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Mar 27, 2023 at 08:54 PM
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It's normal to want to know more about our therapists. At one point of the therapy relationship I really had to really try hard to resist the urge to go searching for information. I did do a generic google search but never really saw anything other than the website and a few google reviews and never went further than the first page . I had a previous therapist who I had alot of intense feelings for who used to have a generic twitter and facebook page where they would post therapy articles and I found that weirdly really helpful in helping to ward off the urge to know more. It somehow gave me a sense of knowing they were there somewhere which someone lessened that urge to search. It also gave me a slight glimpse into their thought space and was weirdly comforting reading the articles knowing that they had read them too and found them interesting enough to share.
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Mar 27, 2023 at 10:57 PM
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I did that with previous Therapists long ago but probably haven't done it in close to 10 years.
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Mar 28, 2023 at 03:03 PM
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I think it’s normal to be curious about these people we spill everything to. It’s such a one sided relationship it’s only natural to want to know a bit more!
If it was me I would say nothing in this particular situation even though I find being upfront and honest much better. It’s just not the right time, I feel, especially since it was a family members page and not hers. I understand you feeling like your problems don’t compare and I’d probably feel the same but it will be ok and you could still have a good session ❤️❤️ |
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Mar 28, 2023 at 05:43 PM
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T has still not replied to my email after sending a follow up yesterday…
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Mar 28, 2023 at 05:45 PM
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Mar 28, 2023 at 07:13 PM
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Mar 31, 2023 at 10:49 PM
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So T ended up replying an offering me a session time but unfortunately I wasn’t able to make it work so I just saw her at my usual time which was today.
The session was horrible. I tried to talk about all the other things that have been on my mind but I struggled to open up. I felt disconnected from T and I didn’t know how to ask for what I needed. There were a lot of silences. T asked me several times if I had any feelings about the cancellation and her delayed email response but I didn’t know what to say without mentioning the fact that I knew why she cancelled. I feel like I wasted the session and just feel worse than before. I now have to suffer another week alone until I see her again. I don’t know if I should email her and ask if I can book in an extra session next week. I feel embarrassed to do so and I worry I’m just going to waste that one too. |
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Apr 02, 2023 at 02:12 PM
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Oh I’m sorry! That is hard
I’m not sure what to say. Do you think you’ll be able to open up about the other things in your next session? Or will you have to think about coming clean fully? I hate the feelings that come with not being 100% honest so I feel for you ❤️❤️ |
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Apr 02, 2023 at 02:13 PM
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I'm sorry your session went so poorly. I know what it feels like to have that "I wasted a session" feeling, and it sucks. I think you should go ahead an ask for an extra session. I doubt she'd be surprised, as you mentioned all the silences. And she'd likely be understanding about it. So I think it's worth at least asking.
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Apr 03, 2023 at 09:00 PM
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So I emailed my T Saturday night asking if I could book in an extra session next week. Obviously I wasn’t expecting a reply on Sunday but it is now Tuesday and still nothing. I now have family commitments on the day she usually has openings so I’m now in a bind where I can’t actually organise anything. I have sent a follow up email today along her to let me know today if she has any availability. Stating to get annoyed now as it feels like a can’t rely on her in times of need.
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Apr 04, 2023 at 05:40 AM
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Ugh, that's really frustrating that you haven't heard back. Even if she's busy, it should only take a minute for her to look at her calendar and see whether she has anything. It's good you sent a follow-up--it's also possible she missed your email somehow or thought she'd replied and didn't. I hope you hear from her soon and can have an extra session.
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Apr 05, 2023 at 03:51 AM
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Good news everyone! I had a session tonight and told my T that I had looked her up on social media. She wasn’t mad at all and seemed genuinely curious about how I found her, what I found out and how I felt about it. I was extremely reluctant to tell her but she kept asking me questions until she finally guessed what it was. I told her how sorry I was both about what had happened and the fact that I found out. She said it wasn’t that she didn’t want me to know or I wasn’t allowed to know. I said I really didn’t want to find out something like that but I stumbled upon it during one of my searches. This all happened towards the end of the session but we’re going to talk more about it on Saturday when I next see her. I’m very relieved!
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Apr 05, 2023 at 06:27 AM
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Oh, I'm so glad you were able to talk about it and that she was so understanding! T's just vary so much in that area. I hope your continued discussion about it goes well.
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Apr 05, 2023 at 10:21 AM
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I'm also glad it went well!
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