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Aug 06, 2022 at 11:49 AM
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Last session my therapist asked me what I would like to work on going forward. I told her that I would like to work on shame. I always feel shameful everyday not just the trauma but everything about me I don't feel confident or good about myself. I do not even know if working on shame is a goal in therapy.
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Aug 06, 2022 at 12:15 PM
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If you are spending time in therapy working on shame, then that is one of your goals in therapy. I can't think of much more important than improving perception of oneself in therapy.
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Aug 06, 2022 at 12:21 PM
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Dear @Taylor27, someone(s?) put that belief into you, probably a long time ago. Please try to be kind for yourself, ok?
 
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Aug 06, 2022 at 12:23 PM
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I think it can definitely be a goal. Shame is something I deal with as well. I just told my T yesterday that something he'd said a few months ago brought up shame in me, and I felt worried about bringing up the topic that led to that comment again. So we talked a bit about where the shame came from, which involved messages I'd gotten from my mom. I feel those sorts of discussions are a part of the bigger picture of therapy for me, but I see how it could be a main focus, too. Particularly because you said it affects you daily.
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Aug 06, 2022 at 01:22 PM
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Aug 06, 2022 at 01:24 PM
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Aug 06, 2022 at 03:45 PM
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She makes a really good point on it taking a long time to work through. I hope she'll be able to help you work through it and get to a better place! |
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Aug 06, 2022 at 04:58 PM
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Aug 06, 2022 at 09:01 PM
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I think working on shame is a great thing to work on. For me it is guilt, I'm not quite sure if that is the same thing but I think so. I feel guilty about EVERYTHING in life and it has a huge impact on my inability to every experience happiness. I commend your T for asking and setting a goal for therapy.
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Aug 07, 2022 at 12:28 PM
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However she is still there and I need to focus my attention on myself. I have told her for a few sessions that it's been hard for me to focus on life in general. I think now by her asking me that question has helped me focus on myself and goals. |
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Aug 09, 2022 at 04:57 PM
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A lot of people deal with shame everyday and I think it’s a great goal to work on and to improve one’s quality of life. Also I think it’s great that your therapist asked you what you would like to do, it empowers you in therapy (in a positive way!) in my opinion. Be kind to yourself and let your T guide you through this journey.
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