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#101
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#103
Well today was an eventful day for me. I tried to donate Plasma for the first time since early November but my heart rate was too high. So I decided to dash instead and nearly got hit by a car at least 2 or 3 times. Fortunately I didn't get hit but I couldn't help but wonder that one day I may not be so lucky.
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#104
RT: Eek! That’s scary.
LT-Yeah he knew I took off of work. I do plan on telling him that I was supposed to start next week, but can’t due to severe pain. That is a month without income. I am hoping he does an MRI. In a perfect world, I would get pain meds. I know that won’t happen, though. |
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#105
I know the last time I think the car came out of nowhere, since I didn't see it at all before trying to turn. Fortunately there were no cars in the opposite direction lane so they were able to drive around me.
The area I dashed in was an area that I don't typically dash in and only dashed there because it was near the place where I tried to donate Plasma at today. __________________ COVID-19 Survivor- 4/26/2022 |
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#106
What means dash?
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#107
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#108
How do you start quitting an addiction? I'm trying to quit smoking again. I did it before for 9 months. Then because of the stress of the move last May, I started again. Quitting has been so hard. I quit for a couple of hours and then I have to have another one. I've tried all the typical ways: cold turkey, patch, nose spray, lozenge, and even vaping. Cold turkey worked last time. I don't even think it's about the nicotine.
I need to be done with it. I want to be done with it. Yet when I try, my anxiety goes up, and I get antsy. Then I almost literally get paralyzed. I can't move. I just sit there going over everything I could do, but I don't. I'm frustrated with myself. If only I can make it past the first few days. So far, the longest I've gone is 12 hours, and that was sleeping through the night. Any help? Advice? __________________ "Odium became your opium..." ~Epica |
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#109
I never smoked myself - but my H quit like 26 years ago by chewing gum - a LOT of gum. Juicy Fruit if memory serves. Wishing you the best in quitting!
Addictions are so hard to break. I'm working on detoxing from sugar this week - ugh. |
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#110
So I'd been doing pretty well not to think about this all week since I made the appointment - but I have a dermatologist appt tomorrow morning cuz I need to get a spot of sun damage on my arm looked at. I have lots of sun damage on my arms cuz I used to be a lifeguard umpteen years ago - outdoor pools at girl scout camps and a couple of different neighborhood pools and was constantly getting sunburned. Back in those days we freakin' did it on purpose, slathering on that coconut-smelling suntan oil. Well, I did protect my nose with zinc oxide but the rest of me would get so sunburned. ANYwho, I have a spot on my arm that has recently changed appearance and I've always heard if they change, you should get 'em checked out so I'm going in tomorrow morning and tonight I'm starting to get nervous about it!
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#111
Hopefully it's nothing, Artie. It's freaking hard to get a dermatologist appointment here. I had to make one last fall for April. It was something on my scalp I wanted to get looked at, but the scab has now fallen off and I can't decide if I should still go or not because I can't see it.
I'm amazed how we used to slather ourselves with oil knowing what we know now. Makes you wonder what kind of stuff we're doing today that seems totally innocent that will one day be a known danger. |
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#112
i can not handle the pain anymore. my appointment with the doctor is only 7 hours away, but feels like a lifetime. I barely can make it the 20 feet to the bathroom. How am I going to get myself there? There is so much walking involved to get to his office.
I need pain relief so bad. |
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#113
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I struggle with alcohol abuse. I don't have a solution, but one thing that I've read in a therapeutic manual for BPD which I haven't read anywhere else (it did help me, but not fix it all for me): give your addiction a name, like "Peter" or something, and imagine it as a separate entity from yourself, like a bad angle sitting on your shoulder or something like that. Whenever you feel the urge to use or get supplies or whatever, you then address "Peter" directly, by name, in your head and tell him that no, this is bad advice and tell him off for it. As far as I remember, you may even insult him. It sounds silly, but it helps with controlling the urges some. Other than that I find it helps to have a safe environment that doesn't trigger me, together with lots of things to do. And focus on small achievements. It's normal to relapse, don't beat yourself up if you do, instead lift yourself up if you manage to go a day without or whatever the time frame is for you. There's also apps (they are often marketed for alcoholics, but they often let you choose which thing you're actually struggling with and adjust for that) that try to help. The one I used before had a small section where you could (if you wanted to) post your story of the day and you could read other people's experiences. It would also give you little badges for achievements like one day sober or one week, one month and so on, to give you some motivation. Motivation in general is something that works well for me, like saying "if I don't drink for one week, I will treat myself to a chocolate bar". |
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#114
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#116
Scarlett- I'm not a smoker but I think the gradual winding down over a set period of time would help you better in the long term. I would suggest to carry on as you are for the first week but just become more aware.
Day 1: Make a note of how many you smoke a day right now. Take note of the times. More in the morning or evening. What were you feeling beforehand? Week 1: Drop just one cigarette if you can and carry on from there. One less a week at a time or every 2 weeks. You need to start a new habit whilst giving up the old. What else do you enjoy? __________________ Last edited by Lemoncake; Mar 24, 2023 at 11:12 AM.. |
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#117
So putting this out there even though it is cringe. I emailed a new female therapist yesterday. The woman my hair stylist has gone to for the past three years.
Fin has done nothing wrong and has been exceptionally kind and lovely. I've been happier. Both my parents are blocked on Whatsapp. We tackled a lot of stuff at the start. We just agreed to a six week block and I just paid for the first three sessions- but my brain has started the thing I did with Rob. I already have a lot of shame about my sexuality, but right now I just want to hide away from him. A) Run away B) Stay and talk about it with him if it comes up . Background: he is a happily married gay man. __________________ Last edited by Lemoncake; Mar 24, 2023 at 08:30 AM.. |
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#118
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If it were me, and as hard as it was for you to get the appointment, I think I'd still go, just for my own peace of mind even if you can't see anything anymore. |
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I already know he will respond- like he has all the other times before. With a bucket load of compassion. Currently crying about it now. lol will decided later. __________________ |
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