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Default Apr 29, 2023 at 01:52 PM
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We've been seeing a couples therapist for a while for a specific problem. I hit a breaking point in our last session and really tried to open up about how negatively my s.o has made me feel, and he immediately went on the offensive and tried to re-write what I was saying, acted like I was lying, and prevented me from returning to the topic. Our therapist asked to see him individually for the next session at the end. Since then, he has been refusing to interact with me besides giving one-word answers/replies to anything I say. I tried to text our therapist outside of the group chat. I asked if it was ok if I shared something that I noticed during our session....no response. Desperate, I texted our therapist again the next day, and today...no response. Not only that, but it only shows my first message as being delivered, not the second and third. I texted him on business days, during business hours, except for the first message which was the evening after our session.


I know that my fiance and our therapist have good rapport and text each other/send each other music videos. They have also exchanged gifts. I am just trying to understand why, with no explanation and not even a "Hey, I'm not comfortable that you contacted me outside of our sessions", our therapist blocked me as I am desperate for someone to hear me and see what I am seeing. I worry there is a massive conflict of interest now, and that I can no longer trust the input of our therapist.
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Default Apr 29, 2023 at 07:26 PM
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Sounds fishy to me. Not sure how a couple's therapist should act, but what you wrote sounds strange and disturbing. Am I wrong?

Do you think getting a new couples therapist would be a good idea? I wonder if it would be helpful for you to have your own therapist so that you are not at the mercy of this situation.

Perhaps I am missing something and am wrong here. I am often wrong about things.

So sorry for the distress you are suffering!
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Default May 01, 2023 at 12:46 PM
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I haven't been in couples therapy so I don't know what's normal, but it cannot feel good that this therapist seems to be more aligned with your fiance than with you. If you are uncomfortable with the situation then it needs to change. That might mean you getting your own therapist, the two of you getting a new couples therapist, or discontinuing couples therapy while you both pursue individual therapy separately. If nothing else you should certainly discuss it in the next group session.
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