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Magnate
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#661
Oh, and yes, I am willing to try and change the terminology/language that I use to describe these different parts of me. I'm not sure why though, but seeing as you clearly have problems with it (hmmm, am I being defensive here?) I am willing to try something else. Problem is, to me they are just words that so clearly sum up these different parts of me, and I have no idea what other language to use. anything else I can think of just leads me to getting stuck, and that isn't helpful. Maybe you just need to get to know my Teenage One and my Little One. Maybe the problem is you, not me.
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Legendary Wise Elder
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#662
Do you ever listen to the part of the song we both like that goes " Some men you just can't save." And ever worry about me?
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Tweaky Dog
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Location: England
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#663
How can it be that the shock feels like it's wearing off after nearly two years, and yet it feels more raw?
When I become aware of the rawness, it hurts more. __________________ 'Somewhere up above the great divide Where the sky is wide, and the clouds are few A man can see his way clear to the light 'You have all the grace you need for today, and today is all that matters.' - Steve Austin |
AliceKate, LonesomeTonight
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#664
I sometimes feel like things come full circle in weird ways. And I think you'd get it since you get other things I've said.
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Tweaky Dog
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#665
You weren't wrong when you said that it's everywhere for me at the moment.
I was catching up with a TV series today, and now I don't think I have the wherewithal to finish it. What could be extended references to it kept popping up. 'I can't ****ing do this any more' was the last thing I expected to shout. I think it had stopped being about the series by that point. __________________ 'Somewhere up above the great divide Where the sky is wide, and the clouds are few A man can see his way clear to the light 'You have all the grace you need for today, and today is all that matters.' - Steve Austin |
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Magnate
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#666
Dear T,
I read something today, just now, that made me think. It said "confidence comes from the ability to self regulate. Self regulation is the ability to process life around you and respond to it rather than reacting to your emotions. Reacting to your own emotions is exhausting and feels like a never ending cycle of stress" This could go some way to explaining why I used to feel so confident. Why I was so confident. I didn't feel the emotions. I was cut off from the emotions. As soon as they started to come out, I lost all of my confidence, it feels, and I've never really been able to explain to myself why. Why that huge change. It felt like I had had a breakdown of sorts, but maybe it was because I was now feeling all sorts of stuff that I had never had to deal with before. It honestly makes me question sometimes whether I was better off before, but I know I wasn't. Being cut off from myself had so many other drawbacks too. But it is hard work having emotions, especially when you can't manage them. I still have a lot more work to do on that I think. |
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Always in This Twilight
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#667
Dear T,
I'm sure you won't have anything today. I could have made it seem more urgent, but I felt wrong doing that. I don't want to be crying wolf. Love, LT |
Writing my way through...
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#668
Well that session on Friday did something else too - it totally jump-started my inner work again. I will be reading through the 3 pages from yesterday after I get off work today, for either more writing or simply figuring out which of the possible meanings of the dream are not accurate. I have way too much going on right now for this - which is why I don't want to get back into therapy (with anyone) right now - but at least doing it on my own, there's no pressure of a weekly session, I suppose I just needed the impetus to start working through this stuff again, and now I am.
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Always in This Twilight
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#669
Dear T,
Yeah, I figured. I do appreciate your asking if it was an emergency. As I imagine you'd have fit me in then. But it's not. Love, LT |
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Always in This Twilight
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#670
Dear T,
This is so stupid, but I wish you would have replied to that email. Just something like, "Hope you're doing OK" or "see you tomorrow." I imagine you're just busy and/or didn't think it needed a reply. As it was technically a scheduling email. So I'm just being kind of ridiculous, I suppose. Love, LT |
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Writing my way through...
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#671
You're not being ridiculous, LT.
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LonesomeTonight
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Writing my way through...
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#672
My dearest L, 'activated' is the understatement of the century!
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LonesomeTonight
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Always in This Twilight
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#673
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ArtieTheSequal
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Elder Harridan x-hankster
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#674
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I live in an apartment bldg with an elevator, and i USED to be so anxious or something about the other people in the elevator, that i HAD to make a joke. Just occurred to me that thats how i felt around my mother. Pure emotion. |
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AliceKate
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Tweaky Dog
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Location: England
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#675
So much of this lies beyond the bounds of language.
I really don't know how to bring this into the realm of words. It's an affront to me that he is just...gone. __________________ 'Somewhere up above the great divide Where the sky is wide, and the clouds are few A man can see his way clear to the light 'You have all the grace you need for today, and today is all that matters.' - Steve Austin |
AliceKate, LonesomeTonight
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Legendary Wise Elder
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#676
I think you are kind of happy that I switched to remote since I'm your first client so that means you can go into the office later. You did seem to care though.
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Writing my way through...
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#677
crap.
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LonesomeTonight
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Magnate
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#678
I'm really really really struggling to explain what is going on for me right now. I know what it is, and I think I understand it, I just can't seem to find the right language to explain it to you, and that is incredibly frustrating for me.
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AliceKate, LonesomeTonight, unaluna
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Legendary Wise Elder
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#679
I don't feel good but its not anxiety so I don't want to cancel. I'm just trying everything I can to be somewhat functional in an hour.
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Always in This Twilight
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#680
Dear T,
Thanks for being supportive and caring today. It's what I needed. I do want to talk to you more about pushing, how maybe we can sort of agree when it's time, that I can signal you in some way. Or that you can check in, like, "Is this level of pushing OK?" And then being good with stepping back if I want that. Part of me wishes I was seeing you on my birthday, and I thought briefly about asking if you had any availability tomorrow, to do instead of Wednesday. But maybe it's better if I just let things marinate between now and then. (I mean, assuming I don't totally fall apart tonight or early tomorrow morning.) Oh, and I've made what I consider to be two good choices so far since session--one not doing something and the other doing something, going to the grocery store so H won't have to tomorrow (though I forgot something so I guess he will anyway, but it will be a much shorter trip). I guess I made some healthy options at the grocery store, too (the bag of chips sitting next to me doesn't count!) Love, LT |
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