[justbreathe1994]

Hi all,
I am in the process of transitioning to a new T since I moved out of state. I’ve been seeing my old T over telehealth until I found a new T. I was aware that I’d have til April to find a new T since my old T is going on maternity leave. This is something I’ve known about and have been mentally preparing myself for awhile. Last week, during our session, my old T reminded that we have four more sessions left. Since I started with new T a few weeks ago, this week old T asked if we could skip the next two sessions and just meet once more at the end of March “to give new T a fair chance.” I was a bit hurt by this since I was counting on having four sessions left. I told her I’d prefer to keep seeing her til the end of March and that I didn’t think seeing her during the transition would compromise me giving new T a fair chance. Then I said, “but I guess we could skip the sessions if that’s what you want…” Old T then said we could compromise and meet two more times instead of one.

I know it’s probably not a big deal to miss a session or two since I am transitioning anyway and a big part of me understands where she’s coming from about giving new T a fair chance. I guess I’m just feeling really stressed about it and it is harder knowing I have one less session with old T. I don’t want to make a big deal out of it because old T knows my history with attachment issues and I don’t want her to think I’m being clingy with her. She’s also willing to stay in touch and I think she’s okay with meeting when I’m home on breaks from school, so it’s not like a black and white ending. I guess I just don’t know whether it’s worth bringing up this hurt with her or not, even though I think she’d like to know how it impacted me. Are my feelings understandable?

[Waterbear]

Wow... I think endings are so very important and should be treated with as much care and respect as the work. I think you should stick to your guns if you feel you want the ones that was agreed upon initially.

[Lemoncake]

Originally Posted by justbreathe1994

Hi all,
I am in the process of transitioning to a new T since I moved out of state. I’ve been seeing my old T over telehealth until I found a new T. I was aware that I’d have til April to find a new T since my old T is going on maternity leave. This is something I’ve known about and have been mentally preparing myself for awhile. Last week, during our session, my old T reminded that we have four more sessions left. Since I started with new T a few weeks ago, this week old T asked if we could skip the next two sessions and just meet once more at the end of March “to give new T a fair chance.” I was a bit hurt by this since I was counting on having four sessions left. I told her I’d prefer to keep seeing her til the end of March and that I didn’t think seeing her during the transition would compromise me giving new T a fair chance. Then I said, “but I guess we could skip the sessions if that’s what you want…” Old T then said we could compromise and meet two more times instead of one.

I know it’s probably not a big deal to miss a session or two since I am transitioning anyway and a big part of me understands where she’s coming from about giving new T a fair chance. I guess I’m just feeling really stressed about it and it is harder knowing I have one less session with old T. I don’t want to make a big deal out of it because old T knows my history with attachment issues and I don’t want her to think I’m being clingy with her. She’s also willing to stay in touch and I think she’s okay with meeting when I’m home on breaks from school, so it’s not like a black and white ending. I guess I just don’t know whether it’s worth bringing up this hurt with her or not, even though I think she’d like to know how it impacted me. Are my feelings understandable?

100% understandable and It is worth bringing up too.If you agreed and need 4 that's what she should stick with.

[LonesomeTonight]

I agree--she should stick to what she initially offered if that's still what you want. I'd ask her about it.