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I’m a hugger. I come from a very huggy family. So hugs are very natural, common, and easy for me. My therapists and I hugged pretty regularly without it ever even coming up in conversation. I guess they sensed it was sort of a natural thing for me and it just was what it was. No big meaning or need for discussion. I can see how it can be a bigger issue or even a bad idea for some though.
Touch was different though. If I was dissociated particularly, my therapists were very careful to ask me before they touched me in any way. I think that is the dilemma therapists have to negotiate. Will the touch be natural and not loaded with issues? Or is it helpful but needs discussion because of issues? Or is it harmful? Every client is quite individual. And, it can even vary for an individual client depending on the circumstances. I suspect some therapists put a firm no touch boundary up to just not have to negotiate the issues, but I have found that my good therapists knew how to work with me and knew when it was fine and when they needed to navigate touch more carefully. |
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My current therapist put her hand on my back at the end of our first couple sessions. She pretty much just brushed the back of my hoodie though. I don't like being touched although I did shake her hand when I first met her to be polite. Probably not the smartest idea, but it was kinda impulsive.
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My t hugs me hello and goodbye. I think it is so sad that in a world of hurting people that a simple hug is something t's won't do.
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