[Wishes]

How do you cope with the mix of emotions after therapy? Do you find your attachment to T is worse after a session?

[ChickenNoodleSoup]

Therapy day is a day I try to keep as free as possible of any other commitments or chores. I started pretty early on to sit down as soon as possible after the session and write down all the things I remember. It helps me with remembering everything, and it's a nice thing to have when I feel down.
Other than that, I try to do whatever I feel like at the moment. Treat myself to a nice snack, go outside a bit, just relax and do whatever I enjoy. I often think back about the session and just let that happen.

It used to be that I felt very emotional after sessions, but that has decreased a lot. At those times, I tried to do the coping skills I've learned and just thought about my T. I have a lot of abandonment issues and those mostly came up, but that was always a good starting point for the next session. My attachment is more secure now, but I used to feel very attached after therapy. I do enjoy that feeling though, so it made me happy for the most part.

[AliceKate]

After most sessions, I tak an hour to chill, take a walk, eat something, if I feel well I go grocery shopping. Recently, I felt surreal after sessions, but it's not too bad/ it doesn't take over. Things only seem to get really difficult when I don't have that hour between one reality and another.

[Lostislost]

My attachment to T is worst in between sessions. Like I forget that we have a connection or something. I used to have therapy at 8pm, but since I've been back at work now I go at 11am. It's a horrible time for it, I have to rush to get out of the house, traffic is awful, nowhere to park...then after the session I have to come straight back for my kid, then I go to work in the evenings. I'm not sure how long I can keep it up, I really miss my evening sessions.

[ScarletPimpernel]

I cope several ways. First, I have an hour and a half drive home to unwind. Once I get home, I usually take a nap. And by night time, I'll usually email her with things that I've processed on my own from session.

My attachment to her shows up in different ways. Sometimes I'm extremely clingy and needy. Sometimes I just miss her. And other times, I'm able to hold onto her.

She has given me several transitional objects and we're also making a scrapbook together. These things really help between sessions. I also have hundreds of emails from her and I have 3 voicemails. One is a meditation she recorded for me.

The attachment has gotten better over time. I can now hear some of the things she says in my head. I'm able to hold onto her core-self and our history when there's a rupture. And I've become really good at expressing myself and my feelings.

My best advice is to be as open and honest as you can. It's hard, but it really helps move things along.