T issues

downandlonely · Jul 25, 2022, 05:15 AM

Seems odd to me that you are not supposed to get bereavement support while in therapy. I don't know about in the UK, but in the US, there are many free grief support groups that people can attend whether or not they are in therapy.

Fuzzybear · Jul 25, 2022, 10:10 AM

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Originally Posted by East17

I don't know what to make of that session. It was a difficult conversation to have. She was quite defensive at times. She explained (tried to justify) rather than apologised and I did feel like she was putting the responsibility on me rather than on her. "I'm sorry you felt it interfered with your session." "I know you thought I was distracted and you didn't have my full attention, but you really did." I'm not sure if the defensiveness was because she knew she was in the wrong but couldn't admit it, or whether it was because I was calling her out on the behaviour.

I realise it's likely a psychological tactic on her part, but I came off the call feeling as though I'd made a fuss over nothing and was wrong for bringing up the issue. I really don't do well with conflict and I have so little irl support I can't afford to screw up this relationship. I'm worried I've caused irreparable damage and not sure how to fix it without backtracking over the concerns I've raised, as I do believe I was right to raise them.

Doing trauma work over video is hard enough but having to cope with all the interruptions as well, it's impossible. Not sure if I should even try and repair things or start looking for another T now.

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Ugh. I'm sorry she was (is) that way. Does not sound therapeutic to me.

She has damaged the relationship.

East17 · Jul 25, 2022, 03:33 PM

Yes, that doesn't seem to be a thing here.

Individual Ts and organisations in general seem quite strict about not doing two different sorts of therapy at the same time. They view it as there unevitably being some crossover between bereavement and other issues, which ultimately may be confusing. Counselling being more about processes and the tools the counsellor uses. Client's brain would be muddled with two counsellors even if dealing with different subjects, they would overlap, especially if client has multiple things to deal with.

That's how it was explained to me anyway.

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velcro003 · Jul 25, 2022, 05:20 PM

I see a trauma T and a talk T, and sometimes our topics do overlap, though it has never been confusing for me.

I hope your session goes well. I understand all the “what ifs,” it’s hard.

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