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SlumberKitty · Dec 30, 2021 at 06:18 PM

At least I got my personal budget done for 2022 and it all feels very do-able.

SlumberKitty · Dec 30, 2021 at 06:19 PM

I just have to not get suckered in by all these people asking for money for their charities and showing sick animals and sick children and people displaced from their homes and be INTENTIONAL about my giving, instead of EMOTIONAL.

Not that I shouldn't have a heart and the occasional giving into an emotional appeal is okay but I think there's a fine line.

SlumberKitty · Dec 30, 2021 at 06:25 PM

ACK. I go back and forth feeling tortured. I think it best if I rest and just trust that everything will turn out okay.

ArtieTheSequal · Dec 30, 2021 at 06:40 PM

I'm relaxing tonight with a glass of wine and a lap full of crocheted squares to sew together.... once they're assembled, I'll figure out what kind of border to do.

Our friends who live about 5 minutes from us invited us to come over for dinner tomorrow evening for new years, but I'm not sure if we should go... It's just gonna be a small gathering, them and us and we're all vaxxed/boosted, but.... I guess I'm a little leery of trusting the reliability of the covid tests. Well, we're going to both test again tomorrow evening before we go, so I guess if those come back negative too, we can trust that more than just one, but I dunno. Also, neither of us are sick anyway. And they do have a big house, so we can easily socially distance and we will also be sitting outside for awhile around the firepit... so maybe it will be okay.

atisketatasket · Dec 30, 2021 at 06:53 PM

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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight

Hugs, Kit. Giving 25% of your gross income is way more than most of us do, so please try not to feel guilty about not giving more. Can you imagine how much good someone like Elon Musk could do if they did that?

I thought he was doing that by paying more taxes than anyone in US history ever?

Kit, you could give time instead of money. This is usually what I do (except when the federal government keeps depositing stimulus checks I don't want or need in my bank account).

ArtieTheSequal · Dec 30, 2021 at 07:00 PM

This is so annoying. I'll be typing along in a post and if I highlight something to erase and correct, before i know what's happening, my mouse has mysteriously grabbed another whole section I didn't mean to delete and deletes it. This time I am actually glad it happened though because I was typing some ridiculous thoughts in the dear t thread that my mouse mostly deleted, before I could post it. Thank goodness! Ha! Schmaltzy stuff. Y'all know how I can get. So, I miss L. Whoopdee doo. Time to accept that this is gonna be my reality for awhile, and just keep moving the hell forward anyway. This is what I wanted, what I needed, so here I go. I got this, yes I do!

atisketatasket · Dec 30, 2021 at 07:08 PM

CTRL-Z works for me in those situations.

And art--please stop punishing yourself and putting yourself down. Mourn. Stop saying things like "this is what I needed/wanted, whoopdedoo" and trying to spin everything positively. You're only erecting barriers between yourself and your sorrow and minimizing your grief. Feel it, really feel it. You don't have to play a role.

ArtieTheSequal · Dec 30, 2021 at 08:45 PM

you're probably right, @@. thanks.

ScarletPimpernel · Dec 30, 2021 at 11:31 PM

H signed the paperwork! He starts work on Tuesday. Phew!

WarmFuzzySocks · Dec 31, 2021 at 12:35 PM

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Originally Posted by SlumberKitty

I just have to not get suckered in by all these people asking for money for their charities and showing sick animals and sick children and people displaced from their homes and be INTENTIONAL about my giving, instead of EMOTIONAL.

Not that I shouldn't have a heart and the occasional giving into an emotional appeal is okay but I think there's a fine line.

I like your idea of intentional giving, Kit. I am pretty sensitive to the kind of imagery you're talking about above. I felt so much more inspired to give when I started deliberately seeking out organizations that focus on the results of their good work to inspire giving. I deliberately avoid those that try to play on my sense of guilt and horror to get me to give because I realized it felt really icky and manipulative to me.

WarmFuzzySocks · Dec 31, 2021 at 12:50 PM

It is a work holiday for me, so I tried to sleep in. No luck. I'm suddenly back to not sleeping. Ugh. I have lost my oomph.

I have an acupuncture visit in a little bit, but all I want to do is sit and stare out the window.

atisketatasket · Dec 31, 2021 at 03:20 PM

Double-edged sword category: in 2022 we will no longer have to worry about Betty White.

ArtieTheSequal · Dec 31, 2021 at 05:15 PM

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Originally Posted by ScarletPimpernel

H signed the paperwork! He starts work on Tuesday. Phew!

That's good news, Scarlet! I hope it goes well for him!

ArtieTheSequal · Dec 31, 2021 at 05:16 PM

Our 2nd covid tests were both negative. We were pretty sure they would be since neither of us are sick but we did them anyway.

Hugs and head nods all around as appropriate.

ArtieTheSequal · Dec 31, 2021 at 06:23 PM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

CTRL-Z works for me in those situations.

And art--please stop punishing yourself and putting yourself down. Mourn. Stop saying things like "this is what I needed/wanted, whoopdedoo" and trying to spin everything positively. You're only erecting barriers between yourself and your sorrow and minimizing your grief. Feel it, really feel it. You don't have to play a role.

I've been thinking about this more - what I bolded up there. I think maybe that's what L may have been getting at the times when she would kinda poo-poo my positivity and call me "suzy sunshine" in a way that sounded like that wasn't a good thing. I think it's just maybe, the way I learned a long time ago to make myself feel better, talk myself into it being true, or something since feelings were not allowed. I'm beginning to allow the feelings now. I invited them in for awhile last night and a short poem came, and a couple of tears along with it. It is a start.

ArtieTheSequal · Dec 31, 2021 at 06:26 PM

I'm about to start sewing the 4th and last strip onto the other 3 that are already sewn together, of my nephew's lapghan. Looking forward to getting back to the crocheting, as sewing the squares together isn't my favorite thing to do. Not sure yet what I'm going to do for the border - maybe a round of half double crochet then a round of triple crochet then another round of half doubles? We shall see.

It's a dreary, rainy new years eve here... hopefully that means there won't be (m)any fireworks.

LonesomeTonight · Dec 31, 2021 at 06:34 PM

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Originally Posted by ArtieTheSequal

Our 2nd covid tests were both negative. We were pretty sure they would be since neither of us are sick but we did them anyway.

Hugs and head nods all around as appropriate.

Glad to hear it, Artie!

stopdog · Dec 31, 2021 at 07:55 PM

I think I would just as soon get it over with. I think everyone is going to catch it at some point. I am not sure I believe the negative test results I got back - except I don't have a fever - just bone aching tiredness and head goo

LonesomeTonight · Dec 31, 2021 at 08:37 PM

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Originally Posted by stopdog

I think I would just as soon get it over with. I think everyone is going to catch it at some point. I am not sure I believe the negative test results I got back - except I don't have a fever - just bone aching tiredness and head goo

I get this. Honestly, I was somewhat disappointed that my pre-Christmas test results were negative. Part of that was that it would have gotten me out of seeing family that weekend, but part was that I'd prefer to have gotten it over with. Especially less than a month out from my booster, when I'd be more protected. But also because if I have it, then I'd feel I could go back to more normal life. Like go to a concert I have tickets to on Feb. 2.

unaluna · Dec 31, 2021 at 08:49 PM

And here i am with a UTI. Got dr on demand to write me a prescription today, took my first dose at 5 pm, and started feeling better within an hour. I said something to my LYFT driver about not feeling well, so i left him a message that i just had old lady problems, not covid. Anyway tg for modern medicine, otherwise i would be like Miss Melanie right now.

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SlumberKitty Legendary Wise Elder Member Since Jul 2018 Location: CA Posts: 27,329 (SuperPoster!) 6 117.7k hugs given	Dec 30, 2021 at 06:18 PM #341 At least I got my personal budget done for 2022 and it all feels very do-able. __________________ Dum Spiro Spero IC XC NIKA

SlumberKitty Legendary Wise Elder Member Since Jul 2018 Location: CA Posts: 27,329 (SuperPoster!) 6 117.7k hugs given	Dec 30, 2021 at 06:25 PM #343 ACK. I go back and forth feeling tortured. I think it best if I rest and just trust that everything will turn out okay. __________________ Dum Spiro Spero IC XC NIKA

ArtieTheSequal Writing my way through... Member Since Feb 2020 Location: In the desert of my soul Posts: 7,530 (SuperPoster!) 4 5,957 hugs given	Dec 30, 2021 at 08:45 PM #348 you're probably right, @@. thanks.

ScarletPimpernel Wise Elder Member Since Nov 2013 Location: US Posts: 8,646 (SuperPoster!) 10 7,040 hugs given	Dec 30, 2021 at 11:31 PM #349 H signed the paperwork! He starts work on Tuesday. Phew! __________________ "Odium became your opium..." ~Epica

atisketatasket Child of a lesser god Member Since Jun 2015 Location: Tartarus Posts: 19,275 (SuperPoster!) 9 12.4k hugs given	Dec 31, 2021 at 03:20 PM #352 Double-edged sword category: in 2022 we will no longer have to worry about Betty White. __________________ Ich weiß nicht, was soll es bedeuten. Daß ich so traurig bin. “I do not know what this can mean. I am so very sad.” —Heinrich Heine

ArtieTheSequal Writing my way through... Member Since Feb 2020 Location: In the desert of my soul Posts: 7,530 (SuperPoster!) 4 5,957 hugs given	Dec 31, 2021 at 05:16 PM #354 Our 2nd covid tests were both negative. We were pretty sure they would be since neither of us are sick but we did them anyway. Hugs and head nods all around as appropriate.

unaluna Elder Harridan x-hankster Member Since Jun 2011 Location: Milan/Michigan Posts: 40,686 (SuperPoster!) 13 68.1k hugs given	Dec 31, 2021 at 08:49 PM #360 And here i am with a UTI. Got dr on demand to write me a prescription today, took my first dose at 5 pm, and started feeling better within an hour. I said something to my LYFT driver about not feeling well, so i left him a message that i just had old lady problems, not covid. Anyway tg for modern medicine, otherwise i would be like Miss Melanie right now.