since Feb 2016 Location: Appalachian Mountains Posts: 2,040 8 15 hugs given	Nov 18, 2021 at 09:26 PM #449 Gingerbread Oreos are a thing and they're actually quite nice. Sent from my SM-G998U using Tapatalk __________________ "I would rather have questions that can't be answered than answers which can't be questioned." --Richard Feynman

WarmFuzzySocks Magnet Member Since Jun 2017 Location: in the garden Posts: 2,307 6 15.5k hugs given	Nov 19, 2021 at 01:15 AM #451 NP- the snacks box sounds like something my son would enjoy. Do you mind sharing a link or name so I can take a look? __________________ Since you cannot do good to all, you are to pay special attention to those who, by accidents of time, or place, or circumstance, are brought into closer connection with you. (St. Augustine)

comrademoomoo Grand Poohbah Member Since Feb 2019 Location: Toodlepip Posts: 1,711 5	Nov 19, 2021 at 04:08 AM #455 The UK box is funny. Some of those brands are well known (Mackies crisps are the best and I am a recognised crisp expert of many years training and specialist research) and all the snacks are popular. However, some of the brands are not well known or are really low quality. It's an uncanny box, a Stepford snack box if you will.

comrademoomoo Grand Poohbah Member Since Feb 2019 Location: Toodlepip Posts: 1,711 5	Nov 19, 2021 at 04:13 AM #456 Oh hang on, unless some snacks are specifically chosen because they are from Wales and Northern Ireland. I wouldn't know those snacks, I only know English and Scottish snacks. Huh, in which case this would be a pretty cool box. My my, you live and learn. I still have so much to discover about life.

ChickenNoodleSoup Grand Poohbah Member Since Apr 2017 Location: In a land far far away Posts: 1,574 7 1,304 hugs given	Nov 19, 2021 at 04:41 AM #458 Those boxes look amazing, wished they'd ship to here :P Also, today I learned milky ways are not the same in Europe and the US. I always assume they are the same... our milky ways are like in the UK and Mars is the name of the US version too.