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Always in This Twilight
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#61
Also thinking of you, Kit, and hoping you're doing OK.
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#62
I think she has family staying at the moment, looking at her posts in other places on here.
She might not have much chance to be online at the moment. __________________ 'Somewhere up above the great divide Where the sky is wide, and the clouds are few A man can see his way clear to the light 'You have all the grace you need for today, and today is all that matters.' - Steve Austin |
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#63
Thank you everyone for your support.
New T texted me on Friday after I let her know about the text messages with former T. New T said Oh Kit, I'm so sorry! It is not your job to comfort or make the other therapist feel better about the situation. Please do not take on this burden. Unfortunately, she is being inappropriate. Perhaps you should block her. It seems that continued contact fom her is detrimental to you. Then on Saturday morning New T texted me to check on me. She said Good morning, Kit, Just checking on you. How are you doing? I said. Hi T. I am hanging in there. No self harm. I am pretty depressed but my sister is here and we have been talking wedding stuff for 3 hours. It makes me a bit sad because I will probably never be able to get married but I am happy for her. I told three of my friends that I was feeling suicidal. Two prayed for me. I did not hear from the third. Today I just feel down and depressed but I am trying to just keep focused on my sister's joy. Thanks for checking. Have a wonderful weekend. New T said: Okay...does knowing that they are praying for you help? Me: Not a lot. But it encourages me to pray for myself which I am not good at. trigger for Christianity
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Then I said So today, while I still feel depressed and even oppressed by this darkness, I don't feel the same suicidal feelings. They might come back, probably they will, and I will have to deal with them. But for now, I am not alone in the muck and the mire in the bottom of the pit. New T said: Yes, I can see how that could work for a little while. I'm glad there is at least some light down there for you. Remember you are worthy, you are loved, and you are important! No matter what the negative thoughts say! I said: Thanks! I feel good that new T reached out to me in what I feel was an appropriate way. I haven't blocked old T. I probably should but IDK I still care about her. So I'm conflicted. In one of former T's texts she said, "I hope you get the miracle you need." Which sucked because it makes it sound like 1) I don't deserve to get better because a miracle is something you don't deserve, and 2) It's practically impossible for me to get better. That is still weighing on me and I am having trouble processing it. Having my sister and three of her children here this weekend helped, although after about 7 hours I got a bit tired of the wedding stuff and needed to chill and relax so I went home with my Dad and Mom and my Sister's son while the girls and my sister continued to shop. I'm trying to be supportive of the wedding but feeling like crap this weekend and trying to be all happy for my sister took it's toll. Tomorrow I have an appointment with new T. Hopefully we can process a bit more if needed. I am not in as much of a crisis now. I still feel really depressed though. Just one day at a time. I am so thankful for all of you here! Thanks so much for your care and support during this time! HUGS Kit __________________ Dum Spiro Spero IC XC NIKA |
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#64
Ex-T has a knack for making you feel like crap.
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#65
Everything a T does should be in line with helping you. Ex T is being unprofessional, narcissistic and manipulative by saying no one will care like she does. I mean, I hope she's right because if this is "care" then who needs it? This is twisted and wrong. New T sounds like her contact is about helping you and that is fantastic.
You are trying so hard, with everything you have , to stay alive and healthy and everything that does not serve that goal is merely noise to be drowned out. You could try blocking ex T as a trial to see how you feel. Try for 24 hours then 48 and just see if at the end of the trial period you feel better or worse for having done it. I blocked a toxic person thinking I would unblock them in a week but the peace I felt meant I never unblocked them. |
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#66
I'm so glad you've checked in, Kit. I totally understand your feelings about blocking/not blocking ex-t. I really like Jane's idea...sometimes a short-term block can really let us know where we stand. (((HUGGSSS)))
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#67
Kit,
What you wrote about light and darkness reminded me of a quote L and I use from Sandra King. We now always use the phrases like "letting the light shine in". Maybe this will help you? Anyways, I am so so glad you seem to have a great new T. She seems like she's warm and caring and still has professional boundaries. __________________ "Odium became your opium..." ~Epica |
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#68
Thank you, Scarlet
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#69
This therapist needs to just shut up at this point. I can't believe the latest thing she's said. I understand why that would be hurtful to hear on multiple levels. I would probably be tempted to respond and tell her how the things she keeps saying are hurting you further, but I don't think it's a good idea to keep corresponding with her at this point.
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#70
I am so sorry that she reached out to you again. She should not have.
If protection was your "issue," then why did she ask for it by sending you those texts and photos? She deliberately put you in a position where it was very likely that you would feel protective. Who wouldn't? I agree that blocking her might be necessary but I totally understand that you don't want to right now. The responses from your new therapist were wonderful and very appropriate. I am glad you found someone who can be helpful and not harmful. |
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#71
Sending more hugs, Kit
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#72
Thank you Artie.
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#73
Hey Kit,
First I want to own that I have only read your posts in this thread due to my own drama. I am so sorry you are going through this. It is not fair or right. If you cannot have a different relationship with ex T than the therapeutic one then she needs to have the self discipline to hold her end of the boundary. That has been a huge theme in my world right now... needing to hold people accountable for their side of the boundary. I am glad that new T seems to be able to offer support and clarity through all of this. What has helped me in similar situations recently is becoming even more clear on where MY boundary is... even with Awesome T and his retirement... where are my boundaries with all of it and as much as I hate it... what do I need from him, from the relationship, from our work together. Hang in there. __________________ There’s been many a crooked path that has landed me here Tired, broken and wearing rags Wild eyed with fear -Blackmoores Night |
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