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#101
I feel numb, frozen, and paralyzed. I don't even know where to start. I look around me and am overwhelmed.
My family doesn't get it. My dad is pushing me to visit my sister Tuesday morning to support her during her restraining order case. I have 10 days to pack 10 rooms, and I can barely move...literally. I'm nauseous due to the stress. And with L gone, I feel alone. I know I will feel better once the move is over. But it's so stressful to be going through it. __________________ "Odium became your opium..." ~Epica |
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#102
Big news in the GF world: Ben and Jerry’s now has some certified GF flavors (like Phish Food).
On the one hand, great. On the other, Ben and Jerry’s is not on the list of foods I miss. __________________ The secret to eternal youth is arrested development.—Alice Roosevelt Longworth |
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#103
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Here, there's so much gatekeeping, opaque criteria, stigma attached to getting help that people give up. Or folks who fall through the cracks in the system, or folks needing more help than what the state can give. For example, you can't get help with utilities or debts from unlicensed money lenders. I'm in a mutual aid group where there's a daily reality so I had to stop reading as I couldn't do much. I would link resources I'd found (many I didn't qualify for) in response to potentially eligible people with a disclaimer of "if you have the energy..." I'd just get more depressed so my T kept telling me to narrow my focus from a macro lens to a much more narrow "today, you did what you could for yourself." My new living environment is pretty good, very grateful for that. It's one where the landlord doesn't live in the flat with the tenants - which is really hard to find and typically really expensive. I managed to get this place for a good (relative to sky high rent prices) monthly rate by chance. Cooperative flatmates, no one monitors when I leave my room, or how many meals I cook unlike my past 2 landladies. Quote:
It's probably similar in the USA too about how canned food which is near expiry get thrown away. Restaurants too, so there's really good stuff getting dumped at the end of the day. I used to do a subscription service like yours and suggested it to my T! She was thrilled. Food aid is also a logistics issue because vehicles like cars, vans, trucks here cost a lot. Most people, including myself, use public transport. Cars are really more of a sign of affluence, where drivers for Uber and taxi companies rent the cars they drive. Whereas in the USA and my fiancé's nation, you really need a vehicle for daily life in quite a lot of areas, so getting a vehicle is kind of a "coming of age" thing in adolescence? So organisations need volunteer networks with dedicated folks who can drive to collect all those food at specific timings eg, early morning for some supermarkets, evening for xyz bakeries. Then people to sort produce, pack produce to be distributed at timings convenient to beneficiaries who often work long hours and/or have frequent medical appointments. Plus all those volunteers need to have jobs where they earn enough plus extra for their needs and where they've free time for all the volunteering. Narrows the pool quite a bit. |
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#104
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#105
I hope my T replies to my second email, it was all about my first psychiatrist VS my current one who is going on maternity leave.
I see my psychiatrist one more time before she goes on 4 months (?) maternity leave, so I want to say goodbye although I think I'd cry, when I've never cried in front of her. I'll have to decide what to do. Do I ask to see another psychiatrist at the same clinic where I'm on financial assistance? Or do I go with the other option she suggested where I see my Gender Psychiatrist (who is familiar with complex trauma and OSDD-1/DID) who is now in private practice? Thinking the 1st, though I understand why she suggested the 2nd. |
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#106
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Complaining about b n js is the capstone project for your phd in curmudgeonry. |
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#107
Can't go wrong with some Chubby Hubby or Cherry Garcia though. No candy there.
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#108
Phish food has been around for a while, I have been eating it for years.
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#109
__________________ The secret to eternal youth is arrested development.—Alice Roosevelt Longworth |
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#110
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#111
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#112
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#113
I've been dealing with anxiety for quite a while. I don't know why I am having it to this extreme. Every day it is a choice to either take medication or battle through it with alternatives: affirmations, deep breathing, mindfulness, meditation, etc. I keep trying to battle through it because I don't want to take medication all the time. But it's an every morning, nausea, almost panic attack feeling and then the anxiety stays with me all day. Hmm. I guess something to bring up in therapy. It just feels like, to me, oh there she goes again, whining about something. Like it's not worth mentioning. But it is starting to really have an effect on my life. I guess it's starting to be something that I just can't ignore away.
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#114
Last night in Aftercare we were supposed to watch a Ted Talk on Boundaries. We usually have music therapy for the first hour and then psycho-education for the second hour. But the music therapist was out so the other therapist did some group building exercises. He asked us all questions and we took turns answering. We were having so much fun that he decided to keep doing that in the second hour too and hold off on the boundaries Ted Talk until next week. So I am glad that I went even though I didn't want to go at first.
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#115
Hugs to all of you who need it!
Scarlet, I'm sorry you have to deal with this! Kit, I think it's a good idea to bring up in therapy, it sounds important to you in the current moment! Also, glad you had a good experience in Aftercare. |
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#116
The Therapy place that I had been calling for the last few months told me that they won't have any openings until at least late-July. I guess I just have to accept that I won't be getting back into Therapy for the foreseeable future.
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#117
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I'm sorry--could you get put on a list for cancellations maybe? |
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#118
Well, if there is some sort of list of "most awkward birthday wishes ever," I'm pretty sure I'd be on it for what I just said to Dr. T.
Starting with the long preface/disclaimer, including "I want to say something, but am not sure how you'll react" and his replying, "Well, we have 3 minutes, so maybe don't say anything you'll be too concerned about to the saying" (I wonder if he was bracing for an "I love you" or something?) and my saying how he knows I looked stuff up when I first started seeing him and have a memory for dates, then "I'm sure you know where I'm going now" (I think he said, "Maybe?" or something). And my saying "Happy Birthday" a couple times and his saying something else in response to each, and my finally saying, "I'm trying to wish you a Happy Birthday!" and his smiling and saying "Thank you." And my confirming it wasn't too weird, and his saying "maybe just a tiny bit, but it's OK." I confirmed again right when I left, of course. I probably should have just let it go, but it was kind of in the back of my mind all session, and it felt right saying it. |
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#119
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I don't know if I want to be on a cancelations list because I don't really want to be bouncing from one Therapist to the next, plus I would like to have a steady time so I can fit it into my schedule. __________________ COVID-19 Survivor- 4/26/2022 |
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#120
I wish this whole Depp v. Heard thing would just go away. I'm not following it, but it's hard to avoid at the same time.
On a possibly related note, I'm feeling really something that it feels like I can't speak about major events in my life. It feels like no one gives a crap, no one wants to listen, my mom wants to pretend my husband never existed, I'm making too big a deal about what happened, it wasn't actually a big deal, I should be past it all by now, etc., etc., etc. Feeling shut down. I don't want to go to therapy tomorrow, but if I email him and tell him that am I just really looking for attention? Am I an awful person because I want some attention? |
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