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Well, no charge for my car. Which is a nice break considering they did not actually fix anything. I'm sure the sound will start up in a day or two.

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Boy, I hate how I feel on the Lybalvi so I hardly ever take it. Then I forget how bad I feel on it. Then I mess up and take it again. I feel so depersonalized, so out of it, so dizzy and dazed. Like I just need to sleep it off. Good thing is I am having zero agitation now, zero paranoia, zero anxiety, if I have depression I'm too apathetic to care because I feel nothing with the Lybalvi. I'm a freaking Zombie.

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That's a lot to pay on top of what you're already paying her, Kit. Spending time setting up the session takes away from time that you could use to prepare for your appointment, or do self-care, or....

EM made some excellent points.
SK, I'm echoing Lost and EM here. Zoom Pro is a lot... it's also her job to figure out setting up the session. I'd feel unhappy even if it seems small because it's sloppy/unprofessional of the T. You're paying for your time with her, and it's her job to figure out the tech or admin stuff behind the scenes.

I'm also really puzzled by how does she seem to have a number of clients but struggle with setting up Zoom?

My T does telehealth across timezones (I learned that yesterday when I said I don't think I can, after I move countries) and I know she'd say that's the therapist's job to set up Zoom or whatever platform.
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SK, I'm echoing Lost and EM here. Zoom Pro is a lot... it's also her job to figure out setting up the session. I'd feel unhappy even if it seems small because it's sloppy/unprofessional of the T. You're paying for your time with her, and it's her job to figure out the tech or admin stuff behind the scenes.

I'm also really puzzled by how does she seem to have a number of clients but struggle with setting up Zoom?

My T does telehealth across timezones (I learned that yesterday when I said I don't think I can, after I move countries) and I know she'd say that's the therapist's job to set up Zoom or whatever platform.

I agree that this should be the responsibility of the T to set up. Zoom also seems relatively easy to set up--and I think she could opt to use the same meeting code for a particular client (mine has said he could have done that, but chose to create a new one each time for security reasons).

That's good that your T will do sessions across time zones. Do you have any sense of when your move could be?
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I just looked it up, and it's fifteen bucks a month?! Yikes! Why does she not pay for it herself? And what does she do when the forty minutes are up? Just cut the session short? It seems like a raw deal for her clients all around. Whatever you pay for sessions should also be paying for her to buy her own software for her business.
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I just looked it up, and it's fifteen bucks a month?! Yikes! Why does she not pay for it herself? And what does she do when the forty minutes are up? Just cut the session short? It seems like a raw deal for her clients all around. Whatever you pay for sessions should also be paying for her to buy her own software for her business.
Yeah, she should get it for herself because she does have other clients. However I get the feeling I am the only one she uses Zoom for and the rest she just talks on the telephone with. But I like to see my T's face and their reactions and such. Talking on the phone isn't the same for me. It doesn't feel therapy-ish. I tend to shut down while talking on the phone and there is a lot of silence. Then the T has to ask if I am still there. I've always been that way, not just with this T. She didn't cut the session short when the Zoom ran out last week, she just called me on my cell phone, which thankfully was charged, for the last 15 minutes. I mean, it worked, it just upset the flow of the conversation, and I couldn't see her or see her reactions or anything like that.

I'm not too annoyed about the cost because I teach a class (to just one person, it's a religious class) on Saturday's and I would have needed it anyway to go longer than 40 minutes. And we typically use Zoom on Saturday mornings for an hour to an hour and 15 minutes. So it's not like I wouldn't have ended up paying for it anyway.

I think I'm more bothered by her not setting it up and having things prepared for me. Like somehow, I'm not worth the hassle or bother of her learning a new skill. But she is 72 or 73. I think I would want people to give me grace if I still had to work at that age. So I will probably never tell her that it bothers me a little. It just hits on some nerves from being a child and not being properly looked after or taken care of. But I'm an adult now and I am capable of setting up Zoom for my therapist and as long as she is good in other areas, then I can overlook this. At some point I should bring up the feelings about not being taken care of in childhood properly but that's hard to do.

Thank you all for helping me to walk through this emotions and figure them out. I feel less "bad" about myself now than I did yesterday.

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Therapy last night was kind of difficult because I didn't have a lot to say. I should have talked more about the agitation and paranoia and anxiety that I had earlier in the day and the struggles I had after I took the PRN medication for it. Instead I mostly focused on things at work that were bothering me. It was a lighter session but it was okay because the T said she felt like she got to know me more. We also kind of briefly talked about a friend of mine who is not doing well physically and is on hospice and who is not expected to live that much longer. We probably should have worked through those feelings more but it was hard to think because of the medication that I took to deal with the paranoia and agitation and anxiety. Lighter sessions are good sometimes though. I didn't have any big crisis that needed to be discussed and she said she was glad I didn't have a big crisis every week.

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Thanks, Kit. That's really validating for me. I'm glad I'm not the only one who prefers Zoom if it's not possible to work face to face. I find phone conversations challenging, a whole lot of 'You can't see me, but I'm nodding' on my end...

I'm sorry about your friend. It's OK to take hard things slowly when discussing them in therapy. (Maybe I should take my own advice.)

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I agree with EM, you shouldn't have to do this.

I also wonder at the use of zoom for such a sensitive setting. It's not an allowed software for therapy in my country, cause it's data protection is ****.

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Yeah, I have also wondered about the data protection of Zoom. My IOP uses Zoom too for our group therapy. But I always wonder if there isn't better therapy software other than Zoom out there. My Pdoc uses one that is not Zoom and appears to be for medical purposes but I can't remember the name of it. But like you have a "virtual office" that you go to, and sign in to, and then type your name and then pretty soon he is on camera.

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I just postponed my GP appt from next monday to the end of may. Ive been exercising and generally doing better; i hope to continue this so im not totally wiped out by the visit like last time. But this time i will take lyft or zipcar, not the bus and get lost wandering all over the planet. My eye dr appt is next thursday, i will see if i can do my labs the same day.

Hopefully i will have clean clothes etc by then. Goals.
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My oldest nephew's birthday is tomorrow. He is turning 20. How is that possible?!! Where did the time go?! How am I old enough to have a nephew in his twenties?! Yikes. Time flies. His card with money got mailed on Saturday so he should have it by his birthday. I always give them money for their birthday as I have no idea what they want or need. I got him one of those pop up cards from Lovepop. It has a dog eating pizza that pops up out of the card. I hope he at least gets a smile out of it. I thought it was cute. I worry about him though. He seems adrift. He doesn't seem to have any goals. I know that I didn't know what I wanted to do with my life when I was twenty either but I was working and going to school at a community college. Since I didn't know what I wanted to do it made sense to go to community college where I could take all sorts of classes. I ended up graduating with like 96 units when you only needed 60. But I experienced a lot of different classes and got to see what I liked and didn't like. At his age, I owned a car that I paid for. He has a truck that his parents paid for. He isn't going to college. He took one semester, decided he doesn't like it and stopped going. He works extremely part time. Like some weeks, not at all. And he picks up his siblings from school and takes them to school. I just worry that he is going to spend a lot of time adrift and miss out on stuff. But he will find his way. I have to believe that. Just their family system is so toxic that I worry about him/all the children. He never goes out with friends or hangs out with anyone romantically. Just sits at home. I was hoping he would get inspired by his job and think about going to real estate school or something. But he says he doesn't want to do anything at all. I wish I knew more of how to inspire him or get him excited about anything at all. Even a hobby. Or volunteering. Or looking for a better paying job. Hmm. I worry about my boy but I am also aware that I am limited in my influence and what I am actually able to do for him. Soon my niece will (hopefully) graduate from high school. She is supposed to graduate June 3rd. She has missed a lot of school so I hope she can hang onto her grades for these last few weeks. She doesn't want to do anything either. Doesn't want to go to school or get a job or go out of the house to hang out with friends or anything. My heart hurts for these kiddos.

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I keep knitting slippers for ToddlerManatee and she keeps outgrowing them. I feel a little guilty about not making any for BabyManatee, but he barely keeps socks on at this stage. Slippers would be a lost cause.
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I keep knitting slippers for ToddlerManatee and she keeps outgrowing them. I feel a little guilty about not making any for BabyManatee, but he barely keeps socks on at this stage. Slippers would be a lost cause.
I bet you are making precious memories for ToddlerManatee. And you will make one day with BabyManatee.

I still have dolls that my cousin's grandma (who we also called grandma) made for me, I think it was crocheted. I wasn't allowed to play with them as a child, they sat on a shelf and when she would make me a new one, I would make room for the new one. It was lovely. I had one doll I was allowed to play with that was store bought. It didn't look like me and I had trouble relating to the doll as if she were my baby because she didn't look like me. My sister's doll looked like her and my sister's doll was perfect. Her hair was perfect, whereas my dolls hair was matted and unkempt even though I tried to brush it. I have both of those dolls still. My sister's doll perfect in hair style still and in a pink ballerina costume. But my doll looks loved on, even if I didn't relate to her. With her hair sticking up and a dress that my other grandma sewed for her. I still to this day do not understand why my parents bought me a doll with different skin color, hair color, and eye color than me. I remember them telling me, here is your baby, and I remember thinking, why doesn't she look like me? Maybe I was never supposed to be a mum. Even back then. Maybe I knew it deep inside. But I still loved that doll. Maybe I would have been a good mum. I don't know. I have strayed way off topic.

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Kitty i get that. I gave my nephew a nice check for his graduation and he bought a tv with it. That just broke my heart.

Also - i sooo wanted a blonde bride doll for my last doll. My mother chose a floozy looking doll in a sparkly red dress. It sat on her bed and i rarely played with it. I still have it too.
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Yeah, I have also wondered about the data protection of Zoom. My IOP uses Zoom too for our group therapy. But I always wonder if there isn't better therapy software other than Zoom out there. My Pdoc uses one that is not Zoom and appears to be for medical purposes but I can't remember the name of it. But like you have a "virtual office" that you go to, and sign in to, and then type your name and then pretty soon he is on camera.
doxy.me? My therapist used that for a bit. Still may for all I know.
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doxy.me? My therapist used that for a bit. Still may for all I know.
No that's not the name of my Pdoc's one but it is very similar to that. I think the pdoc's one is called simple health. Something like that. But yeah, I've used Doxy.me for healthcare purposes. I don't know how good their platform is either but I feel comforted that most of my doctors seem to use it.

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