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Default Jan 29, 2023 at 05:49 PM
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I was seeing various student therapists for over 2 years I had 3 in that time. The 4th one recently said that she’s just a student & that I can get more help from the free service in my county. That’s not true. I’m already getting help from them for free medication. I was told they can’t provide additional help.

I told her that & that I’m upset that I wasn’t given a new student therapist instead. It’s like they gave uo on me for not making much progress.

Also, I’m having financial issues so I wasn’t able to pay the bill of $115 for a few months. They seemed to understand but now I think that I’m being denied services for that mostly.

What would cause a therapist to dump their clients? Do they do this with people who annoy, frustrate them or show little to no signs of progress or not?

Has this happened to anyone else on here? I don’t have insurance & I don’t qualify for any free help as my husband makes an above average income.

Government programs base everything off a married couple combined income here.

I officially give uo. I’m still not much better after getting professional help for over 30 years! Ugh!!!

It seems like all these professionals don’t really care anout anything but money. I never felt like any of them took me that seriously except for one awesome student therapist who couldn’t help me due to restrictions at the clinic. Each student only gets a year with each client.

I feel like this current therapist is blaming me for a lot of things as she said that I tell her that this ir that person is to much in her words. It sounds like she thinks that I’m the problem & not other people at times.

I’ll get her to clarify that tomorrow which will probably be our last session.

She also told me to not be as direct with friends or that I’ll loose friends if I speak up about things I’m not happy about. She insinuated that since I have trouble making friends that I need to be careful. Wtf? She sucks & she shouldn’t be a therapist!

She wasn’t like this until recently. I think she can be honest now that she’ll be getting rid of me soon. Rude!
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Default Jan 29, 2023 at 06:02 PM
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You've answered your own question"

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She sucks & she shouldn’t be a therapist!
Student therapists 'dump' clients because they are not experienced enough and don't have the skillset needed for this work. They need more training and recognising their limitations would actually prevent them doing more harm to clients. So, them dumping you says more about their limitations than yours.
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Default Jan 29, 2023 at 06:24 PM
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It hurts when a therapist doesn't want to continue sessions with us..... it hurts a lot.... it happened to me almost when a young therapist said she couldn't help me, so I ended up stopping the sessions of my own volition... and objectively, she really didn't have the skill set to help me, but it hurt all the same.................In your case, sounds like she doesn't have the capabilities/training/experience to take you any further and help you...............That being said, on your end, is it possible that you are splitting? And seeing things/people as either all good or all bad?
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Default Jan 29, 2023 at 11:47 PM
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I'm sorry that is a really hard position to be in. I had a student T ghost me after our second session because she felt she was in over her head. I also had another student T that I was assigned to because her supervisor was too intimidated by me to work with me himself. Needless to say that was a disaster! I have also worked with one T who was no longer a student but was not yet fully licensed and that was so so, her supervisor was my regular T. I am now working with another T who is no longer a student but is not fully licensed... it is a LOT of work for both of is and it definitely is not as smooth or productive as working with an experienced T. But to cut you loose without referring you out to a coupe options that they KNEW were viable is unethical.

If you are paying a student T it might be worth it to see if there are any T's in your area that offer a sliding scale. I worked with one T that was $20/session based on my income because she was sponsored by a church. She was religious but she did not bring that into the therapy even though they covered the rest of her usual fee. There is also a place by me, again affiliated with religion but they don't have to bring that into session, that offers one on one therapy and group sessions for s suggested donation of $30/month but they have a waiting list

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You also might also want to check out: HeyPeers - Where Peers and Support Groups Connect for one-on-one peer support and/or groups.
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Default Feb 24, 2023 at 02:08 PM
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I am so sorry that this happened. Years ago I saw a student therapist who after the first session, just looked at me and bluntly said, "you have a lot of problems." That was actually true but it didn't feel helpful. I asked to see another student therapist and saw a man who was so nervous that even though I was younger than him, I felt a lot of compassion towards him.

He was awkward and didn't always know what to say but he did actually help - not as much as therapists I have since seen but he did help. I can't even remember his name now as it was over 30 years ago but I have often wondered if he did become a therapist. I think he was probably able to be more comfortable with clients.

I don't think what happened has anything to do with money. I think what you are struggling with probably was too much for the student therapist and she honestly did not know what to do. That doesn't feel good but I think it is more about the student therapist and not you. Student therapists do need experience and I think that they rarely intend to cause harm but that doesn't mean it doesn't happen. They are learning and sometimes mess up. I am not saying that is an excuse but that it is probably more about the student therapist's inexperience than anything you said or did.

I wouldn't give up although I understand why you feel like it. Other suggestions to find help are good. I hope you can find someone to help you. It can be so hard.
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Default Mar 01, 2023 at 11:21 PM
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That happened to me before for something I thought was pretty stupid. Stuff like that happens. Very sorry that it happened to you.

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