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Grand Poohbah
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Mar 01, 2023 at 02:14 PM
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Yesterday was our "symbolic" goodbye session. i brought him a gift, we talked about normal stuff and goodbye stuff... and then i asked him for a hug at the end of the session, and when we got to it, he did nothing or said nothing. i was craving for a sign that he wanted to hug me but he... he just wanted me to go out of there.
i wonder why since we have hugged a few times in the past. why are things so difficult with him? now i childishly feel like quitting for good, to show him how much he hurt me. i dont understand WHY, but i'll never touch that subject with him again. do you have any idea of why he wouldnt hug me? __________________ * Heaven is a place where Nothing Ever Happens - "Heaven" by Talking Heads * Death ends a life, Not a Relationship - Mitch Albom |
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Mar 01, 2023 at 03:02 PM
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I'm truly sorry. That's a rotten feeling and I would also be tempted to act out by quitting because of how much pain I'd feel. It impossible for me to know why you t didn't hug you, but I strongly suggest that you do bring up the subject in session. I know it'll be hard to do, but once you start talking the words will come.
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Mar 01, 2023 at 03:55 PM
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What sprung to mind when I read this was - maybe it’s nothing to do with you and he knew he had BO or something? Some men care about that
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Mar 01, 2023 at 10:58 PM
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I am very sorry about that, the same thing happened to me with a Therapist at our final session over 10 years ago, and I am still hurt and upset about it. It still affects me even to this day.
Interesting that you hugged before. I never tried to hug that Therapist before the final session and when she told me that she didn't do hugs I felt very hurt and upset. I do now ask about hugging a few weeks before a final session but I have always told myself that if they say they don't do them that I will just walk out and end the Therapy right than and there, such a situation has yet to occur. I honestly don't know why a Therapist wouldn't want to hug you at the last session but it has happened to me before. __________________ COVID-19 Survivor- 4/26/2022 |
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Mar 03, 2023 at 05:17 AM
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My T won't hug me either. At this point, I know it's not my problem...so it must be his! Not sure if it's the same for your T. They say they don't have issues etc, but they definitely do. I completely understand not wanting to bring it up with them again, I've been silent on the topic for years now lol.
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