Couch 240: The Vanadis Couch

velcro003 · Sep 29, 2022 at 10:08 PM

I use my towel for a week, then wash.

Daffydungle · Sep 29, 2022 at 10:34 PM

I thought other people had multiples of things. But i have only ever had 2 of each thing for every person in the house. One for in use and one in the wash. It wasnt until my ex mil looked in my linen cupboard and asked where everything was. This was how i was brought up, in a very minimalist house not because we wrre particularly poor but my mother didnt believe in making excess work for yourself, though she did iron handkerchiefs and sheets.

LonesomeTonight · Sep 30, 2022 at 06:06 AM

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Originally Posted by velcro003

I use my towel for a week, then wash.

Same here.

ArtieTheSequal · Sep 30, 2022 at 09:16 AM

I'm ashamed to say that I am more wasteful than y'all. I can't stand having to re-use bath towels. I can't really pinpoint why, it's just a thing with me. H uses his twice. I would have to do laundry less often if I'd make myself use them more than once but I can't seem to do it. I have like 8 towels, and I also tend to keep them until they are completely threadbare before I'll replace them. H has 6 giant bath sheets that he likes to use but I don't like the giant ones so those are all his.

NP_Complete · Sep 30, 2022 at 09:47 AM

The reason I can't bring myself to reuse my bath towel is purely mental block because even though I know I just washed everywhere, I always dry my face first and I don't want to do that when I know the previous time I also thoroughly dried my nether regions with that same towel. Everything was just cleaned, but still. It's just a weird mental hangup for me.

ArtieTheSequal · Sep 30, 2022 at 09:54 AM

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Originally Posted by NP_Complete

The reason I can't bring myself to reuse my bath towel is purely mental block because even though I know I just washed everywhere, I always dry my face first and I don't want to do that when I know the previous time I also thoroughly dried my nether regions with that same towel. Everything was just cleaned, but still. It's just a weird mental hangup for me.

Yeah, I imagine mine's something similar.

ArtieTheSequal · Sep 30, 2022 at 10:03 AM

Just spent a little time pulling weeds in my side yard. Man they grow fast. Trying to keep ahead of the HOA nastygrams but now my legs feel like jello.

H has 2 liver dr appointments today, he's going to be participating in a research study his dr is helping run, for an NAFLD medication. I'm going with him, of course, so I can hear everything too.

Oh, and I did a henna treatment on my hair last night. It is now a pretty reddish color. Henna is my compromise for H - he doesn't like seeing my grays because it makes him realize we're getting old and I don't like to use the stinky, headache-inducing chemical coloring - so I found this natural henna that I'm okay with using occasionally when he brings it up. It doesn't match my very dark eyebrows, but then again, my original natural blond before it started going gray never matched them either! My eyebrow color never made sense to me!

unaluna · Sep 30, 2022 at 11:10 AM

Plus after using for a while, you can get a reaction to the chemical hair dyes. I did. I get all red and poofy.

SlumberKitty · Sep 30, 2022 at 11:24 AM

Hey friends,

My T hasn't texted with any times to set up an appointment this week since she canceled our session on Tuesday. I don't feel like being a pain and a bother by asking her when is the next time we are going to talk but not having a day or time is kind of wearing on me. Making me a bit anxious. So I sit in uncomfortable unknowingness.

ScarletPimpernel · Sep 30, 2022 at 11:36 AM

Kit - You can text her. You won't be bothering her. If she feels bothered that's on her. It's her job to hold her own boundaries, not yours.

NP_Complete · Sep 30, 2022 at 12:35 PM

Last session today in the old office. :(

SlumberKitty · Sep 30, 2022 at 12:41 PM

HUGS NP_Complete

SlumberKitty · Sep 30, 2022 at 12:41 PM

I ended up texting my T about the appointment. We'll see what she says.

LostOnTheTrail · Sep 30, 2022 at 12:48 PM

Today is a deep breathing day over here...

Possible trigger:

Online harm is all over the UK news today, due to the Coroner's verdict in an inquest relating to the death of a 14-year-old girl called Molly Russell. The Coroner found that content she'd viewed on social media contributed to her death by suicide.

SlumberKitty · Sep 30, 2022 at 12:58 PM

HUGS Lost, that's so sad.

LostOnTheTrail · Sep 30, 2022 at 01:01 PM

Thanks, Kit.

It is sad, and yet not surprising that it's taken something like this for people to start speaking up in favour of change. Because of the pantomime going on in UK politics, the Online Harms Bill got sidelined, and one of the key players resigned...I'm hoping that something will be done now.

SlumberKitty · Sep 30, 2022 at 01:04 PM

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I ended up texting my T about the appointment. We'll see what she says.

Now it's the "checking my phone every two seconds" sort of uncomfortable unknowingness.

Since she cancelled on me, one would think that she would be proactive about rescheduling me? Or maybe that is just my flawed thinking.

I'm trying hard to "not go there" into those thoughts that mean that this slip of the mind does not mean that she does not care about me. I know that she does. I just need to be patient and not take things personally.

LonesomeTonight · Sep 30, 2022 at 01:59 PM

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Last session today in the old office.

Hugs, NP. I struggled when ex-MC and ex-T changed offices, too. It's hard.

LonesomeTonight · Sep 30, 2022 at 02:02 PM

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Originally Posted by SlumberKitty

Now it's the "checking my phone every two seconds" sort of uncomfortable unknowingness.

Since she cancelled on me, one would think that she would be proactive about rescheduling me? Or maybe that is just my flawed thinking.

I'm trying hard to "not go there" into those thoughts that mean that this slip of the mind does not mean that she does not care about me. I know that she does. I just need to be patient and not take things personally.

Hugs, Kit. I think it's fine you texted her. Dr. T doesn't really count scheduling texts/emails as outside communication, so I doubt she'd be bothered by it. It's completely reasonable to want to find out when you can schedule a session.

Some T's just aren't that organized in terms of scheduling--I get the sense yours may be like that just in general, that it has nothing to do with you. But I understand why you worry about it, as I would, too! Once, ex-MC took forever to reschedule with us, and I ended up having ex-T leave him a note I wrote. He did get back to us after that.

LonesomeTonight · Sep 30, 2022 at 02:11 PM

So Dr. T and I just resumed handshakes at the end two weeks ago. Today, I nearly forgot to shake his hand, like we were saying goodbye, I turned to walk out the door, then I was like, "Oh, right!" And turned back to him and held out my hand. He just sort of shook his head (and then shook my hand). I mean, we'd gone 2.5 years without doing that, including maybe 5 months back in the office. So makes sense I'd have gotten out of the habit. It's just funny that I was the one who forgot.

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velcro003 Elder Member Since Oct 2008 Posts: 7,361 15 25 hugs given	Sep 29, 2022 at 10:08 PM #61 I use my towel for a week, then wash.

NP_Complete Grand Magnate Member Since Feb 2017 Location: the upside down Posts: 3,808 7 6,355 hugs given	Sep 30, 2022 at 09:47 AM #65 The reason I can't bring myself to reuse my bath towel is purely mental block because even though I know I just washed everywhere, I always dry my face first and I don't want to do that when I know the previous time I also thoroughly dried my nether regions with that same towel. Everything was just cleaned, but still. It's just a weird mental hangup for me.

unaluna Elder Harridan x-hankster Member Since Jun 2011 Location: Milan/Michigan Posts: 39,880 (SuperPoster!) 12 66.4k hugs given	Sep 30, 2022 at 11:10 AM #68 Plus after using for a while, you can get a reaction to the chemical hair dyes. I did. I get all red and poofy.

ScarletPimpernel Wise Elder Member Since Nov 2013 Location: US Posts: 8,413 (SuperPoster!) 10 6,434 hugs given	Sep 30, 2022 at 11:36 AM #70 Kit - You can text her. You won't be bothering her. If she feels bothered that's on her. It's her job to hold her own boundaries, not yours. __________________ "Odium became your opium..." ~Epica

NP_Complete Grand Magnate Member Since Feb 2017 Location: the upside down Posts: 3,808 7 6,355 hugs given	Sep 30, 2022 at 12:35 PM #71 Last session today in the old office. :(

SlumberKitty Legendary Wise Elder Member Since Jul 2018 Location: CA Posts: 27,329 (SuperPoster!) 5 117.7k hugs given	Sep 30, 2022 at 12:41 PM #72 HUGS NP_Complete __________________ Dum Spiro Spero IC XC NIKA

SlumberKitty Legendary Wise Elder Member Since Jul 2018 Location: CA Posts: 27,329 (SuperPoster!) 5 117.7k hugs given	Sep 30, 2022 at 12:41 PM #73 I ended up texting my T about the appointment. We'll see what she says. __________________ Dum Spiro Spero IC XC NIKA

SlumberKitty Legendary Wise Elder Member Since Jul 2018 Location: CA Posts: 27,329 (SuperPoster!) 5 117.7k hugs given	Sep 30, 2022 at 12:58 PM #75 HUGS Lost, that's so sad. __________________ Dum Spiro Spero IC XC NIKA