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Default Sep 19, 2022 at 08:36 PM
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I started with a new counselor and she came off as abrasive to me. I found the intake conversation to be challenging, she kept interrupting and guesssing the answer to the question she asked of me- and all the guesses were wrong. She then spent time essentially tellling me that I would eventually disagree with her and that I shouldn’t try to control the conversation. So she asks about my mother, I start to give history, happen to mention anotehr relative within two sentences and then she tells me to talk about that relative instead. So now she doesn’t have the info she initially wanted.
I’m obviously uncomfortable if I’m posting this. I just don’t know if it’s some thing I should give us another shot or if I should go with my gut and that may just be the wrong counselor for me.

I feel like she’s already boxed me in to where I can’t object, assert myself, or give my own input to my issues. She did tell me that I need to be comfortable being uncomfortable and if she does something that I don’t agree with I need to feel comfortable telling her. But I’m not there for therapy about a patient/provider relationship with her ! It’s not off to a good start.
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Default Sep 20, 2022 at 08:29 AM
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Go with your gut. There are too many issues in session one already.

You should be able to control the topics. You should be able to set the pace. You should be able to disagree with your therapist without it sounding like a 'disclaimer' of sorts. She seems pretty abrupt and controlling - as in 'my way or the highway'. I would take the highway and look for someone else.
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Default Sep 20, 2022 at 08:32 AM
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Go with your gut. There are too many issues in session one already.

You should be able to control the topics. You should be able to set the pace. You should be able to disagree with your therapist without it sounding like a 'disclaimer' of sorts. She seems pretty abrupt and controlling - as in 'my way or the highway'. I would take the highway and look for someone else.

I agree with this.
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Go with your gut. There are too many issues in session one already.

You should be able to control the topics. You should be able to set the pace. You should be able to disagree with your therapist without it sounding like a 'disclaimer' of sorts. She seems pretty abrupt and controlling - as in 'my way or the highway'. I would take the highway and look for someone else.

I also agree.
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Yes, if the first session doesn't go well, I generally don't go back.
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Default Sep 20, 2022 at 01:34 PM
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The first sessions are for finding out whether you and the provider work well together. It sounds like the answer is no in this case, and that's okay. Maybe she'll be perfect for somebody else. If you have the possibility to try out one or more other options, I would do that.
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