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#121
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Luna's offical mini me.
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#122
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Yes I do think he would be gentle and careful with it. He is also highly perceptive, so I wouldn't be surprised if he might already know. This relationship overall feels a lot healthier and more secure. There have been no ruptures or large ups and downs- just a lot of consistency and care. (No dramas about emails either!!) __________________ "Love, like life, flows Through the heart. Feel the thrill of the flow And say nothing." |
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Wise Elder
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#123
Lemon - Switching to another therapist, even female, might not help with romantic feelings towards your T. I am straight and so is L. I've had sexual fantasies about her, and am extremely jealous of her H. I want that intimacy and time with her! I've told her this and she welcomes it. She never makes me feel ashamed or bad for any of my feelings. We just work through them when they come up.
It might be beneficial to try to work through these thoughts and feelings you're having towards your T. Maybe this will be a safe place to explore your sexuality whoch is why these feelings are coming out? __________________ "Odium became your opium..." ~Epica |
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Elder
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#124
Hi Lemon-Thank you for your concern! I eventually fell asleep anyway. I went to the ortho doc today, and he told me the next step is surgery. I need to get an MRI done, and follow up on three weeks. He put me on his schedule for the surgery (in may) but I can cancel.
It is 4 weeks off my feet, then a boot. I have no more FMLA left. I also can’t go another month with no income, even if that’s possible. I asked if they can prescribe anything for the pain, but he said no. I guess I just suffer. |
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Luna's offical mini me.
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#125
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What's been going for me in the background is that I've been getting a lot of male attention, more so then I'm used to without even trying. I was asked out, but turned that person down without having a real reason. I spoke to him about why I had said "no" only this week when we were alone and walking together. We did also randomly spot each other at the shopping centre too on thursday and we walked around buying sun cream. I know I could easily date him, but I don't want to hurt him when I don't even know what I want.
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__________________ "Love, like life, flows Through the heart. Feel the thrill of the flow And say nothing." Last edited by Lemoncake; Mar 24, 2023 at 01:50 PM.. |
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Writing my way through...
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#126
Hugs, Lemoncake.
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Writing my way through...
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#127
I'm back from the dermatologist and running a couple of errands. All is well with the spot on my arm, he said it's nothing dangerous and should never turn into anything dangerous so that made me feel relieved. I also had him look at my heels because they are so extremely dry and cracked that it hurts to walk on them sometimes; he said it's a form of eczema and prescribed a cream that he said should help clear it up in 6 weeks. Huh, well I guess that's why regular lotion isn't helping.
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Luna's offical mini me.
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#128
__________________ "Love, like life, flows Through the heart. Feel the thrill of the flow And say nothing." |
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Writing my way through...
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#129
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Writing my way through...
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#130
I'll be bringing a pan full of those flakes for the mill with me this afternoon... one of those is that my 5 typed pages of writing from this past week is very generously peppered with F-bombs. And my writing today is "why so many F-bombs, Artie?!" I don't have the answer, yet.
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#131
So so so so so depressed lately. I don't know how I can keep going on. I feel like I am dragging myself along the sidewalk with my fingernails, barely inching forward. I cannot see the light at the end of the tunnel because the tunnel is apparently under the water and is never going to end. My pdoc is booked. My GP just says call your pdoc. I've texted my T every single day this week. (Yeah, that feels pathetic, I know). Really no clue how to keep going. I've given up on the DBT books for now because I have no focus for them. I'm not suicidal. I'm just seriously depressed. It is so difficult.
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#132
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Do you also wear socks or mainly sandals in Arizona? __________________ "Love, like life, flows Through the heart. Feel the thrill of the flow And say nothing." |
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Always in This Twilight
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#133
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So glad the spot was nothing of concern! |
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Always in This Twilight
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#134
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Hugs, Kit. I hope you can start to feel better. Could some sort of more intensive program help? |
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Always in This Twilight
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#135
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Hugs, Lemon. This seems like good stuff to talk about with your current T, Fin. Ir sounds like he could help you with this. |
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#136
I’m currently drafting the running away message I am going to send him.
Perhaps I won’t send it. I have all WhatsApp notifications turned off so I never get the pings at the top of my screen. He might not have done that though and it’s already 8.45pm here. So I wouldn’t want to send it late at night, but would wait until early Monday morning to send it. No good for a Tuesday session- I’ve already paid for. __________________ "Love, like life, flows Through the heart. Feel the thrill of the flow And say nothing." Last edited by Lemoncake; Mar 24, 2023 at 03:58 PM.. |
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Always in This Twilight
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#137
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Hope it's going/went well, Artie! I also shared some writing with Dr. T today. I'm taking this online memoir course and turned in my first assignment. It was supposed to be about a "first." Because I know the topic of my memoir I ended up writing about when I first met Dr. T. I gave him a slightly edited version to read in session today (left a couple things out). I was anxious about it, but it led to an interesting discussion about where I was at the start of therapy with him vs. now, like he mentioned some positive changes he's seen in me (that I agree with). He also said that he thinks writing is an important creative outlet for me and that it can give me a sense of purpose. When I left, he thanked me for sharing my writing with him. As I was walking out the door, he said, "Keep writing!" I'm supposed to get feedback from the instructor early next week--nervous! I realized it's the first time in a very long time that I've submitted any sort of writing to anyone for critique, particularly for something this personal (I used to write newspaper articles and columns eons ago) |
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#138
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Thanks for the hugs! __________________ Dum Spiro Spero IC XC NIKA |
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Luna's offical mini me.
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#139
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We tried everything. I bought him CBD drinks. He had lots of meat and omega 3,6 +9 vitamins. He was taking tumeric in milk. I did massages for him with hot stones I got from Amazon. The massage bar was Lush’s Wiccy Magic with peppermint oil. We also did hot bath soaks with Epsom salts. My grandfather had a heated massage foot machine which he used. Perhaps you could hire a TENs machine? Are you eligible for any state/ government benefits if you are too sick to work? __________________ "Love, like life, flows Through the heart. Feel the thrill of the flow And say nothing." |
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#140
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Could you do more more sessions with your T? __________________ "Love, like life, flows Through the heart. Feel the thrill of the flow And say nothing." |
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