Couch 244: Great Expectations

unaluna · Jun 04, 2023 at 10:38 AM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

...Between age 30-35.

That IS older for a woman. They used to call it a geriatric pregnancy. Then women got mad at being called old and they had to stop.

LostOnTheTrail · Jun 04, 2023 at 10:46 AM

So many feelings today, and the difficult day isn't even here yet.

Possible trigger:

Tomorrow marks two years since my friend Steve ended his life, but I didn't find out until five days later...so that's its own kind of liminal space.

LonesomeTonight · Jun 04, 2023 at 10:53 AM

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Originally Posted by unaluna

That IS older for a woman. They used to call it a geriatric pregnancy. Then women got mad at being called old and they had to stop.

35 is considered geriatric, I think, or whatever term is used now. More tests and more closely monitored. I had D at 34, so I just missed the cutoff for that.

LonesomeTonight · Jun 04, 2023 at 10:54 AM

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Originally Posted by LostOnTheTrail

So many feelings today, and the difficult day isn't even here yet.

Possible trigger:

Tomorrow marks two years since my friend Steve ended his life, but I didn't find out until five days later...so that's its own kind of liminal space.

Hugs, Lost. Take it easy on yourself this week.

LonesomeTonight · Jun 04, 2023 at 11:08 AM

Finally got a negative Covid antigen test today (I know you Brits have a different name for them but forget what it is), on Day 9 after testing positive (I've felt totally fine since Tuesday). I feel like I can finally stop masking around the house now. And also see Dr. T in person tomorrow. He said Friday that he was fine with my coming in tomorrow if I was still testing positive, as it would be Day 10, but I felt a bit uncertain about it. (I guess I could have gone and worn a mask.)

I also feel better about meeting my parents outside for an early dinner today. They seemed fine with it either way, and outside is pretty low-risk. But I was a little unsure, and everything I found online has seemed so mixed regarding whether someone is still contagious if they're testing positive 9 or 10 days out.

I may take another tomorrow morning just to be safe...

LostOnTheTrail · Jun 04, 2023 at 11:49 AM

That's great news, LT.

Lateral flow tests are rough, so I'm glad you only need to do one more.

HUGS,

Lost

Lemoncake · Jun 04, 2023 at 12:39 PM

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Originally Posted by ArtieTheSequal

just saw the addition to your post. i'm glad the session with Fin went so well. I hope that you are giving yourself grace to take all the time you need before and/or if you decide to go back. And am also glad to hear that you've stopped hating yourself.

re: the hawaii fund - I think I'm going to be putting it instead toward a trip to Germany to visit my brother as he's on his way there now for his last 3-year (I think?) army assignment. But that's fine with me, because Germany is another place I have always wanted to go as I am part German (my favorite grandma's parents I think were born there. either her parents or her grandparents can't remember rn).

Thanks for the reply art. The main reason I'm pausing is just because of finances. I do think we could work it out and I'm glad.

Art you kept being half German a secret!

Could you do 90:10% on the holiday fund so that the other one would still be building up even if it was slowly.

Lemoncake · Jun 04, 2023 at 12:40 PM

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Originally Posted by LostOnTheTrail

So many feelings today, and the difficult day isn't even here yet.

Possible trigger:

Tomorrow marks two years since my friend Steve ended his life, but I didn't find out until five days later...so that's its own kind of liminal space.

Sending you love Lost.

Hope you also have support around you right now.

ArtieTheSequal · Jun 04, 2023 at 12:44 PM

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Originally Posted by unaluna

I was a big fan too. I think almost any show with lots of siblings. When my brother got engaged (like 40 years ago!), i blurted out, "i always wanted a little sister!" Boy did she shoot eye daggers at me! She was one of 6 sisters and was NOT interested in more! I wasnt even aware of feeling that way, tbh.

It's on Tubi and is actually free. I started watching season 1 last night. I did not remember how stern and almost mean the dad was back then! I'd completely forgotten that Mark Hamill played David in the first episode.

ArtieTheSequal · Jun 04, 2023 at 01:10 PM

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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight

Finally got a negative Covid antigen test today (I know you Brits have a different name for them but forget what it is), on Day 9 after testing positive (I've felt totally fine since Tuesday). I feel like I can finally stop masking around the house now. And also see Dr. T in person tomorrow. He said Friday that he was fine with my coming in tomorrow if I was still testing positive, as it would be Day 10, but I felt a bit uncertain about it. (I guess I could have gone and worn a mask.)

I also feel better about meeting my parents outside for an early dinner today. They seemed fine with it either way, and outside is pretty low-risk. But I was a little unsure, and everything I found online has seemed so mixed regarding whether someone is still contagious if they're testing positive 9 or 10 days out.

I may take another tomorrow morning just to be safe...

that's good news, LT. Hope you continue feeling better & testing negative.

unaluna · Jun 04, 2023 at 01:28 PM

I ordered my first set of home covid tests. But im gonna go get the bivalent shot pretty soon.

atisketatasket · Jun 04, 2023 at 02:22 PM

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Originally Posted by unaluna

That IS older for a woman. They used to call it a geriatric pregnancy. Then women got mad at being called old and they had to stop.

You’re dating yourself back to the days when women didn’t have careers and just popped out kids.

Lemoncake · Jun 04, 2023 at 02:25 PM

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Originally Posted by unaluna

I ordered my first set of home covid tests. But im gonna go get the bivalent shot pretty soon.

When did you last have your other doses?

ElectricManatee · Jun 04, 2023 at 04:41 PM

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Originally Posted by unaluna

That IS older for a woman. They used to call it a geriatric pregnancy. Then women got mad at being called old and they had to stop.

Please. We prefer the term "advanced maternal age."

Wait, no, I doubt anybody likes being called that....

LonesomeTonight · Jun 04, 2023 at 05:06 PM

I can't even right now. Just had dinner with my parents and mentioned the camps that D is in this summer. One is a karate camp. My mom: "We were talking and think maybe she shouldn't be in the karate camp. We think that might be where she learned to kick people."

It took me some time to formulate an answer to that. Like, what? Guess we'd better unenroll her from that archery camp, too, so she doesn't start shooting people with arrows! (She is not actually in an archery camp, but they do offer them through the county.)

And thanks for the well wishes!

LonesomeTonight · Jun 04, 2023 at 05:07 PM

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Originally Posted by ElectricManatee

Please. We prefer the term "advanced maternal age."

Wait, no, I doubt anybody likes being called that....

Right, I think that's what it's called for up to 40. A friend was pregnant at like 42, and they called *that* geriatric maternal age. Like she's 65 or something.

ArtieTheSequal · Jun 04, 2023 at 05:21 PM

Just found an article talking about "Advanced maternal age (AMA) is the medical term used to describe pregnancy in people age 35 and older." I was 36 when my son was born, so I guess I qualified as such - I was on bed rest for the last month of my pregnancy due to risks.

ScarletPimpernel · Jun 04, 2023 at 05:33 PM

If I ever get pregnant, I'd be consider high risk from the start.

From the diabetes, psych drugs, and age.

unaluna · Jun 04, 2023 at 05:34 PM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

You’re dating yourself back to the days when women didn’t have careers and just popped out kids.

I'm the Couch herstorian.

wheeler · Jun 04, 2023 at 05:46 PM

I was 40 when I had my daughter. No one ever said ‘geriatric pregnancy’’ to me…or at least to my face. I had a normal pregnancy without any issues.

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unaluna Elder Harridan x-hankster Member Since Jun 2011 Location: Milan/Michigan Posts: 39,861 (SuperPoster!) 12 66.4k hugs given	Jun 04, 2023 at 01:28 PM #331 I ordered my first set of home covid tests. But im gonna go get the bivalent shot pretty soon.

ArtieTheSequal Writing my way through... Member Since Feb 2020 Location: In the desert Posts: 7,232 (SuperPoster!) 4 5,760 hugs given	Jun 04, 2023 at 05:21 PM #337 Just found an article talking about "Advanced maternal age (AMA) is the medical term used to describe pregnancy in people age 35 and older." I was 36 when my son was born, so I guess I qualified as such - I was on bed rest for the last month of my pregnancy due to risks.

ScarletPimpernel Wise Elder Member Since Nov 2013 Location: US Posts: 8,407 (SuperPoster!) 10 6,414 hugs given	Jun 04, 2023 at 05:33 PM #338 If I ever get pregnant, I'd be consider high risk from the start. From the diabetes, psych drugs, and age. __________________ "Odium became your opium..." ~Epica

wheeler Veteran Member Member Since Jan 2009 Posts: 541 15 102 hugs given	Jun 04, 2023 at 05:46 PM #340 I was 40 when I had my daughter. No one ever said ‘geriatric pregnancy’’ to me…or at least to my face. I had a normal pregnancy without any issues. __________________ wheeler