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Aug 08, 2022 at 06:04 PM
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L says trauma is within your nervous system and sometimes you can feel it all the way inside your bones. When triggered, you go outside your window of tolerance and you either freeze or get activated (fight/flight).
It's so hard when she accidentally triggers me. She's my main source of support. I panic and feel like my world has shattered, literally. I feel bad because I've been with her for over 3 years now and this is still happening. __________________ "Odium became your opium..." ~Epica |
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Aug 08, 2022 at 09:33 PM
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It's not "bad" that it's still happening, Scarlet. Triggers are information about what needs healing. Trauma changes our neurobiology, and therefore triggers are really hard to heal as your brain is doing its best to protect you. Trauma and the bears – a fable | Carolyn Spring |
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Aug 09, 2022 at 02:00 AM
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Wow, what a fantastic read QM. Thank you.
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Aug 09, 2022 at 12:12 PM
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Thanks QM! I'll definitely be reading that fable you linked.
I also found this article: 5 Ways You May Have Experienced Emotional Neglect | Psychology Today It's been helping L and I put words to and describe the different types of childhood traumas. __________________ "Odium became your opium..." ~Epica |
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Aug 10, 2022 at 02:35 AM
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I feel you.. mine doesn’t take vacation in the middle of the year but just for Christmas (2 weeks) and maybe one week on Easter.. but summer holidays well, she’s away for almost two whole months. Imagine how it is to say bye at the beginning of July and see each other again in September. At least she will not interrupt sessions through the year, summer is hard though, especially now we have’t left on a very good note. But after a while I feel better and almost don’t want to go back (maybe a tantrum, I don’t know lol).
Hang in there and try to reassure the inner child that there’s no abandonment. __________________ Everything will be ok in the end. If it's not okay, it's not the end. |
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Aug 10, 2022 at 07:19 AM
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