Maybe I'm getting on my therapist's nerves?

ClaireB · Feb 02, 2008 at 06:56 PM

Lately I have sensed that my T may be tired of me. Last Tues we talked for 30 min and she was trying to wrap up the session. I've noticed this the last couple of times we've talked. My feelings are hurt, and I start feeling like maybe this is her way of telling me she is annoyed with me or wanting the relationship to end. I cancelled my next appointment. The last thing I want is to be the obnoxious, tiring client that the therapist dreads talking to. I don't really know what to do about this because it's not like she can say, "Yes, Claire you are correct I am quite sick of you."

Perna · Feb 02, 2008 at 07:07 PM

Clair, how long is your session supposed to be? Sounds like she's summing up the session and making sure you both are on the same page, not trying to get you out of there! I wish my T had summed up things more often. I saw her for a back-to-back session of 100 minutes and if you're discussing things that long it's easy to forget what went on sometimes.

Your T can and probably would say if she didn't think you were progressing, she'd say she didn't think she could help you anymore, she wouldn't be obnoxious. I don't think you are getting on her nerves, she may not know where you "are" and how much you are aware of and is trying to check with you. I would ask her about your impressions, that is what therapy is for, to make sure we don't keep making old mistakes in present day relationships. Tell her you feel rushed and like she's ending the session early and see what she says.

lauren_helene · Feb 05, 2008 at 01:32 PM

I would tell her exactly what you wrote here. Believe it or not, it works. I've done it with my T.

I get that puzzled look too like huh? what do you mean? then I realize it is me projecting on him....I'm not saying you are doing this but at least give her the chance to respond and then go from there.

ClaireB · Feb 14, 2008 at 01:27 AM

I appreciate your responses. I did elect to sort of take a break for a while - I know at some point I need to talk to her about it. I know my thinking is pretty irrational and unfair. She has many, many times talked to me longer than the scheduled appointment (an hour) and so it's kind of ridiculous for me to get worked up over her cutting the session short. I guess I'm just always afraid that this relationship is going to come crashing down on me like the other one did, so I'm fovever on the look for a sign that that's about to happen.

Kiya · Feb 14, 2008 at 01:48 AM

Well, you're paying for an hour... so the session shouldn't be short without your permission or an explanation. Can you call her to tell her what you are experiencing and why you're cancelling next time? That way the issue isn't hanging, unresolved, for a long period of time.

Best!! kiya

Feb 14, 2008 at 09:35 AM

I agree with Kiya. It's best to resolve the issue so it isn't hanging over your head. Best of luck!

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