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Poohbah
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I told this one T that I didn't feel like doing anything and all she said was "I can't help you". THAT was my problem and she didn't want to help me! So I switched to yet another therapist.
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Nobody except you can do the work. If you didn’t want to change then nobody can help you. Ts are guides and mirrors they aren’t mini gods who can magically change you.
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Yeah cool presented with a sign of depression, but it sounds like the t wrongly took it as a declaration of intent!
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Therapists are quite often completely awful human beings who took the job because it is not that hard - as she proved. The one is op's post wasn't listening or doing her job. I hope the new one works out.
The party line (patronizing and dismissive) by therapists and their koolaid drinking acolytes that blame the client in this sort of scenario is incorrect and not applicable. __________________ Please NO @ Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live. Oscar Wilde Well Behaved Women Seldom Make History - Laurel Thatcher Ulrich Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional. |
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That T sounds awful!
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Years ago I had a Therapist who thought that, so she terminated things with me.
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I have been trying to change the last 40 years. I do things and I don't get any pleasure. All the therapist says is take a walk and watch the birds, watch the boats, look at the water, ride your bike. Bike riding is no fun, it's just work. I can't remember the last time I enjoyed myself. That's the rut that I'm in. All that psychologists do is stare at me. I had one psychologist stare at me for 3 mths when I was bedridden in the hospital 35 yrs ago. __________________ I know why you wanna hate me! Cause hate is all the world has seen lately! - Limp Bizkit |
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I honestly have never found therapists helpful. I do support groups now led by certified peer specialists. They don't have degrees, but they have lived experiences and certifications. I get a lot more out of those groups than I ever did from paying a ton of money for a therapist to stare at me.
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I mean it’s a crappy thing to say. But I almost feel like too few of them say it. Too many keep you on when they can’t help you.
And think about it: if this T was being a jerk and blaming you for your depression (like you’re depressed because you’re just not trying etc.), that’s a T who REALLY can’t help you. If they’re just gonna sit in judgement and criticize me, I’d rather get the heads-up at the beginning. |
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I also told the therapist that I didn't want to live and she didn't respond to me. I told my pdoc that I didn't want to live and all she said was "Don't say that". So I bailed on this pdoc and therapist. I ended up going inpatient at Johns Hopkins. I was really in a bad way, I couldn't get out of bed.
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Good for you for bailing when you knew that was your best option. __________________ |
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