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Attention Mar 06, 2023 at 11:06 PM
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i found out on wednesday that my t is leaving/quitting, 'care transition' they called it. i hadn't been in to see them in a while since i'm recovering from surgery. so i was kinda blind-sided when i read their email. i saw the email a week after it was sent, basically giving me 9 days notice!


part 1 -> how to do my final session with them tomorrow??
should i just pretend things are 'fine', as to put their mind at ease - so they don't worry? which i could lie my ***** off doing and pass it off. OR do i just down play things a little, not to hint at how 'challenging' things have been for me lately? the honest truth is OFF the table, as that would be a tad scary.


part 2 -> how to continue on?
this is a major blow for me, not gonna lie! and i'm not sure yet how devastating/damaging this will be. i'm a strong introvert and have massive trust issues. and somehow over time i developed some trust with this t. something like that just can't be replaced on a dime!
and i'm pretty nervous about what this will do to me. i've already been pulling back quite a bit....
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Default Mar 07, 2023 at 12:50 AM
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I know you said the honest truth is off the table... However, it's my opinion that the truth is the best. It's the number 1 priority in my therapy. Actually, it'swhy my last therapist and current therapist chose to work with me. Why are you scared about being honest?

As for what to do next... again my opinion is to find another T asap especially if you feel you'll need help. Even if the T is not "the one", they might be useful in the short-term. Ask your T for referrals.

When my ex-T abandoned me, I quickly sought another T because I knew I needed help especially keeping myself safe. First T didn't work out. Only saw her twice. Second T I didn't like at first. But I stuck it out with her because I couldn't seem to find anyone else. Overtime, our relationship grew, and she wound up being one of the best Ts I've ever had.

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I know you said the honest truth is off the table... However, it's my opinion that the truth is the best. It's the number 1 priority in my therapy. Actually, it'swhy my last therapist and current therapist chose to work with me. Why are you scared about being honest?

As for what to do next... again my opinion is to find another T asap especially if you feel you'll need help. Even if the T is not "the one", they might be useful in the short-term. Ask your T for referrals.

When my ex-T abandoned me, I quickly sought another T because I knew I needed help especially keeping myself safe. First T didn't work out. Only saw her twice. Second T I didn't like at first. But I stuck it out with her because I couldn't seem to find anyone else. Overtime, our relationship grew, and she wound up being one of the best Ts I've ever had.

I wish you luck!
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Default Mar 07, 2023 at 09:39 AM
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My therapy ended abruptly after 20yrs due to covid..
This was 3yrs ago. To be honest it felt like the end of the world. I felt disappointed in T. Felt she wasn't as caring as she'd said. Felt it had all been a lie.
Now 3yrs on? It's not the end of the world. Yes there's still some hurt left. But I'm not feeling it was all a lie and I've realised that I'm discovering more about who I am now after this time away. I was so obsessed with T that I lived my life through her. Now I'm able to feel disappointment in myself. I don't Have to keep trying to be perfect.

Sometimes more can be had away from a relationship.

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I'm sorry this happened to you! I think you should go to the session with an open mind and talk what ever you feel like at the moment. And also I hope you will find a new therapist soon enough.
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Hi, jrae! It's so good to hear from you. I have worried about you. I'm wishing you all the best. And love the the kitties!

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