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Default Nov 18, 2022 at 06:15 PM
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Art - I hope the trial helps your husband.
The primary and the oncologist mds for my person gave us their cell phones.
I just kept reminding myself that it was her body and her life and she got to choose how she dealt with it. For example -she would go through all sorts of horrible chemo/radiation -but she adamantly refused a mastectomy. I remember that particular md looking at me and saying can't you talk her into it - and I was horrified the md would think I would interfere with her choices about her body. Sure we talked about it -but I was there to support her -not choose for her.

It sounds like you were a good person to her. In respecting her wishes. I imagine she greatly appreciated your support and that you didn't pressure her for your own or someone else's reasons. I would want someone to do the same for me.
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Default Nov 18, 2022 at 06:15 PM
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Scarlet, I'm also glad you're feeling better and hope you can see L next week!
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It was my birthday this week and husband who I just reconciled with did not get me anything. He says my birthday dinner out was my gift. I've got to learn to lower my expectations (although dinner was nice and at the restaurant I requested)
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Default Nov 18, 2022 at 07:58 PM
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My Mom had to undergo emergency surgery today and is in the hospital for at least the next few days.

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My Mom had to undergo emergency surgery today and is in the hospital for at least the next few days.
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I hope she gets well soon
So do I, the worst part is that she will likely be in the hospital on her 70th Birthday, I did get her a card though and I will probably give it to her when she gets out

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Ugh it's 1.30 am in the morning and I can't sleep
 
 
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I'm still not over all the sleep I've been missing lately. I went to bed at 8:30 PM last night. The alarm woke me at 7:45 AM and I was still tired. Couch 240: The Vanadis Couch I have a lot of grading to do, still. And I have to post an assignment for my Saturday class, which is online this week.

I turn 50 on Wednesday. This fact only registered with me about a month ago. I am not ready.

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Default Nov 18, 2022 at 09:37 PM
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H took me out driving today. I drove about 12miles with very little discomfort. Actually, I think the discomfort was more digestion issues than the car ride. But I drove! That's another step closer to seeing L! I'm so excited. We have everything planned. It will be a double session. Gentle long hug. No sitting on the floor. I sit on the couch and she moves her chair over to me. (She's already tested it out...lol). We already know what we'll be processing too. It will have been 2.5 weeks since I've seen her in-person. I'm happy, and this is the happiest I've been in awhile.

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Default Nov 18, 2022 at 09:50 PM
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I got my new coma inducer comforter today! I definitely won't be cold this winter.

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I'm still not over all the sleep I've been missing lately. I went to bed at 8:30 PM last night. The alarm woke me at 7:45 AM and I was still tired. Couch 240: The Vanadis Couch I have a lot of grading to do, still. And I have to post an assignment for my Saturday class, which is online this week.

I turn 50 on Wednesday. This fact only registered with me about a month ago. I am not ready.

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I just turned 48 - that hasn't registered with me yet either. Happy Birthday!
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My mom is out of surgery, hopefully all will be well.

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I just turned 48 - that hasn't registered with me yet either. Happy Birthday!

Happy Birthday! I'll be 46 in January.
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I'm still not over all the sleep I've been missing lately. I went to bed at 8:30 PM last night. The alarm woke me at 7:45 AM and I was still tired. Couch 240: The Vanadis Couch I have a lot of grading to do, still. And I have to post an assignment for my Saturday class, which is online this week.

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Happy early birthday! Wishing you lots of sleep.
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Question for the parental types or anyone with more knowledge about young children than I apparently have. I'm buying Christmas gifts for a 2 year old through a local org that supports people experiencing homelessness. This particular program is for families in housing. They gave a monetary range of $50-$150. I have no idea if it matters if I spend over the top amount. His wish list was for cars, trucks and shoes. Yesterday I went to target and blew through 2/3 of the budget on just shoes and clothes. I got two shirts, some jammies and two pairs of shoes. I still want to get him plenty of toys too. I know little kids grow out of stuff so quickly. Would my money be better spent if I just get one pair of shoes? Have two-year-olds even reached the stage where they care what they're wearing yet?
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H took me out driving today. I drove about 12miles with very little discomfort. Actually, I think the discomfort was more digestion issues than the car ride. But I drove! That's another step closer to seeing L! I'm so excited. We have everything planned. It will be a double session. Gentle long hug. No sitting on the floor. I sit on the couch and she moves her chair over to me. (She's already tested it out...lol). We already know what we'll be processing too. It will have been 2.5 weeks since I've seen her in-person. I'm happy, and this is the happiest I've been in awhile.
Hugs Scarlet, I'm glad to hear you were able to drive today with very little discomfort, and that you have your session with L all planned out, it's good to hear you are feeling happy!
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Default Nov 19, 2022 at 02:32 PM
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We saw H's liver dr today, his normal appt not related to the study. They mostly talked about dietary changes (because that's really all you can do right now for this stage of the disease other than the medication trial he's starting on Tuesday). No sugar, no white flour products, no butter, no 1% - whole milk, no fruit juices... then they talked about what he can eat, like whole grain carbs, fat-free milk in moderation, sugar-free products (they said well it's chemicals, and we're not saying it's healthy, but we also want to be realistic, we'd rather you do that than not make any changes at all), cashews, avocado, eggs, all kinds of whole fruits/veggies, plain greek yogurt adding our own fruit to it, etc. He is actually listening now, and said that he will do what he has to with what they told him, and he told me that he is willing to make these changes since they're allowing sugar-free versions of stuff. He said he feels like he doesn't have a choice now where a year and a half ago, when it was just NAFLD and hadn't yet progressed to NASH, he felt like he still had a chance of it being the kind that doesn't progress but now he knows he has the aggressive kind and knows he doesn't have a choice. I bit my tongue and didn't say "But if you'd made these changes a year and half ago, it probably wouldn't have progressed to NASH". It's his body and I'm not his mother so I can't tell him what to do. I did tell him I'm proud of him for being willing now to make changes, and that I will support those changes any way I can. We went to breakfast after and he found something on the menu that fit the guidelines he was given, and he enjoyed it, and said maybe it won't be so bad. My challenge is now to figure out snacks he can take with him on the road when he's working that are healthy, like veggies, those tuna pouches, etc. Somehow neither one of us ever learned the proper way to eat growing up. I'm going to clean out our pantry of all the stuff he can't have anymore and either donate it to a food bank if they'll take it (I read that most of them now want only whole-grain stuff, and we have a lot of pasta) or we'll give it to our friend's 20-something son who is a beanpole that can eat anything he wants.

Well that was long! Oops. I'm just so relieved that he seems to be taking this seriously now.
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I'm still not over all the sleep I've been missing lately. I went to bed at 8:30 PM last night. The alarm woke me at 7:45 AM and I was still tired. Couch 240: The Vanadis Couch I have a lot of grading to do, still. And I have to post an assignment for my Saturday class, which is online this week.

I turn 50 on Wednesday. This fact only registered with me about a month ago. I am not ready.

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Happy birthday! I hope you're able to get caught up on your sleep!

I was okay with turning 50 - but I'm still getting used to being 60, and that happened 4 months ago - that was a tough one for me!
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Default Nov 19, 2022 at 03:07 PM
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Artie - i had drained canned peaches over nonfat greek yogurt for dinner last night, and it was delish!

There are lots of different like 7 0z cans of fruit on amazon (and i suppose at stores!). They are more single serve than a 15 oz can. There are even tiny avocadoes now.
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Artie - i had drained canned peaches over nonfat greek yogurt for dinner last night, and it was delish!

There are lots of different like 7 0z cans of fruit on amazon (and i suppose at stores!). They are more single serve than a 15 oz can. There are even tiny avocadoes now.
Thanks! What's the best brand of greek yogurt? I've never bought that.
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