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Writing my way through...
Member Since Feb 2020
Location: In the desert
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#501
hugs, waterbear.
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SlumberKitty, Waterbear
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Quietmind 2
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Member Since Aug 2019
Location: The World
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#502
Arrggghhhh why can’t I just say what is in my head? What can’t I ask for what I need? Why have I made no improvement with this in a year? You just don’t get it. You don’t understand how intolerably painful the risk of rejection feels. You don’t get how painful this transference is. You don’t get that I can’t see how this all gets better. I’m so tired of getting nowhere. I’m tired of therapeutic relationships becoming just as painful as the reasons I am in therapy. I think I need to walk away. But my infant parts are too attached and won’t let go. How does this ever get any better?
Oh and thanks for saying the year we have been working together has been ‘challenging.’ Great to know how you feel about me. |
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Always in This Twilight
Member Since Feb 2015
Location: US
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#503
Dear T,
Why do Friday sessions always seem to end in a weird place? Sigh. I am trying really hard to stay with what I said at the end, how I know your mentioning medication is because you want to help me. Not to help you. It occurred to me on the drive home how I bet this is coming from my parents, where they tried to make me take anxiety meds when I didn't want to because they were tired of dealing with my anxiety. I'll mention that Monday. I do really appreciate your actually saying out loud, "You're not too much for me." I can try to tell myself that, and I know I should realize that at this point. But it still helped to hear you say the words. I think you realized that, and it's why you said it. I'm trying to figure out how I feel about your saying you don't think I've actually had true depression since seeing you, that it all stems from my anxiety, or was situational, like with the pandemic. Part of it feels like you're minimizing things, being invalidating in a way like my parents. Or do you have a point? As someone who sees depressed clients, maybe I just present differently? I did find it interesting that you said how my anxiety hits more areas than probably any other client you've had. Not necessarily in severity, but in breadth. That *did* feel validating. Plus your listing fear of abandonment among all the other things, even though, like you said, not a DSM diagnosis. Maybe I will contact Dr. S on Monday. Doubt I'll be able to see her for a bit, and unsure if I'm even still formally a patient. But perhaps it could be worth trying again? I really do believe that you just want to help me struggle less. Not make it easier for you. That's progress, right? Ugh, now I have to go to my GP in 2 hours. Wish the appointments had been in opposite order....but glad I'll see you Monday morning before heading out of town. Love, LT PS--The real UGH is to the news.... |
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Elder
Member Since Oct 2008
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#504
Dear T: Aw, It’s so sweet you are letting me keep your pillow! Except what am I going to do when we return to in-person appt’s? I guess I better make sure you get a new pillow.
LT-With you on the news… |
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Tweaky Dog
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#505
Four more sleeps.
I don't know what being brave means in this situation. __________________ 'Somewhere up above the great divide Where the sky is wide, and the clouds are few A man can see his way clear to the light 'You have all the grace you need for today, and today is all that matters.' - Steve Austin |
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#506
Well that session certainly worked out well. Especially since I emailed you 15 minutes after asking you to explain some things you said at the end that I didn't understand so I wouldn't be freaked out all weekend that I did something wrong. But I'm glad we got our times moved back to the AM since this mid afternoon time slot doesn't work out for me physically or emotionally.
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Writing my way through...
Member Since Feb 2020
Location: In the desert
Posts: 7,239
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#507
Hey L, yes, it was!
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SlumberKitty
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Magnate
Member Since Sep 2013
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#508
Hey T, I want to give up.
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AliceKate, ElectricManatee, LonesomeTonight, Lostislost, SlumberKitty
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Elder
Member Since Oct 2008
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#509
E: C-PTSD?!
This might be worse than the word “trauma” |
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Always in This Twilight
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#510
Dear T,
GP appointment went OK! Apparently my BP was OK, even though charts online show it as hypertension, but right on the border. EKG was good, which was a relief. She also was totally fine with my doing the bloodwork later--and added a couple tests related to the migraines, so she seems to be taking me seriously. But also fairly chill about things, like just do the colonoscopy at some point, and eventually I should get a tetanus shot. Though then I was in a very minor car accident in the parking lot--so thankful we both agree to just let it go. Does my car maybe have a slight dent in the side? Maybe--I need to look more closely later. Seemed to be mostly just be paint that can easily be wiped off. But I feel we were probably equally at fault, and I really didn't want to get insurance or--worse--police involved. It was really just a light tap. But I immediately went into panic mode, like, "well, now I've screwed up...." But it was OK. But I can manage it right now, like I don't need to email. I mean...yeah, I kinda wish I could talk to you before Monday. But at least for right now, it's OK that I'm not talking to you until then. Love, LT |
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Writing my way through...
Member Since Feb 2020
Location: In the desert
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#511
I so want to talk to you for reals and not just in my head.
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Writing my way through...
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#512
But I don't know what you would say if I were to ask.
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Writing my way through...
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#513
Today is a sad day.
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Tweaky Dog
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#514
Having done the right thing should be a release, but it doesn't seem to work that way.
I really need a break from saving the world to look after myself. __________________ 'Somewhere up above the great divide Where the sky is wide, and the clouds are few A man can see his way clear to the light 'You have all the grace you need for today, and today is all that matters.' - Steve Austin |
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Poohbah
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#515
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Writing my way through...
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#516
So I did a little work with that dream this morning, the one where the male t had me draw a circle. I went back into the dream and re-drew a circle and asked him to tell me why he wanted me to. He told me to think about circles, what they mean, what they represent. I said well, they represent wholeness, "what goes around comes around", beginning and endings? Or maybe you're suggesting there's something I need to 'circle back' to? And he goes "aha" in that annoying way that t's have of doing.
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#517
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Quietmind 2
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Legendary Wise Elder
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#518
I told you you didn't have to reply to that email so I figured you most likely wouldn't and I honestly have a lot of other things to worry about today besides you.
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Elder
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#519
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Tweaky Dog
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#520
I opened my Kindle app last night, and the book is still there.
This time it's actually in the Quick Reads section. You would think, since I've complained about it, that they would make sure I didn't see it again. I don't want to give Amazon any more of my money, but I also want to be able to read the books I've bought in the past without being confronted by that dangerous content. Two things need to come out of this - a customer side 'Not interested' button, and parity in Amazon's product policies. They should not have something like that on the site, but I'm told it's under control and will be dealt with imminently. Just sucks that I apparently can't read my books in the meantime. __________________ 'Somewhere up above the great divide Where the sky is wide, and the clouds are few A man can see his way clear to the light 'You have all the grace you need for today, and today is all that matters.' - Steve Austin |
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