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Default May 24, 2022 at 03:48 PM
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So lately the most bizarre thing has started happening, my t has started to make me breakfast. I really don’t understand am very confused by it.
I think it’s very sweet of her but it also sends mixed messages to me.
Has anyone else experienced this?

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Default May 24, 2022 at 03:52 PM
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No but that's very interesting.

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Default May 24, 2022 at 03:55 PM
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I felt bad saying no this morning but I just had my own breakfast and certainly don’t need anybody else to make it for me.

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Default May 24, 2022 at 04:19 PM
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In a treatment center I was in as a teenager one of the therapists who wasn't even my own brought me in Mcdonalds breakfast. I thought it was nice but kinda strange.

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Default May 24, 2022 at 07:50 PM
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That would be interesting i.e. fruitful to explore with her . Do you feel comfortable brining it in as part of the 'work' in your therapy. Might help her self-reflect as well...
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Default May 25, 2022 at 10:18 AM
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What were they going to make you for breakfast?
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Default May 25, 2022 at 04:09 PM
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What were they going to make you for breakfast?

Coffee, toast and fruit!

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Default May 25, 2022 at 04:11 PM
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In a treatment center I was in as a teenager one of the therapists who wasn't even my own brought me in Mcdonalds breakfast. I thought it was nice but kinda strange.

That was nice of your t but kinda strange. It is kinda strange, it feels strange. I would understand if it was part of the work or I was struggling with an eating diaper or something.

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That would be interesting i.e. fruitful to explore with her . Do you feel comfortable brining it in as part of the 'work' in your therapy. Might help her self-reflect as well...

I feel I could bring it to t, I feel she would appreciate me saying it to her rather than talking about it on here but I just needed to hear what other people thought.
Thank you for your response Breakfast and t

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Default May 26, 2022 at 07:53 AM
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My former T would every once in a while bring me a hot chocolate. But in 5 years that probably happened 3 times.

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Default May 26, 2022 at 10:23 PM
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I am intrigued and a tiny bit jealous. I would have given anything to have my former T make me coffee and toast. Or something similar.

It strikes me as a little odd. But not necessarily bad-odd. Just unusual-odd.

Is she eating at the same time? Is it as simple as not wanting to eat in front of you without sharing?
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Default May 28, 2022 at 03:51 AM
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My former T would every once in a while bring me a hot chocolate. But in 5 years that probably happened 3 times.

How did you feel when you got it?

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Default May 28, 2022 at 03:53 AM
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It sounds like it's making you uncomfortable, so definitely worth exploring.
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I am intrigued and a tiny bit jealous. I would have given anything to have my former T make me coffee and toast. Or something similar.

It strikes me as a little odd. But not necessarily bad-odd. Just unusual-odd.

Is she eating at the same time? Is it as simple as not wanting to eat in front of you without sharing?

She had made toast for me and herself, she asked if I wanted coffee and I said yes please but only if you are having one too. So I heard her running around and banging things.
She then brought it in. I was so embarrassed. She has often ate an apple in front of me but this was a whole new level. In some ways it’s sweet but in other ways it’s painful because I don’t have anyone to look after me 🥲

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Default May 28, 2022 at 09:10 AM
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I felt cared about and seen. The first time she did it was to celebrate a positive endeavor I was embarking on

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Default May 28, 2022 at 03:34 PM
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Ex T would sometimes offer me a candy or hot drink if she was having it too, after a while into therapy with her. In my case, looking back at it now, I think she wanted to check how I was doing as one of my issues was never to ask for help or anything else even if I needed it (ED, trust issues, abuse). With time, I ended up relaxing, speaking uo a little more while working on the issues and accepting a candy or whatever.
In a way I find it nice and caring of your T, but have no idea if something may lay under this breakfast thing, though I think you could bring up the way you felt. It’s worth exploring.

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Default May 29, 2022 at 03:32 PM
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My therapist ans I frequently go out to breakfast, lunch, or dinner. It is not a big deal. Maybe just appreciate your therapist’s kind gesture and say thank you.
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