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Child of a lesser god
atisketatasket
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#921
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That will end well, what with the proximity of sharp objects and all. Since neither of you are known for not being annoying to the other. ETA: I cannot abide milk in cereal. Ick, soggggggy. __________________ The secret to eternal youth is arrested development.—Alice Roosevelt Longworth |
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unaluna
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#922
Omg, @@, i lol'd.
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#923
To be fair, I don't really share a kitchen well with anyone. I could probably have dinner with exhankster (no dairy and lots of beans) -but then she would have to go home.
__________________ Please NO @ Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live. Oscar Wilde Well Behaved Women Seldom Make History - Laurel Thatcher Ulrich Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional. |
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#924
To be fair, any time one shares beans for dinner, going home soon after is wise.
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#925
I have found there is not a problem if you eat them enough.
And just when we get exhankster mostly house trained, along comes someone who tries to overly excite her. __________________ Please NO @ Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live. Oscar Wilde Well Behaved Women Seldom Make History - Laurel Thatcher Ulrich Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional. |
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Always in This Twilight
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#926
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#927
I'm the same. I find cooking takes so much concentration that I can't focus on anything else, and if people want to meddle...
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#928
Had my first physical therapy appointment. I didn't really feel anything while I was there but I'm a bit sore now. Ready to go home and put the heating pad on.
Also T tonight. __________________ Dum Spiro Spero IC XC NIKA |
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#929
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#930
Yes, this is pdoc #2. I don't want to go back to the first one because she won't prescribe me my benzos or my sleep aide (Doxepin). I have an appointment with the pdoc on Monday, so I'm going to express that I didn't give my permission to be subjected to religious information especially because I suffer from religious trauma.
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Writing my way through...
ArtieTheSequal
is rediscovering her passion and purpose in life.
Member Since: Feb 2020
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#931
Just hung up from talking to my coach. Turns out today was our last call, not next week, because I worked ahead a week, I've already finished the program so we ended today. I spent about 20 minutes of our call talking about h's health issues and how I'm struggling to deal with him when he gets like he's been today, struggling to hold onto myself and use the tools I learned to the fullest. BUT I realized something while we were talking, and I told her this too; that even though I was struggling with it, I was also coherently talking about it, not crying, had already found my way through what I was feeling earlier (the whole guilt and regret that had begun, I finally remembered to accept and welcome the feelings and identified the thought distortions and core beliefs behind them and so worked my way through them after a few hours) whereas before I started this program, I would have been an emotional mess right now unable to think clearly. She gave me a good suggestion for when h gets like this: that i can ask him what he needs in the moment and if being alone in bed is what he needs, then I can honor it. Yeah, I recall L suggesting the same thing in the past. I tried it once as I recall back then, I had forgotten about it I guess, but it works I guess because all I do is annoy him when I want to follow him and try to fix it. I can't fix it. He has to deal with his own thoughts. I can only deal with my own. I need to learn how to be supportive without trying to fix (ie control) his thoughts. I get so frustrated because i'm trying to control something that isn't mine to control, I think. Artie needs to stay in her own emotional lane, perhaps? Anyway it was such a helpful course and I'm glad I'll be able to continue using the app on my own. Well that was a lot.
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Writing my way through...
ArtieTheSequal
is rediscovering her passion and purpose in life.
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#932
She has said SO many things that I know L had told me at one time or other - very little in this program was new to me, I'd heard most of it before and I know I used some of it before but didn't make any of it a habit - the past 7 weeks has taught me that I want to make a few of these things permanent. They really work for me. okay i will stop now.
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Always in This Twilight
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#933
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Artie, this all sounds like a lot of progress! And what you said about how L may have said a bunch of it before, you may just not have been ready to hear it at that time. Or it could be that L presented it in a different way. |
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Elder Harridan x-hankster
unaluna
Female luna moth - Please, dont @mention
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#934
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Elder Harridan x-hankster
unaluna
Female luna moth - Please, dont @mention
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#935
I used to help with the coffee cleanup at work. The usual other person and i got along just fine. Her vacation replacement taught me a lot by almost making me cry. She just kept nudging me out of the way. Nudge, nudge nudge. The usual person lived with her mom and her sister and nephew and i thought, she is not nudging me away because she is more used to interacting with humans. Like my mom, i felt. The usual person included me in her circle, within her boundaries. Well also we had graduated from the same charm school - (Montgomery) Wendy Ward.
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Magnet
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#936
__________________ Since you cannot do good to all, you are to pay special attention to those who, by accidents of time, or place, or circumstance, are brought into closer connection with you. (St. Augustine) |
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Writing my way through...
ArtieTheSequal
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#938
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Y'know as healing in so many ways as the therapy relationship with L was, and I remain so very grateful for that, I think maybe some of the more concrete things like these tools might have kinda got lost in the shuffle if that makes sense? Or, or, maybe the relationship was the fertile ground that those seeds were planted in? And this course was like a spring rain that watered the ground of my psyche and made them bloom? Ok that's a little weird even for me. But it's bedtime since I get up at 4:15 am this week for chat. Besides I gotta go get my nightly Johnny Gage fix (reruns of the old Emergency! is on from 7-9pm here) |
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Child of a lesser god
atisketatasket
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#939
I am directing a BA thesis this year, a draft of a novel incorporating aspects of world mythology.
I gave my first feedback today, one point of which was “statistically you use an adverb every 50 words. Stop it.” __________________ The secret to eternal youth is arrested development.—Alice Roosevelt Longworth |
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#940
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(there is a lesbian author Katherine V Forrest who wrote several of the earlier girl gets girl and doesn't go back to a man novels -but her use of adverbs is such that one starts to laugh at the writing within the first 3 paragraphs) __________________ Please NO @ Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live. Oscar Wilde Well Behaved Women Seldom Make History - Laurel Thatcher Ulrich Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional. |
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