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#961
Thank you all. It's still a hard question for me to answer for myself, but your answers help.
I talked to L about it too today. We've talked about death before, but not in this way. I got 2 important messages from her. 1. Even though I can't really help my nieces at this stage, I do provide them with a role model who has good boundaries and loves them for who they are. 2. I do affect L. I do contribute to her life and I do bring her joy. That means a lot to me. She didn't try to guilt me into anything. I'm the one who asked those questions. __________________ "Odium became your opium..." ~Epica |
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#962
Trigger warning SUI
That’s great Scarlet. Your T has very valid points. My T, when she was very worried about me, showed up at my house one morning. After we talked for a few minutes, I said I was so sorry to ruin her day off. She told me that I didn’t ruin it, but if I had died, it would ruin her entire year and she would forever be affected. That meant a lot. Ugh. that is so difficult Artie. I’m sorry you had to deal with that. Last edited by CANDC; Jun 16, 2022 at 10:19 AM.. Reason: add Trigger warning SUI |
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Child of a lesser god
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#963
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#964
Had a great time today, hopefully tomorrow will be just as good.
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#965
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But yeah, to me its not about recognition. I see it like...a "ripple effect". Having experienced pain, we want to ease someone's pain, or at least witness their pain with compassion if it can't be eased. Last edited by Quietmind 2; Jun 16, 2022 at 01:28 AM.. |
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Poohbah
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#966
Trigger warning SUI
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Huge hugs... sorry, I relate a lot to loneliness and finding reasons to live and I mourn the cat who loved me even though he's still alive and hope he'll not miss me much. Last edited by CANDC; Jun 16, 2022 at 10:18 AM.. |
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#967
Trigger warning SUI
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#968
Trigger warning: SUI
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Child of a lesser god
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#969
Polite request: could we identify what’s going in a trigger box, please? Like TW FOR SUI or some such.
Basically, I’m in that state of mind quite a bit myself these days and it’s jarring to open a trigger box thinking it will be something insensitive someone said, when really it’s something that’s much too much on my mind these days. Thanks. __________________ The secret to eternal youth is arrested development.—Alice Roosevelt Longworth |
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Always in This Twilight
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#970
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Edited mine. (I had thought we were supposed to avoid using words like that outside a trigger box because it could trigger someone just seeing the word, but I'll be more careful about that now.) I'm very sorry you're feeling in that state. |
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#971
I can't edit my post to add TW, I'll take note. Sorry, Atat.
ETA: thanks Candac for editing my post. |
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Wise Elder
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#972
You know how we have a big couch to fit everyone on this forums? How cool would it be to have a picnic that could fit all of us too?
Bignik is the Picnic Dreams are Made Of - Cultivating Culture __________________ "Odium became your opium..." ~Epica |
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#973
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Legendary Wise Elder
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#974
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#975
I love that, Scarlet. Thanks for sharing!
Can somebody pass the lemonade? __________________ 'Somewhere up above the great divide Where the sky is wide, and the clouds are few A man can see his way clear to the light 'You have all the grace you need for today, and today is all that matters.' - Steve Austin |
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Writing my way through...
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#976
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Writing my way through...
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#977
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edited mine too. just saw this now. |
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#978
My coworker/friend brought in shaved ice and liquid flavors so we are having snow cones this afternoon! I am having strawberry!
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#979
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I also wonder about people who leave suddenly. I've been reading old posts of mine (yay, boredom!) and have been like "Awww, X!" "Awww, Y!" Quote:
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#980
After yesterday's session, I won't have an in-person session for 2 weeks. Even though we have a phone call scheduled for Monday, it feels like a really long time to not meet in person. I wish I found it easier to deal with situations like this.
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